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Is it normal to constantly think about your future from the pressure of your family?

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Last Updated: 05/24/2021 at 11:16pm
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January 11th, 2015 9:17pm
Yes it's completely normal, especially in teens. Teenagers experience a lot of pressure from family's often prompting them to do well and focus on school and studying, however remember that you are your own person and only you can make decisions for yourself, so have a think about the future, create some goals and take some pressure off.
January 15th, 2015 2:37pm
Its normal if you are receiving pressure from your family. Because every decision made would make you think twice, cause you think whether it's yours to decide, or theirs based on the pressure they have given.
February 6th, 2015 2:08pm
It is completely normal, how ever do not let is consume you. You are your own person and what ever you do in life and how you reach your successes is down to you and the path you chose to take. When you want something enough you will make it your goal no matter what and your family should support you through the good and the bad. Its always key to remember, pressure from family usually comes because of how much they care for you, so convert that into a positive!
March 21st, 2015 10:38pm
It can be. If your family is putting pressure on you to do well, then you'll find yourself constantly assessing your future and asking yourself where you'll be if you don't meet your family's expectations.
April 26th, 2015 10:07am
Too much worrying or thinking about future will raise your anxiety level and one can't live in the present, so it's not normal. One might end up developing phobias by being scared of what holds in the future for him.
May 17th, 2015 9:09pm
Of course, that's absolutely normal. But even if it's normal, it can be very stressful and a reason to seek help or try to talk with the family about the pressure put on you.
September 15th, 2015 7:43pm
Yes. For me personally I do think that one of the very many things that cause us to think more about the future is the constant pressure your family gives you.
September 28th, 2015 12:57am
No, our work is to make goals and keep working to achieve it do not think about future when you achieve your goal your future will be bright automatically
November 2nd, 2015 3:12am
I believe that it normal for your family to pressure you and they might think they know what is best for you. I also beleive that you can listen to them but it up to you on how you should live your life.
November 30th, 2015 1:21pm
It is normal it may not seem very nice now but im sure your family only wants whats best for you but only you can decide what is best but it is good that you have support ,talk to your family let them know how you are feeling
December 1st, 2015 3:46pm
It is very normal. Family is a big part of our life and we can't help to feel pressurised by their expectation.
January 4th, 2016 1:27pm
Mindfulness helps you go home to the present. And every time you go there and recognize a condition of happiness that you have, happiness comes.
January 25th, 2016 9:08pm
Families always want the best for their children. They pressure you because they are trying to support you, and you thinking about it means you are trying to do your best for them. It's okay to think about your future, but try not to stress out about it too much. Do your best!
March 14th, 2016 3:27pm
It's absolutely normal. For most people, whether they are aware of this connection or not, your family is your rock. They're the foundation of your various perceptions & aspirations about yourself. Sometimes this can be a double-edged sword. Too much pressure from family can hinder your personal growth and exploration. And sometimes family doesn't have all the best intentions for you because they don't know you as much as you know yourself! I think it varies with every situation. Pressure from family (Or anyone close & important to you) can be good if it comes from a place of good intentions and most importantly, a place of love.
August 22nd, 2016 2:28am
When something is told too much to you, it definitely tends to get to your head. Always remember its really easy to loose yourself rather then finding your self. So stand firm to your foundations and what you believe in.
June 19th, 2017 11:25am
It is, your family always wants the best for you and sometimes they may not notice that they are putting so much pressure on you but they just want to make sure that you know what to do with your life so that they know that they can relax because you made a good life for yourself
January 30th, 2018 3:28am
Definitely, some people more than others. I was always pressured to look into going to college and getting a dream job that pays well, but in the end, it is about what you want to do with your life, what you would enjoy as a job. Your life is all about you, and that is all that matters. Do what you love, find enjoyment and get paid for what you love to do. Not everything out there that is fun, requires a college degree. What could also help is keeping yourself occupied with hobbies and things you enjoy, like hiking or going for a walk, or heck even hanging out with friends. Hope this helps!
May 24th, 2021 11:16pm
It is totally normal for your parents to constantly remind you about your future. It's their job to make sure you can support yourself one day. But if you ever feel overwhelmed or dressed out about it, there is nothing wrong with opening a line of communication to reassure them that you have a handle on your future and relieve some stress by talking about it. Your parents are trying to communicate their worry about you, and unfortunately, it feels pressuring to receive that constant reminder from them. But, yes, it is totally normal for them to be constantly reminding you. It shows that they care about you, your well-being, and that you will be able to take care of yourself when they are no longer there do so,