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Is it normal to look towards my parents and have an utter feeling of disgust of even being related to them?

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Last Updated: 11/27/2018 at 10:41am
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April 27th, 2018 8:53am
Yes sometimes we feel so disgusted and down because we are related to those who we are related. It is understandable because you don't just hate them without a reason. Maybe something\s they do\did is making you uncomfortable. Maybe they don't understand you as much.
April 29th, 2018 3:02am
Yes. I myself have often felt like I was born to the wrong parents! They just don't get me and I am forty years old! It might help you to remember that parents are people too. They are doing the best they can with the knowledge and resources they have. Sometimes that's all they have. And sometimes it's the resources and knowledge they have is next to nothing, but parents would never admit that to their kids. They would never admit that they don't always know what to do or how to do it, or what to say. They might not know how hurtful they're being or don't care because they are the authority figures. This can happen even after we grow up. You might never get an apology. Part of us growing up is realizing that shocker: our parents are not perfect. They are not superheroes or all knowing in any way. Let it go by reminding yourself of all this and work on improving the situation. How:Don't dwell on what they did to you. After all you can't control their behavior. Only your response to them. If push comes to shove, limit your interactions with them, cut them out of your life if it's really holding you back. Or just see them or interact with them for very short amounts of time. As soon as they make you feel uncomfortable feel free to leave or end the conversation. You know them best and you already know what they are going to do and say, so plan ahead. That's what I do. Good luck!
November 27th, 2018 10:41am
Yeah, based on saying, culture, society, etc. it isn't odd to look towards parents but in my opinion it must be subjective to how they behave. Not all parents are well wishers, they do have jealousy, they do extremely wrong things out of ego, rage with other family members, and many times they just find and customize their own irrational stories behind their irrational behaviours. I do not know the whole story, however, feeling of disgust doesn't help anyone. It is a hurtful feeling. If there is anyway you can recognize the reason and become nuetral that would be much more helpful to you.