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My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?

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Last Updated: 06/03/2022 at 1:24am
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Anonymous
December 23rd, 2021 6:04am
Short answer : YES. Parents shouldn't be engaging in such activities and it is horrible. Whether or not it's consensual it is still extremely wrong. Kindly inform other family members asap,get in contact with cps and don't be afraid of raising your voice against him. They might think you're naive and vulnerable but don't let them think that for too long. Be strong and fight hard against this. Please take care of yourself and remember that you aren't alone.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2022 4:00pm
If someone touches you inappropriately without your consent, it is sexual abuse. Sexual abuse can also happen in the form of pedophilia and/or incest. If this is happening, seek help from sexual abuse resources, a trusted adult or counselor/therapist, or contact the police. Sexual abuse can be a frightening thing to deal with, especially from a family member, someone you are supposed to trust. However, help is available in several ways, and you are never alone. Abusers typically manipulate or gaslight their victims into thinking that what they are doing isn't abuse, and often scare them away from the idea of getting help. However, sexual abuse is horrific and wrong, and help is always available.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2022 2:27am
If the touching is inappropriate and sexual in nature this is considered sexual abuse. If you are feeling uncomfortable or want it to stop or have requested for it to stop, then these are signs that it is sexual abuse. Have you requested for it to stop or have you attempted to reach out to a professional to gain some perspective if it maybe sexual abuse? I also suggest looking up the signs of sexual abuse and seeing if you feel like any of them resignate with you personally. If you have someone you trust that you can reach out to as well, I would suggest reaching out to them.
gloriousNarwhal6399
February 11th, 2022 6:58pm
Given that you are concerned that your dad's touching may be sexual abuse, to me this indicates that how your dad is behaving towards you makes you feel uncomfortable. Feeling uncomfortable is more than a good enough reason to tell your father to stop if you feel safe doing so and if not tell someone that can you feel can help you navigate this situation. The definition of sexual abuse is any unwanted physical contact that is sexual in nature. Bottom line, regardless, if your father's touching meets the definition of sexual abuse, if you are uncomfortable tell someone. For more support you can go to https://hotline.rainn.org/online or call 800.856.4673. If you ever fear for your immediate safety, always call 911.
LadyJay92
March 24th, 2022 9:33am
Yes. As a child, both my father and stepfather sexually abused me. They made me do things to them that I didn’t want to do. He would use certain threats against me if I didn’t do what he wanted. He would sometimes even use physical violence to try to control me better. It started as young as I can remember and didn’t end until I was 17 years old. It made me feel disgusted with myself, made me feel unloved and used. I tried to tell people, especially my mom, but she didn’t want to believe it. This is definitely sexual abuse.
starryYellow6821
April 13th, 2022 1:50am
I'd like to be honest to you, i think yes because father doesn't touch their children that way especially if its uncomfortable. I hope that you would find courage to seek help on this matter. You deserve protection and there are people who can help you with this. Don't be afraid, that's okay. And also, if you want to make sure if what was your dad's purpose on doing it, you can ask him but protect yourself. Call for help before doing this just for anything happens. Anyway, I wish you are in the right place and take care. Hope this message will get you.
mxjessievee
April 20th, 2022 7:50pm
Sexual abuse is defined as a sexual act performed on a person without their consent. If you are at all uncomfortable with the way in which your dad touches you, you have every right to say NO, and to seek out support if you feel as if your expressions of non-consent are being ignored or if you feel as if you cannot say so out of fear etc. Just because he is a parent, it does NOT give him or anyone the right to touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. Whilst I don't know the extent to which he is touching you, ANY form of touch that is non-consensual should be immediately ceased if you say no, sexual or not. If you are a minor and you are being touched inappropriately on or around your genitals/breast area especially, I strongly urge you to seek assistance from another adult family member, a teacher, police officer or doctor.
CrownofBirds22
April 24th, 2022 3:09pm
That's a very general statement. Can you give an example of how your dad interacts with you? (As long as it's not an inappropriate example of course) Depending on your circumstances, I might have to politely and respectfully refer you to a more qualified individual to help you with this. Would you be open to chatting with one of the professional therapists available? You might also want to explore some of the links for resources in case you feel you might be in need of immediate help. Would you be okay with trying some of these?
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2022 1:24am
That matters on how he's touching you and if you are giving consent. If he is touching you in your private areas, your butt, or your chest area and you did not give him permission or consent or you felt forced to give him permission or consent, then that would be sexual abuse, especially if he does that repeatedly. Your body is yours and no one has the right to touch it without your full given consent. I know it can be daunting to speak out against these situations since he is an authority figure in your life, so if you can try to find a trusted adult or call a hotline.