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My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?

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September 25th, 2016 1:26am
It all depends on what you mean by "touch". Does your dad grasp your arm? If so, it probably is not sexual abuse (unless the way he does it seems sexual). If you'd like more information on this, i recommend talking to an adult.
September 25th, 2016 6:05pm
It's about that how does he touch you. What do you think about? Badly or harmless...? If you decide on please do what you have to.
September 29th, 2016 12:19pm
If you mean other than a quick hug or something, then yes. You should consider telling another trusted adult or the police.
October 2nd, 2016 4:50pm
Yes, this is sexual abuse and you should tell someone before it escalates and get therapy for yourself.
October 5th, 2016 7:47pm
Exactly where if it's inappropriate than it is and you should contact sexual abuse helpline as soon as you can
October 9th, 2016 1:51pm
yes and you should talk to someone about it, tell a family member or even go to the police. this is sexual abuse.
October 13th, 2016 8:43am
Some of the people expresses their affection through touching. Maybe your dad just wanna express his affection for you but the question is, Is he touching you somewhere that shouldn't be touched? Are you feeling something when he is touching you? If it is yes, then that's sexual abuse.
October 14th, 2016 10:54am
It depends on when it started, I mean if it started just recently then it could be a red flag, as opposed to if your dad was always like that. Also, it depends on whether same kind of touching is done to your other siblings if you have any, reagrdless of their gender.
October 15th, 2016 9:04am
any touching which you don't think is inapproporiate is abuse. you should talk to someone about htis
October 19th, 2016 6:55pm
This depends where, if the parts are what you don't want him to touch then it is if not then it's not sexual abuse
October 22nd, 2016 6:11am
How does your dad touching you make you feel? Some other important things to consider are: - Where does he touch you? - Are there other people around (like friends and family members) when he touches you or are you usually alone with him? - Have your ever asked him to stop? If so, did he listen to you? These questions are important because if you feel threatened, scared, confused, sad, guilty etc. in any way and you have asked him to stop and he continues then I would consider this sexual abuse. He is imposing something on you that you do not want, you have clearly expressed to him that you need him stop but he is forcefully continuing. That is also the case if he touches you this way in private, touches you in a way that makes you feel weird or tells you to not tell anyone else. Do you have someone, an adult that you trust in your life that you can talk to about this?
October 22nd, 2016 7:37pm
Yes, if it does make you feel uncomfortable, and if he keeps doing this tell the situation to one of your relatives or close friends, and it is up to you, it is all about your safety
October 23rd, 2016 2:50am
Absolutely. He is your father & has no right to touch you, especially with your permission. Report him.
November 2nd, 2016 3:23pm
Depending on how your dad touches you, it could be. However, any touch that makes you uncomfortable is unacceptable, no matter who it is coming from. Voice your discomfort. If you are being touched under your clothing, on your breasts or genitals, know that it is not your fault, you should not feel guilty, and you should seek help from someone you trust.
November 3rd, 2016 2:00am
If it's sexual touching, like in a suggestive way or in the "forbidden" areas, then definitely. I would suggest calling a sexual abuse hotline.
November 3rd, 2016 6:48pm
If your father is touching you in a way which is sexually inappropriate then yes it is classified as sexual abuse or rape. There are a number of hotlines and services available for help dealing with issues such as this, and if you feel you are in a situation like this i strongly urge you to contact one of these services.
November 13th, 2016 8:50pm
Although I can't confirm your question, what I can say is that when one asks a question like this, it is often reflective in and of it self. What I mean by that is, if you are worried or concerned that it may, in fact, be sexual abuse, then chances are there is indeed a problem, even if the situation isn't what you would normally consider "sexual abuse". Like many have said, it depends. But above all things, if you feel in ANY way uncomfortable, you should definitely tell a trusted adult.
November 19th, 2016 1:40am
If he touches you in areas that are not meant for him to touch then yes it is considered sexual assault/sexual abuse.
November 27th, 2016 8:49am
It is when he does it without your consent and you start feeling wary about it. Especially when he starts touching places too near/close for you liking.
December 16th, 2016 1:16am
If he does it without your consent or if you are under age, then it is not okay, and it is abuse. It's not okay either way.
December 16th, 2016 5:18pm
Every parent, mums and dads, touch their children. Sounds to me you feel what dad does is not appropriate. How do you feel about it?
December 30th, 2016 6:01am
If he touches you in anyway you don't want to be touched than that is a type of abuse. If he is touching your chest area or your private areas then immediately go tell your mom or another adult you trust will help. In any case the police should be called right away.
February 2nd, 2017 11:25pm
I would definitely say so. If it is a part of you that you don't like having touched, or it is a part of you that the law says can't be touched, it is sexual abuse. I've had a similar situation to this question, and as much as I went along with it, I knew that it wasn't what I felt was right, and what I felt was okay, and what the law certainly most said it wasn't right or okay. And as awful as it is to come to the fact of "this is sexual abuse" It's what's best for everybody in the situation. Especially yourself.
February 17th, 2017 3:19am
That's hard to say. If I were touched in a way that made me feel uncomfortable, I would ask the person to please not touch me that way. If a father is touching a child in a way that isn't comfortable, the touching needs to stop. If I asked my dad to please stop the uncomfortable touching and he did not, I would then talk to another trusted adult or professional about it right away.
April 30th, 2017 11:51am
If you feel like he is touching in inappropriate places or manners, it most definitely is sexual abuse since you're not consenting to be touched like this! Please report it!
June 10th, 2017 4:57am
What makes a touch or any action "abuse" is that it violates the boundaries, and makes the person feel uncomfortable. It will create a feeling of invasion and disgust, and also inappropriateness. It is "abuse" when it is unwilling!
June 11th, 2017 11:58pm
It depends of the type of touching. If it is in a sexual manner then yes, this is abuse. If he has ever made you feel uncomfortable with his touching, which by the sounds of it, he has, then please remember that this is wrong, and you cal always seek support. You deserve to feel comfortable
June 19th, 2017 2:23pm
Clarify "touch". If it makes you feel uncomfortable and he does not stop when you ask, tell an adult
June 29th, 2017 1:23am
I would definitely say it is...If it makes you uncomfortable, if it feels wrong, if it's inappropriate and you don't give consent then yes...please protect yourself.
July 7th, 2017 4:44am
Any form of unwanted touching is considered sexual abuse. Do you feel unsafe or in need of help?