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My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?

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Teddy522
June 11th, 2017 11:58pm
It depends of the type of touching. If it is in a sexual manner then yes, this is abuse. If he has ever made you feel uncomfortable with his touching, which by the sounds of it, he has, then please remember that this is wrong, and you cal always seek support. You deserve to feel comfortable
Anonymous
June 19th, 2017 2:23pm
Clarify "touch". If it makes you feel uncomfortable and he does not stop when you ask, tell an adult
Mushu74
June 29th, 2017 1:23am
I would definitely say it is...If it makes you uncomfortable, if it feels wrong, if it's inappropriate and you don't give consent then yes...please protect yourself.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2017 4:44am
Any form of unwanted touching is considered sexual abuse. Do you feel unsafe or in need of help?
Anonymous
July 9th, 2017 10:33pm
It depends where when and in what manner. It sounds like sexual abuse as you have put a label on it that you think matches. I recommend you ring a helpline and tell friends or family.
lyricalOcean407
July 15th, 2017 9:55pm
Yes this is abuse and you need to tell someone what's happening to you. No one should have to go through this.
heartfulPeace96
July 16th, 2017 8:54am
It depends on where he is touching. If you feel uncomfortable then you should tell somebody you trust with this
ALStella
August 10th, 2017 6:49pm
depends on where exactly he touches you, but even if he touch your hand and you feel uncomfortable, talk to an adult, not necessarily your mother, maybe a teacher, counsellor, anyone, ASAP
Anonymous
August 11th, 2017 2:08pm
I've never had to deal with this situation personally. This is sexual abuse. You must confront an adult that will protect you in such a sensitive case to deal with. Reaching out is hard many times because of embarrassment, but it is better to let someone know than to let it eat you alive.
HappyAndReady
August 12th, 2017 11:15am
It depends where, and how. Have you told him to stop touching you? Have you tried speaking with your mom or another trusted adult about this?
Anonymous
September 1st, 2017 2:21pm
If he is touching you in inappropriate places then yes, it is sexual abuse. Please talk to someone about this!
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2017 10:29pm
Depends on which places. Like hugging/kissing. Dad's do that. But they should stop once you tell them that you don't like it - but when they are touching you in inappropriate places you need to search help ASAP.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2017 8:06pm
Where is he touching you specifically? Are you alone with him when it happens? Have you told him you don't like it? Are you fully clothed when it happens?
Anonymous
October 9th, 2017 9:00pm
It depends on where he touches you. If your private parts, yes. If so, you should tell someone, like a trusted family member or teacher or coworker.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 3:03am
Do you reject? Are you a minor? It all depends, no.. That's a lie, YES IT IS SEXUAL ABUSE. GET HELP, TELL SOMEONE.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 7:42am
If it is touching as in sexual contact then yes it is sexual abuse and should be treated and reported as such. You should contact someone you trust for help.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2018 7:48pm
Yes, this is sexual abuse. I suggest talking to someone or by reporting it: https://www.gov.uk/report-rape-sexual-assault sexual abuse is not okay and it is important to report it.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 2:26pm
It depends on how old you are, where he is touching you, and in what way. Regardless, if you ever feel unsafe, you should talk to someone you trust or the authorities if you feel the danger is more serious.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2018 5:18am
Depending on where he touches you, yes it can be. I suggest you reach out for support from an adult you can trust to talk to about it. If not, there are always people here willing to listen:)
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 3:42am
This depends on the way he touches you. There is always a good touch and a bad touch. If he touches you inappropriately in private areas especially it is sexual abuse
KindredFennec
March 22nd, 2018 9:30am
It depends how he does it. Does he so it in a way that makes you uncomfortable or sexual? Have you tried telling him that it makes you uncomfortable and you want him to stop? There are a lot of resources for this kind of thing. If you feel it's inappropriate and that you are unsafe, I strongly recommend reaching out to your local law enforcement agency.
AlluraNine9
April 5th, 2018 4:24am
Entirely depends on how and where. Regardless of age there is no reason an adult needs to lay hands on certain parts of the body with exception to hygiene or health when necessary. If it’s not serving one of those two purposes there may be a problem. Can you say “Dad, could you not do that?” If he gets upset say “it kinda weirds me out” or something along those lines you have made your need known and if he still doesn’t respect it then you maybe should consider speaking to a school counselor, teacher, trusted adult of some sort. Note: touching isn’t necessarily sexual. I come from a family that’s very hands on, touchy feely. We hug a lot, rub shoulders, give back scratches etc. but we are used to it and enjoy it. We are also very outspoken so if we don’t like it we make it well known. So before jumping to a conclusion about whether or not this is sexual abuse I want that to be considered. If you question the propriety or know absolutely it isn’t okay then talking to someone is very important.
suchAngel
April 5th, 2018 1:00pm
Depends on the type of touch. You can understand this , as how comfortable you are with the touch. You can always ask friends/family if you are unsure about it. But if you are uncomfortable, tell him to stop.
aheartatpeace
April 5th, 2018 8:23pm
Depending on the type of touching, yes. My dad and I are very physically affectionate but he never makes me uncomfortable or touches me in a "private place". If your dad touches your "swimsuit" area, you need to tell a trusted adult as soon as possible.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 11:28am
Depends on what touching it is. General contact such as a pat on the back may be unwelcome to some people, but not necessary sexual in nature. If this is referring to touching as in for genital areas, that for sure crosses the line outside of a medical need context. If that is the case, there are many resources available. The national Sexual Abuse hotline is at 1-800-656-4673, and there is always the local resources you have a available of the police department, or teachers if you are in school.
PhoenixMoon19
April 8th, 2018 7:31pm
It depends on how he’s touching you. If it’s in a sexual way, then yes, unfortunately. If you’re not sure if it’s sexual, think about how uncomfortable it makes you, and if he respects your boundaries.
PeppyPanda
May 25th, 2018 2:29am
It ultimately depends on the way he touches you. If he does it repeatedly in inappropriate areas, like your genitals or breasts, it could possibly be sexual abuse. If it's an occasional brush of your hair, cheek, or shoulder, there's a higher chance that it isn't sexual abuse, but nonetheless, please don't hesitate to seek help if this is occurring to you.
apositivepsych
May 31st, 2018 7:32am
"A touch that makes you uncomfortable in your own skin OR Inappropriate touch which includes touching intimate body parts." If his touch feels anything like mentioned above, it is sexual abuse.
WarmShadow8
June 3rd, 2018 5:28am
It depends. Mostly with your father's personality, your father-child relationship and your say about the matter. If you feel uncomfortable with his actions, if he starts touching you in appropriate places you do not want him to then there's a huge possibility it's a sexual abuse.
Caitlyn7COT
June 8th, 2018 2:12pm
If the touching makes you uncomfortable in anyway, such as molestation, then yes. I would advise anyone who's going through this to talk to someone they trust about it.