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I think all dads are a bit ruff when it comes to managing their kids. my father used to be tuff on me when I was a kid.but his anger and reprimands had a cover of love.and now it helps me in every steps of my life. So love his anger as much as you love him.
Ask to do activities with him, try and take his mind of it. Fresh air is good for the mind and body.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 6:26am
Thought about having a conversation with him to find out why heart to heart ? Do feel doing this will help
Tell him the way that you feel, and him being angry makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell him that him being this way is making you part away if that's how you feel or maybe he is making you feel scared to ask him things. A father and child's relationship should be special and you should be able to do things without feeling displaced.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 11:03pm
If you find your father is always angry, perhaps you should try and stay out of his way.. Maybe you should try to keep on his good side to prevent any further issues
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 9:14am
Try to talk to him and support him or just ask him the reason why he is always angry and he will tell you
You could try and ask politely what is wrong. Once you find out what is wrong, there might be something you could do about it! Such as buying him gifts or assisting him.
Identify the cause of his anger. If it is something out of your control, accept that it is his emotion and then let it go. If you are the cause, figure out what you did that made him angry and try not to do it again.
Try finding out what makes him angry and how he came in that state. This could lead to minimizing his anger over time.
If your father is always angry, what you should do will vary, depending on a multiple number of things. Assuming you are a young adult, and the situation is far from unsafe, you should definitely plan to confront your father with his anger---first without an intervention, and secondly, if the first attempt went awry, intervention including other supportive family members. In either event, a presentation of facts in the least offensive format, should be presented to dad. The facts should explain the damaging effects on dad's health, as well as the impact on those around him. It is also further advised that a brief summary of the potential positives, in the case of change, should also be shared.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2016 12:20am
When your father is angry , he is hurting himself . Be patient , supportive and caring with him . put out the fire by pouring water on it .
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 11:59am
Hi,
when something like this happen, maybe its because of something you did wrong and still doing it, but you don't know! OR maybe your father don't like your behaviors!
make a conversation and ask your father about the reason of his anger! it will help a lot!
Go talk to him, nicely. He might have so many things on his mind that he couldn't get off of his chest. He gets pressure from work and other stuffs. He couldn't face it all alone so he holds anger in his chest. He holds it for too long because he knows he couldn't get it out. The reason why he couldn't let it out, it's either nobody listens or none cares enough to ask why. So you can sit next to him, smile nicely, and ask him whats going on? what's he holding that makes him need to feel angry everytime?
Try to understand him. Every response is caused by a reason, and men are lack of showing various emotions, many things come out as anger. What seems and reacts as anger might be a fear for disappointment, fear of being failure.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2016 9:48am
Find out why is he angry if u have done some mistake than u need to correct it and if not than ask ur father abt it and clear the misunderstandings
Tell him about how you feel. Ask him if he could try to calm down when you are together. Tell him if it makes you upset and give him some tips. Also talk to other parents or friends.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 1:28am
Find out why, sometimes it can just be the world that he's angry at. Try to find some way to talk about it with him, or maybe plan a fun activity for the both of you, it'll help you both.
You could try talking to him about healthy ways to manage his anger or contact a professional that can help if you think he would be willing to sit down and have a conversation about his feelings and anger management,
Have you noticed him talking about any additional stress in his life? How long has this been occurring? Is he overwhelmed from something that you could help out with (like too much housework)? Maybe helping out around the house to minimize things he has to worry about could help. If you are in a close relationship with him, try asking him about it.
Tell him you love him ask if he wants anything /stay away from him for your own happiness if necessary
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 10:35pm
Well the first thing you can do is TRY to communicate with him. That's always the first important step. If that doesn't work, try communicating with other family members about it, maybe they can help get through him. Lastly if that doesn't work, contact someone with authority. It's never s good thing to be around a parent who is always angry.
My father is not always angry but I have experienced similar things with my Mother. She always seems to be upset and angry or in a bad mood about something. Take a step back and look at what it is they are angry at. The majority of the time they will shout at you and be angry but that is usually not the root cause of their anger. It may be financial issues, maybe something more personal to them, e.g: their health? I know it is not a good thing to think about but maybe they are mad at you for some reason in which case ask them, it will take time but if you can find out the cause to their anger it may be resolved.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2016 12:37am
You should try to talk to him and see what is behind the anger, then you will be able to understand.
try to avoid anything can cause him anger. and always smile on his face. think of what he loves and do it. surprise him with good stuff. those things will soften his heart eventually :) i hope it would be better
Anonymous
April 9th, 2016 11:32pm
Don't judge him, it should be a reason of why he's mad all the time. Why don't you try to talk with him about that? Maybe he's going to appreciate your love and support.
Father being angry is never a nice feeling. Always makes you feel like it is you at fault, when sometimes it may have nothing to do with you. Your father could just be going through a hard time and doesn't know where to point his anger. Sadly we normally hurt the ones we love most.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2016 11:51am
I should try to get him to counselling and keep myself safe. I should get as much support as I can for myself and for my family.
Do whatever he likes it whichever makes him happy. Definitely he will not show anger while you are making him smile by doing his favorite things.
Try to find a safe place for whenever you need to get away from him. Speak with someone you trust and everyone on 7 cups will always be here to listen if you need to talk ;)
Anonymous
November 13th, 2018 2:59pm
Talk to your mom or grandparents about it... your father may be suffering in some way and needs help that he is not getting. I never had this problem as a child, but 3 years ago I was the angry dad... I wish my kids understood the stresses that I was under and how I was suffering, but I learned that this is not their role or responsibility. Ultimately, I needed help... I needed support as I stopped drinking, I needed hope as I was facing the loss of my job, and I needed someone to reaffirm me that I am a good man despite my past mistakes... I needed to see that joy was possible and around me as I trained myself to find it again... I needed prayers and hope...
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