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My father is always angry - what should I do?

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Last Updated: 07/08/2019 at 3:22am
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NyxCain
June 9th, 2016 11:20pm
If he is abusive in that way, you cannot change the way he is. You will need to learn to accept this.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 4:57pm
When your father is angry if he is violent he might have difficulty in controlling his anger. He may need extra support. There are many psychologists on 7cups who would be happy to assist him. The best thing you can do to help your dad is to ask him when he is in a calm mood what makes him angry. Don't try to please him but try to not do things that angers him.
enhledoll94
June 12th, 2016 2:03pm
Try to talk to him how you feel let him know that you cant deal with him been angry let him tell you whats wrng or find his friend to talk to him
sierralocket
June 15th, 2016 1:34am
Give him some personal space to calm down for a while, and then try to talk to him in a calm,respectful, civilized manner when he is no longer angry, to see if you may slowly figure out why he gets angry.
tattoo99
June 15th, 2016 1:02pm
Maybe you can talk to him about it or talk to your mom. So you can talk to him that he makes a therapy.
PsychDreamer
June 16th, 2016 4:13am
The best thing you can do is stay calm yourself. You never know what is going on with your father, maybe he is stressed with work or relationships. Perhaps you can invite him out for lunch and talk to him and get to know him again. You can be surprised what you can learn about someone when you give some kind gestures, Just remember no matter what happens stay calm. Sometimes people express their anger differently. Try to be understanding.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 2:30pm
Dealing with anger is somewhat a delicate issue, especially if it is someone close that you see everyday. I guess calming him down and avoiding to cause him further irritation is important
Alyssamtaylor
June 29th, 2016 6:05am
I would defiantly talk to him about it and ask him why he feels that way. Maybe there is sometbing going on that you could resolve! There's no harm in asking!
jovialEars91
July 8th, 2016 2:45am
You should speak to him about how you feel and give ideas on how to make the problem better. You should acknowledge that if he is willing for change it won't be an overnight process as well. If he is unwilling to change if you know someone who is close to him that can help you should confide in them.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 5:55am
1. try to avoid arguing 2. show care for him 3. always respond quickly when he calls you. 4. try to express your love more often.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2016 12:46pm
That must be hard to deal with. Maybe, sit him down and have a chat with him about his behaviour? If you feel you can't do that maybe ask someone else that he will listen to, to talk to him?
HopieRemi
July 11th, 2016 11:57pm
Have you tried asking him why he is angry? How often does he get angry? What is he usually angry about?
Anonymous
July 16th, 2016 3:16am
I've just learned to realize what really makes my father even angrier and avoid it. The medications that he is on make him constantly angry, and no matter how upset/frustrated I may be over someone/something (not to mention the fact that I'm naturally very sarcastic which can lead to arguments) I've just made sure to try to avoid situations that cause arguments, and I make sure that when things start to get rough, even if I know that I'm right or I'm upset that he's angry with me for seemingly no reason, I just remember that fighting fire with fire doesn't help anyone in the end. I back down and I'll apologize if I have to. I know it may not seem fair, but basically all I'm trying to say is that if you know what makes him even angrier, the best thing that you can do is to avoid it.
maggiesadie0227
July 17th, 2016 6:52am
Put yourself in his shoes and try to figure out what he is angry about. If it gets too bad, try being calm and collected when you confront him.
thelight373
July 21st, 2016 1:39am
when my father is angry, i would try to stay calm and understand why he is mad. if it is my fault or is he having a bad day, then keep a small distance then when he cool off i would show try and jokingly approach him and talk to him. to ease up his anger i would even clean the house and cook for him, to which will make his anger lessen.......some father get a bad day easily when he would see the house a mess.
SquishyRaspberries
July 28th, 2016 4:23am
If it's possible to talk to him civilly about his emotions, then do so. A one-on-one conversation is almost always the best way to figure out what's going on in someone's head and help work toward a solution, although it may be a bit uncomfortable at first. It's very possible that something is causing your father a great deal of stress, which then results in him becoming angry. If you talk it out with him, this can help him release some of his frustration. If this isn't a possibility, then you should address the topic with a person you trust, such as an adult family member, teacher, religious leader, etc. They can help you deal with the conflict and possibly help you seek help for your father. Finally (and most importantly), fi your father's anger is putting you or anyone you know in danger, it's very important to contact the authorities.