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My parents aren't speaking with me, and I miss them, how can I cope?

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Last Updated: 04/07/2020 at 3:36pm
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Top Rated Answers
mayraishere
November 18th, 2014 11:56am
Why aren't they talking to you? Did something happen? Did you do something to upset them? Communication is always the best answer, but sometimes you have to wonder if they're not upset or concerned about something and need a time to put their heads on the right place. Anyway, I believe it's always good for the parents to know they're being missed by their children.
GoodGuyChad
October 28th, 2014 7:18pm
Realize that it is they who are being extremely immature by not speaking to you. Cut them some slack, since they are the real children in the family.
dreamWillow68
January 23rd, 2017 9:37am
Remember you are resilient, and nothing lasts forever. You are strong and can cope with this; it can be heartbreaking when you fall out with someone you care for. Sometimes time is what is needed for a person to heal. Take heart, you will survive this.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2014 7:01pm
Have you tried doing small gestures to show them you want a truce? They might miss you as much as you miss them
RubyAli
October 8th, 2014 8:31pm
Analyze why arent they talking to you, have alook back and see what went wrong , maybe correcting what happened might help and if possible apologize to them.
NoNeedToFearHayleyIsHere
October 29th, 2014 5:09pm
You need to talk to them, even if they don't talk back. You need to let them know how you feel (that you miss them) and that you want to change the way things are right now. You should also apologize, even if you feel like you don't have to.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2014 7:04am
By asking why they aren't speaking to you and if they refuse to answer then find ways to distract yourself from these feelings of being ignored.
Talore
October 31st, 2014 3:37pm
You're parentes aren't speaking to you. Sounds difficult. I can refer you to the managing emotions guide to see if you can learn some coping skills from it.
Graay
January 6th, 2015 2:54pm
You can always give them a phone call or send them an e-mail saying you miss them. Even if they're not willing to talk to you at the moment, they'll appreciate the gesture because it shows you care about them. And you'll feel much better knowing that you tried.
awhisperofreassurance
November 12th, 2014 5:25pm
In my experience, if someone you love isn't talking to you and you want to reach out to them without getting hurt, I write a letter. A long letter detailing everything you want to say. Whether you send it to them or not is up to you, but it will help you get your thoughts out without the pressure of them being right there in front of you.
iWarrior
October 24th, 2014 5:50am
You should spend quality time with friends and other family members. They can help take your mind off of you missing your parents.
Zinnia
April 24th, 2015 4:13pm
Have you let your parents know you miss them, and that you want them the speak to you again? Nobody wants any rifts or wedges formed in the family.
bountifulMemory59
October 27th, 2015 10:46am
It depends on the reasons why you aren't speaking I guess could the situation be resolved ? Have you tried contacting them to arrange a time to talk things through? Or are they just ignoring any efforts you make? It's hard because family can be a big part in peoples life but sometimes for whatever the reasons its better not to have contact if you don't feel talking to them again is a option try to be around people you trust and who care about you friends a partner (if you have one) feel free to connect to a listener if you want to talk things through and you could always look at getting some professional support if you feel that's something that is needed Take care Good luck šŸ˜Š
HANN1BAL
October 25th, 2014 6:29am
Parents always have soft spot for their children even when they grow up. The right moments are the anniversaries, birthdays or events like Christmas that brings families close and together.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2014 8:38am
well try and do nice thins for them and they might speak to you if not then sit down with your parents and tell them how u feel with them not talikng to u
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2015 6:02pm
Tell them that you love and miss them. If there is a disagreement, find a solution and settle it quickly.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2015 5:07am
i suggest giving them some time to get over whatever it is thats eating their mind...be patient, understanding and humble.
chloeegrayson7
July 20th, 2015 10:49pm
You should try talking to them, I know it sounds hard but I don't think theres any other way. Give it time
faithlove1111
April 26th, 2016 10:34am
It is not easy to cope with missing your comfort zone. It can be lonely, hurtful and even irritating. You miss them because you love them. They too might have the same feelings but for some reason have not cleared the air. May be they need time to cope with their emotions. You too are going through that phase. Give them some time, meanwhile, you go on with your daily routine. Go about doing your work , your studies or whatever you are doing. Be mindful and enjoy or do the task at hand well. Be aware that you a fully functioning individual and you have a responsibility to care and be kind to yourself. As you live mindfully, you might be surprised how you would be able to accept your parents behaviour , the problem that existed between you and try to move past it. You cannot choose your parents response but you can do something for yourself. You can always try to talk to them but if they are not ready then you have to be the adult and wait patiently.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 8:44pm
I write them letters. Sometimes I send them to them, other times I keep them in my drawer or in my journal. It doesn't matter so much as long as I can write down my feelings, and sometimes it only takes a little note to my mom or dad saying I love them to make things right. Not always, but sometimes.
Greatlistener87
April 25th, 2016 2:28am
Depending on whether you want to speak to them or you want it to remain this way. If you want to speak with them then solve whatever is going on between u guys. If not then you will have to make friends or talk to people closest to you like extended family members.
plumflower
May 9th, 2016 2:19pm
You can do little things for them. For example make them breakfast, or buy them a gift, to show them that you miss them. You doing that will show them that you miss and appreciate them.
Poinka16
August 29th, 2016 4:20pm
The easiest way is to talk to them or drop by at their place. Don't know your history but usually parents tend to forgive.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2016 9:34pm
Talk to your friends! Ask them tips and advice on how to get back on your parents' good side again! Or you can always talk to someone on 7 Cups of Tea! We're always here to listen!
LittleOpenMindedL
December 5th, 2016 10:57pm
It is very difficult to cope with parents not being around. It might be helpful to try to think and find out the reason why they are not speaking with you. Reflect on the past during the time you are calm. Is there something you could do to repair the relationship? Do not push yourself or judge. Just think that sometimes parents have a hard time too and might not know how to talk to you first. Be brave and open minded. Feel free to use a paper and pen to write down all the good things you have done for your parents. Look at them and be proud of yourself. Never lose hope!
Anonymous
August 6th, 2019 3:55pm
I know its challenging when the people you love dont speak to you for whatever reason. Please know your not alone during this challenging time. Have you ever thought of trying to write a letter to your parents explaining your true feelings? sometimes putting things in writing is easier not only for ourselves but for those we love and care about to understand better where we are coming from. Another idea could be if you have siblings or friends talk it through with them and maybe someone will be able to help you get through to your parents. No matter what know your not alone and that even if they arent speaking to you deep down they still love you.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2020 3:36pm
It's understandable that you miss your parents! Many crave a connection with people who are important to them. Do you have other people in your life who are important to you? You can take comfort in your other relationships even if you cannot connect with your parents at the moment. Maybe you can reconnect with them later in life if they choose so, but until then, you can find comfort in your other relationships. Remember, you can always come to 7 cups to find someone to talk to. There is always someone willing to listen to you speak. Don't be afraid to seek out willing ears!