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My parents complain about each other to me, and I don't know what to do.

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Last Updated: 01/04/2022 at 4:13pm
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Top Rated Answers
LadyAnemone
January 1st, 2018 6:16am
The best solution is to be honest with them, and say that it makes you uncomfortable. Respectfully.
supersensitiveStrength
July 11th, 2017 6:41pm
You have every right to inform them that their complaints about each other are bothering you. They have a problem with each other but it's not affecting just them anymore, but you. As your parents, they should see that you are not their therapist or venting machine. Inform them about this, perhaps individually at first.
Mickey24
November 21st, 2016 12:03am
Tell them that you feel uncomfortable and would prefer them not to talk about your other parents in a negative way to you
TheLightThatNeverDies
September 27th, 2016 9:09pm
Try to just focus on yourself and act like you are interested. It's okay to not know what to do. Believe
Greatlistener87
March 22nd, 2016 1:36am
Maybe you should ask them to be honest with each other to help their relationship grow. You can also inform them that you feel uncomfortable when they complain about the other to u.
PoliteOcean
September 7th, 2015 3:03am
Try talking to them individually and telling the how you feel. Also it might be even better to talk to them together once that is done. So they both know how you feel and where you are coming from.
Terrificturtles07
August 24th, 2015 12:54am
Sit down and have a family discussion on how they can deal with their emotions instead of putting stress on you
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 5:21pm
I would tell them that whatever issues they have are between them and you don't wish to be included. I would also reassure them that I love them both and for them to complain to me is very hurtful.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 11:14am
I heard mine do that once in a while as well. I never told them, but I wish I told them that it really bothered me because I really didn't want to be annoying..