My parents constantly talk about each other behind their backs to me and I don't know what to do they don't seem happy. And on top of that my grandma talks about both of them to me. What do I do?

Having each of these family members talk to you about the others is unfair to you. It's difficult to feel that you are caught between your loved ones, or that you are hearing all of the bad things from one perspective and being influenced. One solution is to talk to each person individually and let them know that you feel uncomfortable hearing about your family members in a negative way and that you would prefer they find a different outlet for their emotions. It could also be a good idea to seek a person for you to talk to about your family problems so that you are taken care of as well!

I wouldn’t suggest telling each of them what the other said. Being in the middle of family talking behind each other’s back is a very unpleasant place. You don’t want to add fuel to the fire. You keep what’s said to you in confidence. If these rants, gossip, conversations are causing you discomfort kindly and respectfully let them know you don’t want to hear it. You can suggest they talk to each other about it or seek counseling or make no suggestions at all, that is completely up to you. Be clear to let them know that you’re not okay with discussing that negativity, but all things positive are welcomed.

Maybe its time for you to tell them how you feel about all the talking. Let them know that you do not feel comfortable and that they should not tell you these things and why.

That certainly is a hard position to be in. If possible consider talking to all of them at a time when you are all together, perhaps dinner? Share how you are feeling, that it is bothering you, and politely ask them to not talk about each other in front of you as it puts you in an uncomfortable situation. Hope this helps!-An

I think the best way for you to handle this in this situation is to maybe take some time to think about what that means for you, and your family. I think maybe talk to your grandma about the way this makes you feel and if you come to a discussion when all of you are getting very hard. Maybe you and your grandma should talk to your parents about how they feel about each other. It’s difficult, I know but in time you will understand that staying silent about something that is hurting many people is worse than speaking up.

Well .. they talk behind eachothers back .. and your grandma too . But you love them and know them and when people are mad they say things to hurt eachother. And you know your dad who he Is and know your mom who she Is and your grandma . Too she may be your moms mom and on her side .. or your dads . You know who they are and love them. So .. when people argue they say hurtful things and maybe lie and make it seem worse then what it is but you know the truth and got to see that it important what you see your dad is and mom and them arguing has nothing to do with you and no it should effect the relationship between you all