My parents don't listen to me, what should I do?
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Approach with confidence. No matter how old you are, parents will see you as their child. Show them you are more than just their child, because just like they just see you as their child, you just see them as your parents. If the problem is more your parents ignore you, try talking to a friend or other family member about it, and even ask them to help back you up if you need it. Make sure to stay strong and positive :).
Parents will always be hard on but it is called tough love, they are your parents and love you very much
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 12:13am
Use the technique called the "Broken Record Technique" you keep repeating yourself over and over until they get the hint
In most cases, parents do want to have a healthy relationship with their children. To get your parents to listen to you, you first need to listen to them. Try to understand what they are saying. For example, if you ask for something eg. to go somewhere, or to get something. and they say no immediately without considering your point of view. You have to remain calm and assertive and ask them something along the lines of "why is it so important that I cannot go here/get this" Then try to actively listen to their response and understand it. Then they will be much more likely to listen to your point of view. The key is for you to remain calm, assertive and focused on finding a solution no matter how your riled up or annoyed your parents appear to get.
Have a family meeting write down an agenda so you don't forget what you want to talk about and discuss your feelings and make them hear you. If that doesn't work then tell a teacher at school to help you.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2018 12:41pm
Try talking to them and staying calm instead yelling or getting angry! This immensely helps out a lot!!! Why dont you try doing What they would expect from you? Something that would please them! Hope this helps
alot of time we feel that closed ones are very distances.
and because of that we feel very frustrated. the best answer is in your hands . I could give you one but is it what you need.
If your parents don't listen to you go to someone that actually does listen to you because they will give you the necessary support you need.
Talk to them about how you feel. It's possible that they don't even know that you feel that way and they will be happy to fix it.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2018 6:30am
Build up a logical argument to get what you want. If that doesn't work think to yourself why are my parents not listening to me? Do I have to prove myself in some way to get their respect so they will listen?
Sit down with your parents and have a rational disccusion about how you want to be treated as a human being and that they should listen to some of the things you have in mind.
Approach them in a calm and logical manner (it might help to communicate via writing such as email or text) try to leave emotion out of the conversation and give them as many opportunities to get involved in the conversation as you can. Most people love to be asked for help or for their opinion so try starting it that way. Or if it is something sensitive try framing it as you are trying to help a friend and what advice should you give them.
You should find a way to make them listen. Nothing bad. Or if need be tell your school to call and talk with them.
You should try and make them understand how important it is for you and sometimes also listen to them as they will always love you. They will always be there for you so give them some time and everything will be alright.
I'd suggest speaking to them on a personal level, try to explain that they make you feel like they're not listening. See how that goes.
Try to put whatever points you have forward in a straightforward and mature manner: This can encourage them to see at eye level with you, and to hear you out
I understand how frustrating it is when our parents do not see eye to eye. One good rule of thumb you should accept is that they do not "have to" listen to you. Have you considered approaching them from a different perspective? Maybe a conversation where all parties can truly participate?
Every relationship has some give and takes. In parent child relation also it is two way relation. If you want your parents to listen to you, start listening to them. It’s like a ping pong ball, the ball will bounce back with the same energy you have put in.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2018 8:11pm
Parents can be quite tricky. Just remember they are human too and sometimes they don't want to listen either! Having a chat to them about how you feel can clear up a few things and then they should start listening to you more.
Have you tried writing them a letter and giving it to them? Then it's not a case of you trying to talk to them, but write down that you feel like they don't listen in the letter you give them.
There might be a lack of communication between you and your parents that you need to talk it out with them. Try to do that when they're not busy. You should not take it personal because they have their own problems and need personal space sometimes but when they're free and ready to listen to you, make your point. Also, one thing you can try is to be (or almost try) to be more responsible.
Have you a different way of communicating with them? Like try writing it down in a letter? That way they can't argue with a letter and it alliws them to process the information.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 2:48am
Sometimes, depending upon how open they are about a situation, mood or even their environment. But for the most part yes.
I'm sorry you don't feel heard. That can be tough. How and when do they make you feel this way? Also, how long do you feel like they haven't been listening?
Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 7:13am
Go seek someone who will listen to you. Someone you trust.
Talk calmly with them. Try to show them you can deal with problems and that you need to make your own mistakes. Try show them you are mature enough to handle things.
Sit them down and have a talk about communication. Tell them that you're frustrated, hurt, etc. avoid using accusing phrases like "you did this" or "you make me feel ___". Be calm, rational, and above all, RESPECTFUL. Use phrases like "it makes me frustrated when I feel I'm not being listened to" or perhaps "all I need is for you to listen".
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 6:57am
Try to understand what your parents are behaving, maybe they too have problems. Try to talk to them when you feel that they're in a good mood. And ask them politely that you have to say something important to them.
Be sure to not get upset if your parents do not listen to you. Try and approach them in a respectful manner and explain to them why you need them to hear you out.
I was honest with my dad one day about what I truly wanted and how it will make me feel if I got what I wanted. He listened to me and was very kind.
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