My parents don't listen to me, what should I do?

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Top Rated Answers
Pikachu669
June 30th, 2018 1:13am
Sit down and talk with them, maybe if you have a face to face talk theyll take you and your words into consideration
peacefullife1
July 1st, 2018 1:03am
You could try talking to other family members or try to bring the problem forward to them, but I don't want to give you suggestions because they may be unhelpful or get you confused.
Emily7278
July 1st, 2018 2:33pm
Reason with them. If not, talk to other trusted person such as other family members or friends. This will help you feel more open and less stressed about the situation.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 10:29am
Tell them what you feel again they are your parents and they concerned so they will listen to you and will make improvements
EmpathyAndComfort
July 20th, 2018 6:25pm
I understand the feeling of being unheard especially with our parents. Don't discourage yourself in believing that you will never be heard. Express these feelings of misunderstanding and doubt to your parents. Communicating these feelings will help create a compromise.
calmRose91
April 9th, 2016 12:48am
Have you tried writing them a letter and giving it to them? Then it's not a case of you trying to talk to them, but write down that you feel like they don't listen in the letter you give them.
loverainbows2530
April 28th, 2016 6:17am
It seems you feel frustration towards your parents. Why do you feel like your parents don't listen to you?
Lovingsoul99
April 30th, 2016 12:35am
Fist things first think why don't they listen to you, it could be their own problems or maybe you just feel second best to a sibling.
PoliteOcean
June 2nd, 2016 5:26am
It can be difficult when you feel that someone isn't listening to you or hearing what you are saying. It can hurt even more when you feel its that way from the people who are closest to you are to care for you. One thing you might want to start with is perhaps talking to them about how you feel. Perhaps they don't realize how they are making "you" feel? But the important thing to have in any relationship is communication. Good communication can go along way. But you have to start somewhere. If you feel like they aren't listening, then perhaps you can enlist another person that you trust to help you reach them (such as a friend, relative, or school counselor). Good Luck!
GoLobster
June 2nd, 2016 10:59am
Announce yourself to them, tell them that you want a word in your family - if this fails try creating conversation and bring yourself up on the scale, show your inside voice and they should eventually respect it
Flyby
June 4th, 2016 5:43am
The best way to get your parents to listen to you would be to lay it out straight. Tell them opinion, feelings and such on the matter straight out. The more real and confident you are about how you approach and discuss your opinion on the subject, will show your parents how serious you are.
Lovernature24
June 9th, 2016 3:41am
Its because of generation gap.just don't argue.arrange a quality time together.share your feelings too listen what they say.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 7:24am
You can mirror their behaviour as they may not be aware. If you ignore them and they ask you why you are ignoring them explain that you feel ignored and how that makes you feel and make sure you apologise for ignoring them too. You might also want to speak up as when adults get older their hearing goes. Lastly, if your parents don't listen to you try other methods of communication...options include sign language, writing a letter to them, making a song called " I love you but you don't listen to me " etc.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 1:25pm
Keep silent for a moment. And respectfully ask them if you can explain your side. But never forget your tone of voice, with respect.
BassistBriar
June 15th, 2016 10:07am
If you feel your parents don't listen to you, try to sit down with them and talk things out. Express to them how you feel.
theduck
June 15th, 2016 1:03pm
You should tell them that you are a human being that can think and say that what is right or wrong. Tell them that you should be taken seriously.
Supergirl94
June 16th, 2016 8:44am
Let them know how you feel and why you feel that way (they will ask why, so you may want to think about that) and give examples of when you felt they didn't listen and what made you feel that way. :) Be honest with them and try to work through it together.
Ananiya
June 22nd, 2016 11:09am
Try talking to them properly about it and I'm sure they will explain why they don't listen to you and what is bad for you. :)
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 3:06am
Every parent has there problem with ignoring their child's words. It happens a lot and the best way to get them to listen is to non-verbally ask to do it first, with a text or a note. Then when they come to listen, tell them your concerns or problems.
Lexithelistener
June 29th, 2016 10:37pm
When your parents do not listen to you, it can make you feel alone or that you can't rely on them. Its a hard feeling, but the best thing you could do is try to talk to them about it and see if they understand. If not, you could always seek guidance from another family member or therapist
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 5:43pm
Sit down and talk with them you need to express how you feel when they don't listen. Its important to talk with them when you feel that way.
lushyxd
July 27th, 2016 8:35pm
If your parents dont listen to you, try and talk to someone else. You could also try and make a video to grab their attention or write to them.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2016 1:57am
I would write them a letter telling them how I feel, or I would talk to one of my siblings about it and have my sibling talk to them about it.
softNutella25
July 29th, 2016 12:50am
Think of it this way: If your parents said that you didn't listen to them, what would you say? Most likely, and like many others, the first answer we'd think of is "you can't make me!". The same way no one can force you to listen to them, you cannot force your parents to listen to you. What you can do, however, is have a rational discussion and express your feelings and state your case so that they understand where you are coming from. Chances are they may understand your feelings a bit better.
SomeRandomNiceGuy
August 3rd, 2016 7:31am
Well my friend, grown ups always have an opinion on everything we kids do and they tend to overlook how we feel about it. They think they know what's best for us and they certainly do, but sometimes it can be otherwise. So try and sit with them to talk about what you feel and try to make them understand that you want them to accept your decisions at times. Good Luck!
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 3:57pm
Hello there, I think it's one of the most major problems among children. It all depends on what your problem really is. I know it is pretty annoying when someone doesn't listen to you when you try to say something even if they are our parents, but we should realize that our parents have already passed our age, and that they know what's best for us. First, think yourself what your problem really is and is it something meaningful to be discussed. Clarify yourself. Go to your mother, (make sure it's just you and her). Ensuring that she's in a calm state of mind, talk to her and say what your problem really is. Firstly, inform her like this, "mom, there's something I have to say, but please make sure that you will not overreact. Please?" And make sure that you brace yourself to bear patiently, whatever her response is gonna be like. It all depends on what your problem really is as I said before. However, don't worry, just be strong.
Tiffany88
August 5th, 2016 1:59am
Formulate and explain your opinions in a way that they will have no problems listening to. Parents are anxious about their children and their childrens' futures by nature. They want to hear they are making good decisions and have a clear vision for their own futures. Also recognize that some of your arguments will be short sighted due to your age / lack of life experience.
HopieRemi
August 5th, 2016 10:25pm
Reinforce what you are trying to tell them. Assert yourself daily. don't back down. Eventually, they will hear you
Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 6:46am
Try out a listener..:) and you can also try to be assertive while saying what you have to.. Open up about what you feel to them and request for them to hear you out.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 10:15am
My parents don't listen to me either so I stopped counting on them or wait for them to listen and I took the responsibilities on my own.