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My parents don't listen to me, what should I do?

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Last Updated: 11/11/2020 at 9:50am
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August 7th, 2016 9:06pm
When my parents don't listen to me I go to my journal and write about my feelings. When I read my own words back to myself I look at what the core of my problem is and think of a way to simplify it. I also go and talk to a friend about it.
August 7th, 2016 11:56pm
Catch their attention in a way that they will understand. Maybe they're just confused or don't know what your asking them.
August 11th, 2016 5:10pm
You should ask them for reasons for not listening to you and to wait until they finish the whole explanation and not interrupt them in between. You should always try and understand their point of view also.
August 12th, 2016 3:28pm
Try to write them a letter, and put it somewhere they'll see. Or even text them. Sometimes putting what you feel or want to say into words (writing it down) helps and you could have a better speech, more appealing to those you want to talk to. They'll have time to read it and then talk to you! Hope this helps! 🌸🌟
August 12th, 2016 6:38pm
Tell them that you've noticed they hardly pay attention to what you say, ask them personally for a talk and when they seem to lose interest, change the subject, or talk to someone else.. Point it out out loud.
August 19th, 2016 3:21pm
Try sitting down with them and having an adult conversation. Your parents will realize that you are trying to be mature and talk to them about something that is important to you, so they are more likely to listen.
August 20th, 2016 10:27am
Listen to them. Maybe they are trying to make a point that is important that you are missing. It may feel like they don't understand but they do have a lot of experience. Try sitting down with them calmly, speaking quietly and just let them explain and hopefully they will allow you to talk as well.
August 20th, 2016 11:53am
Try to talk to them with a letter. Write a letter saying how you feel and leave it in their bedroom.
August 25th, 2016 3:40pm
If you mean you don't think they much value what you say, it might be worth considering when and how you share your ideas with them.
August 27th, 2016 5:36am
Have to tried telling them that you need their time and attention to listen to something important you have to say?
September 4th, 2016 6:50am
Talk to another family member or write your parents and note write them a song about how you feel draw a picture
October 5th, 2016 4:42am
Listening requires a give and take relationship, so before you expect them to listen to you, make sure that you, yourself, is listening to them :)
June 22nd, 2017 7:14pm
You need to sit down with you parents and tell them that you don't feel like they are listening to your concerns. You should ask them to maybe setup a time on a weekly basis to interact with them whether it be by going out and doing an activity or just having a sit down time at home.
August 9th, 2017 4:27pm
I am really sorry you are experiencing this. Is there someone else in your family that you think you can talk to and whom your parents will listen to? Perhaps you can share your concerns with them and they can talk to your parents about them.
August 10th, 2017 3:09pm
Take them aside and try to get their full attention. Tell them what's wrong and tell it to them straight.
August 13th, 2017 3:15am
Explain how you feel like they aren't listening, although that probably isn't there intention. You could also let them know how some ways that help you feel like they are listening. For example eye contact, open ended questions, or validation are some techniques used for good listening.
August 19th, 2017 2:30am
Try to continue to stay calm and in good spirits. I know it must be frustrating to not have them listen to you, but staying calm helps. I suggest trying your best to cope with it, and try to talk to them about their respect for you.
September 29th, 2017 6:14pm
Well you can try another method to make them actually listen. Try sitting both of them down one day and explained to them what's bothering you, also let them know how much it bugs you when they ignore you. Try to make them understand and see things from your perspective as best as you can. Good luck.
October 22nd, 2017 12:43am
Sometimes my parents ignore me which back then it made me upset but now that I'm grown up I learn that something's you can do yourself if one of your parents can't you can also go to a friend if you ever need to get something off your chest.
November 1st, 2017 4:51pm
On average almost every teenager feels as if their parents don't understand them or don't get them and are constantly punishing them but sometimes our parents are just trying to help and do what they think is best fro out future. if you feel that your parents aren't listening to you and you want to tell them your opinion, I think you should have a sit down with them where you all just talk and try to understand each other in a calm, accepting way.
November 13th, 2017 9:12am
Try finding new ways to reach them. This is usually a problem of miscommunication. Presenting your idea in a mature way would help them listen
November 19th, 2017 12:31am
wait until there ready to listen, if it can wait, perhaps waiting will let them settle and be ready to listen.
July 27th, 2018 4:50pm
Talk to someone who your parents will listen to. Tell them everything you want your parents to know and ask them to talk to your parents.
July 29th, 2018 1:20am
Try to sit them down, express how important it is that they listen and hear what you are saying, and try again. Express before the conversation starts that you want them to hear you out before they try to give any feedback or input any of their own thoughts, to prevent them from trying to interrupt you as well.
August 3rd, 2018 10:51am
Do your research about your issue that you would like to talk to them about first. If you know all of the facts and know what you're talking about, it's easier to listen to. Tell someone else about it, a professional or a teacher, these people are always happy to include your family and help open their minds and hear out what you have to say.
August 12th, 2018 2:58am
Ask them when it is a good time to talk to them. Whenever they speak, listen and try to understand them as you would like to be when you are speaking.
October 14th, 2018 9:28pm
Mostly parents don't listen to their kids when they think that the point you are putting forward is not of much importance. They may think so because either you are not explaining or putting forward your idea in a way that would make them think that 'actually what he/she is saying makes sense' or because your idea is actually absurd. If your idea or view is absurd then the parents should make you think about things differently. Our parents are much more experienced than we are, they know about many things better than us but there could be lack of some knowledge in some fields (for example, if my father is a doctor he won't have much idea about the economics and finance related matters) and if we know more and correct things about that then it is our responsibility to enlighten their knowledge and make them think that our views and talks are not absurd they have got some meaning and some sense. Long things short, we should try to put ourselves and our opinions more strongly and with some solid and valid grounds. :)
November 8th, 2018 4:06am
Explain to your parents that you want to improve communication with them and that you'd like to involve professional help in the matter. Ask to them to visit a Marriage & Family Therapist with you as a group session. If they are not good at listening, then it sounds like they might need to be educated in listening skills. A therapist should be able to educate and moderate communication. In this situation everyone can learn how to listen and talk to each other better. And your parents will have a better chance of learning how to listen to you.
November 15th, 2018 5:28pm
You seek professional help. therapy is great. Councilors help. Maybe even a near by pyschologist. Meditation eases the brain. Consider others feelings. If you’re talking to someone or to a group, and they’re not giving you their attention (surreptitiously looking at their phones, doodling, looking out the window, writing emails), they’re not listening to you. As above, you talking more is probably not going to help. Stop talking. Ask a question; find out what they’re interested in hearing. Even if you’re the most compelling speaker in the world, people won’t listen to you if they’re not interested in your topic. The depth of your passion for taxidermy is not going to engage your vegan friends – I don’t care how articulate you are.
January 5th, 2019 6:16pm
People do a lot of different things to get someone's attention. Especially when it comes to parents! Children who's parents don't seem to give them enough care, often try to get their attention by vandalizing or putting themselves in danger. NOT ALL, but in most cases. That doesn't usually end up good, and also when they do get their attention, it's a negative one. I'd say, that you should try to find out, how your parents were raised (they were probably raised in the same way as you are). Then try to remind them how it feels. Lots of times parents do things, that aren't okay for their child, but not because they don't love them, but because they don't know what or how to do the right thing. As sad as it is, you have to accept that and try to get a positive attention, for example get a good grade. I myself have a weird experince-my mom didn't really know how to show happiness for me. So when i got a good grade, it felt like she didn't care and it took me a long time o accept that. It still hurts. What I'm trying to tell you with this, is that maybe your parents don't know how to show a certaint feeling and that is why you feel like you're not getting their attention. No matter what you do, do not try getting the negative attention, as it can ruin your whole life.