My parents don't listen to me, what should I do?

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Last Updated: 02/01/2020 at 1:50am
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Wittie96
March 17th, 2019 3:38pm
In my experience one of the best things you can do is try to have a sitdown conversation with both parents in the room. Explain to them how you are feeling and what they’re doing that is making you feel that way. sometimes as parents we tend to forget that our children are growing up and we need to listen to them. They might not even realize it they are making you feel unheard. Then sit back and listen to what they have to say. It can be hard to truly listen without trying to think of something to say, but when you do then you’ll figure out why they are acting the way they are. Hopefully this helps.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2019 12:21pm
I have the exact same problem with my dad. He doesn’t know what it means to listen. He’s deaf to everything I try to say to him. It’s difficult and extremely frustrating, because he doesn’t care about what I think or what I have to say. You just have to keep on fighting, as cliche as it sounds. If you continue voicing your beliefs and opinions, they’ll eventually come around. Ultimately what you have to realize is that you are not your parent. You love them and support them, but you’re not them. You have your own beliefs, opinions, dreams, passions, etc. You are your own person, and that’s wonderful. It’s okay not to be an identical clone of your parent. You just have to learn to live out your true self, who you are deep down inside.
vroomvrooom
July 18th, 2019 10:04am
Try figuring out why they don't listen to you. There can be many reasons for that. Communication is a two way process. Perhaps you don't listen to them as they want you to? Perhaps they consider you way too young, immature to even value your advice? Perhaps you are too dependent on them to be considered seriously? Sometimes, its just a matter of time and as you accomplish stuff in life, to be taken seriously. It can even be the tone of communication which can put off people. Having a self analysis on what you wish to communicate and how you are getting it communicated will help a lot in getting the desired response :)
wishfulsky
August 3rd, 2019 11:45pm
I've been there. It depends on what they are ignoring you about, but that can be frustrating. Being heard is a big part of feeling validated and reassured and is part of human nature. It's tough to feel as though you are not being heard, but they will listen eventually. It all depends on how you approach your parents. Whether it's your identity that you want respect for or going out with your friends for the weekend, parent's support can go a long way. You should just try to keep pursuing, everybody will eventually listen to you, but they may not always agree.
kindDaisy278
October 18th, 2019 12:29am
Think about why they might not listen to you. Think about what behavior you do makes them feel like they shouldn't listen to you. Talk to your parents about it. They will be able to help you, and they will be able to explain to you their side of the story. Maybe you don't see the same thing they are seeing. They most likely don't realize that they might be hurting your feelings. This happens quite often, with many many families. All you need to do is talk to your parents about it, and I promise, it will be ok.
Luminescentknight
October 20th, 2019 6:27am
Well it depends on a person's situation mostly and upon how your relationship has been with your parents so far. Well this problem is which almost every teen experiences. Some experience less but some experience more. If they're not listening to you for just small things, I think it's not a cause of worry but if they're not at all listening then what I personally feel about this is that your parents have trust issues with you. So I suggest that try to convince them for the Good. Bring back the trust in your relationship because giving up on relationship with your parents always doesn't bring the best for you. Even if you feel that your parents aren't doing good parenting, I feel you should openly talk to them about it and with full patience. Talk in a convincing tone. If they talk about how they feel about you, accept it and try to make changes in yourself too..
bubblingBlossom7024
January 10th, 2020 9:38pm
it depends on several factors, but probably they don't listen to you, because they do not treat you as an adult and mature person, and they think that you are immature yet. if you feel that you old enough to express your opinion and give your point of view, so others like your parents should pay attention, I think you should convince them that you are mindful and independent enough, financial independence is also important in this case. this is most likely bcs of these, ofc there are may be other factors like may be they want to protect you, etc
kingy1994
January 11th, 2020 11:47pm
Your parents are your life and as much as you think they don't listen, they will in their own way. They will be proud of you, even if you don't think so. Communication is the first way of making them proud. Speak to them and they will listen. Take each day at a time. With each day they will listen more and eventually, they will allow you to talk before they speak and when this happens, they will tell you that they are proud of you. One step at a time is all it takes. They will always be proud!
Anonymous
January 15th, 2020 5:01pm
People we love have the power to hurt us and sometimes we can't help it especially when it involves our parents. I'll try to find out why they don't listen to me and talk to them. Try to make them aware of this slight on their part it may have been unintentional. If it was intentional I'll ask questions and try to understand why they got to the point where they don't listen to me. Then we proceed to work it out together compromising and understanding each other. Bearing in mind that I am as important as they are.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2020 1:50am
i guess it depends on why they don't listen to you and your situation, but from my perspective, you can't make them do anything. they are your parents for a reason. but maybe the first step is to try to listen to them first and see their point of view and then say how you feel and go from there. and depending on what you want them to hear you about, discuss with them about why they feel a certain way and try to come to a conclusion that works for the both of you. if you have stubborn parents and they don't want to listen at all. all you have to do is think of ways to make them listen. ask them questions about things they would listen to you about and make them question why they wont listen to you for the other things you want their support and approval of.