My parents don't understand me. What should I do?

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Last Updated: 08/08/2016 at 11:40pm
My parents don't understand me. What should I do?
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wishfulRainbow68
January 30th, 2016 7:28pm
How do they not understand you? talk to me about it and tell me everything that you feel about this situation. What have they done to make you feel this way?
GoldenEars77
January 14th, 2016 1:39pm
No one can understand you better than yourself. Try mindfulness and become aware of your feelings and sensations. After becoming clear you will be able to express them properly.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 5:14am
Communicate. What is it they don't understand? Does it seem to be specific area or all quite general
Speakfromheart
January 14th, 2016 10:57pm
Talk to temporarily. They were born at a time where there was no smartphone or Netflix which is basically our life. We can't expect them to be just like us.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 11:37pm
Try and explain ? Corroborate with facts ? Accept that they might never truly understand since theysee the same things from a totally different perspective?
lyricalJoy42
January 27th, 2016 7:35am
Try start a conversation with "I have to talk to you guys about something. Can you please let me speak my mind? You may not understand it, but try to see where I'm coming from."
RoseS13
February 4th, 2016 7:18am
Find someone who does. My parents don't understand where I'm quite coming from or the choices I make but I realized if they won't understand I'm sure someone else will. I know I can go to my aunt and uncle. Sometimes people don't understand us but If there are some don't then there will be some that do.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 11:13pm
Express what you're going through (writing, drawing) and show them because they probably don't think of it as a big deal.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 10:13pm
You should tell them everything and tell them how you really feel . if they still don't understand you then you should ask someone like your siblings or friend to give you advice or ask them why are they doing it.
delicateEars36
August 8th, 2016 11:40pm
They probably understand you more than you think, but maybe there are certain aspects that they don't understand. Ask them if you can have a weekly family meeting to discuss your differences, likes and dislikes.
ListeningEar13
February 13th, 2016 11:21pm
You need to open a line of communication. Express yourself in detail. Be receptive to constructive criticism.
bubblyPainting40
January 14th, 2016 2:34am
I suggest trying to have an honest conversation where you explain how you feel and try to help them understand you.
Purpleskys01
January 21st, 2016 12:13am
You don't think your parents understand you? Why do you think that? Maybe you should try to interact with them more maybe go see a movie together or just talk when was the last time you actually talked with your mom
dalya123
January 22nd, 2016 9:55am
They understand you, they just don't want to show that because of a specific reason, but they are your parents just talk them and it might turn out that they understand
WindMelody
January 22nd, 2016 4:21pm
At first, let them know it. Even if sometimes you don't feel like they do, they care and they love you really really much. If you speak calmly and explain how you feel I'm sure they will listen to you and understand.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 1:41am
Try talking to a different adult. Maybe a teacher or school counselor? They understand more than you might think. It releases so much stress.
Greatlistener87
January 27th, 2016 3:49am
It's good if you can sit them down and talk to them, tell them how you feel and how you would like them to treat and understand you better.
Kuvira14
January 27th, 2016 5:36am
Try and tell them how you feel in any way that you can, a letter, recorded tape, a video, among others
Silent0raindrop
May 15th, 2016 5:11pm
Explain to them calmly yet firmly what it is you want them to know they can't understand if you haven't told them your issues
Scarlettskyblue
January 27th, 2016 6:05pm
What is it they don't understand? They were your age once too and it is probably that they will understand if you explain yourself calmly.
hopefulWaterfall35
February 5th, 2016 8:33am
It is important to meet in the middle when it comes to parents and their children. You have to be brave and tell them what you need to tell them, family is there for essential support and they need to understand what is going on especially if it is important to the children. You need to face them and tell them what you are thinking and feeling, sometimes it requires a great amount of bravery.
grumpymama
February 6th, 2016 1:37am
Parents tend not to understand their children as they get older because the child is becoming more independent and wants to make their own choices while the parent continues to want to help protect them. The best solution to this is to keep an open dialogue. Most parents are not "stalking" you by asking questions about your life, but genuinely interested. Speak to them while you are not feeling a strong emotion, discuss calmly the things that are needed to be discussed.
fancifulPiano97
February 10th, 2016 2:08am
Sit down with your parents and have a conversation about how you feel and see if you can compromise.
ManzanaDeAmor
February 10th, 2016 9:31am
It can be very difficult when your parents don't understand you, could you try and sit them down and explain everything to them, it may be hard but your parents love you and will understand you and wouldn't want you to be hurt, it would really be benificial to tell them.
GoodListener2016
February 13th, 2016 2:02pm
Try to speak again to your parents with more simplified language, your parents are trying so hard to be as close as they can to you, so the more you can be simple and direct in addressing a situation to them it will be more likely for them to understand you.
darlingyouregorgeous
February 13th, 2016 7:13pm
Try talking to them calmly. Wait until they are ready to listen to what you have to say and then slowly and calmly explain what you need or want them to know.
luminousPainting36
February 14th, 2016 8:38am
learn to understand yourself and embrace yourself regardless. sometimes parents struggle to relate to us due to them being raised in a different time as us. teach them about the things you love and dont get offended when they dont understand it after all they probably wont exposed to it or just have different taste to you. one thing i learnt is, as long as you understand you and are happy with you then that's all that matters. it takes time to understand yourself and it'll take them time to understand you, just stay loving, gentle and open.
HarleenQuinnzel
February 19th, 2016 8:00am
You should try your best to have a calm conversation them articulating these feelings. If however this doesn't work some people just have a tougher time seeing others point of view.
enjoyiableLight51
February 19th, 2016 5:02pm
You should try to set with them both and speak with polite way and tell them that you love to share everything in your life with thembut you scared because they don't understand you and tell them that you want their help and to know how to deal with you
Sweetiepiejessie
February 20th, 2016 10:31am
Talk to them! All parents understand their children. It's stressfull at times but you will slowly feel better if you talk to them.