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My parents don't understand me. What should I do?

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My parents don't understand me. What should I do?
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Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 4:46pm
Don't try to make them understand you. If they don't, they don't. Just try to explain to them how certain things make you feel.
Olivehealer
February 24th, 2016 9:56pm
Put yourself in their shoes, then thoroughly explain to them how you're feeling and let them in.....
CaptainObviouslyOblivious
February 24th, 2016 11:03pm
You've got to remember that you are in different points in your life; your parents have grown, matured and come from exactly where you are coming from now! What matters is that sometimes you have to explain your heart, and then close your preferences and hear their side of the story. Parents tend to be smarter than we give them credit for. (I hate to admit that!)
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 8:48am
Have a sit down chat with them sometime maybe, talk about your feels and listen to theirs too! try to work things out!
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 6:45pm
What you could do is , ask if you can talk to your parnets and tell them whats going on/whats bothering you and how it's effectting you.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 12:17am
Communicate with them, your parents care for you and want to understand you. They want what's best for you and sometimes, parents trip up too. Parents are human beings and sometimes, you have to communicate how you feel with them.
pjjensen23
March 4th, 2016 4:24am
Have an actual sit down with them, and talk. Not just a "hey dad, bye dad" kind of thing. Tell them how you feel, and tell them your view or angles of the situation.
glowingPassion10
March 4th, 2016 10:02pm
Tell them in more words but easier words in a way even though they are adults doesn't mean that they remember more experienced words
MarilynMansonGirl45
March 5th, 2016 5:35pm
You should try and talk to them, see if something is wrong.Maybe you are upset about other things. You may feel anxious. Best of luck!
Llanah
March 6th, 2016 1:11am
Sometimes my mother doesn't take the time to pay attention to me, and she lacks understanding more often than most times. However, sometimes we take long car rides or go out and walk around somewhere for a few hours, and we talk one on one about things we feel passionate about. We talk about the outside world and eventually it develops into the deeper, innermost part of ourselves. This happened last night when we were on a road trip, just the two of us, for about 6 hours there and back. I know this may not work for everyone, but sometimes it's nice to get away from the outside world and indulge yourself in others.
Hope114
March 6th, 2016 7:24pm
explain my self in another way.. one good start is to know why the don't understand me and when do they understand me.
MountainStream2001
March 9th, 2016 5:53am
I understand it can be difficult to get adults to remember what it was to be young and the experiences and challenges faced when we are young.
Dihanie99
March 9th, 2016 6:44pm
Talk to them. Its something i've had to learn over time. Its the only way. You need to earn their trust and be able to understand them from their perspective as well. Thats step 1. Listen in step 2. Listen to them. Step 3 is the important one. Talk. open your mouth and talk. Whatever the outcome is, just speak your feeling out in a strong but nice way . in a way they will understand and in away you convince them or convert them to adopt your thoughts and views on a subject. make them see it from your point of view. make them understand. dont hide stuff back too. let it all out. Create that open safe relationship with them. if it still doesnt work, get a friend or an aunt or relative or a teacher to help you and your parents work on understanding each other. your must work on strengthening your relationship between each other. They might be able to help. Remember you must have a good communication with your parents to make it work. Thats my opinion on it.
Freedom1776
March 10th, 2016 1:49am
Try and sit down with them to have a completely honest conversation with them. Sitting down with them and being honest with them should help them see things from your point of view, along with you seeing where they are coming from
FriendFromNover
March 11th, 2016 12:07pm
Hi, you should know that the rules and society that your parents spent their childhood and teen years is different than yours, so maybe they thing that you need to behave like their period of time! so, just try to make them more familiar with your needs and what your friends are doing, and there is something else! give your self a little time to think, think about what you want and judge yourself, search for reasons of what you want and think about them, if they were real, and strong, then happily share your reasons with your parents, i'm sure they will underestand you, just don't expect changes occure immediately, it will take a time, but it will happen... .
fantasticLove41
March 11th, 2016 10:00pm
Just speak to them and tell them how you feel you will feel so much better even there what your parents don't understand you it doesn't mean they don't want to listen trying in track more is your parents watch film go out on the weekends and just have fun hope that helped
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 6:22am
You should talk to them and say what you really feel about the situation you want to discuss with your parents, if they still don't understand you you should give a better explenation of the situation
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 5:18am
I too often feel as though my parents do not understand where I'm coming from or how I feel. They try their best but often fall short. I recommend talking to them in a way that allows them to acknowledge their wrong doings and think about what they should do to help you. I talk to my mom when we are both calm and collected, never when we are upset. Through time and effort, it is possible you both can work things out together and they understand you more than they do now
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 6:19pm
Unfortunately, not everybody will understand you in life. When people close to you, such as family members, don't understand you, it can be very hurtful and upsetting. Try to remember that you are a unique person with unique qualities and thoughts. if you are comfortable to do so, maybe try and talk to your parents about your feelings on this.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:18pm
Sit down with them and talk. Sometimes it takes a quiet one on one to be understood clearly. Explain your feelings, your likes, dislikes and how your life is going. Opening up to family in a non assertive way can create communication and understanding.
Anonymous
March 17th, 2016 7:57am
Most time , arguments occur between parents and their children ..because none of both sides try to understand each other ..A lot of teens specifically complain their parents don't understand them..Through what they may be trying to get..sometimes , trying to speak in a calm way with them , when they have time and are not busy would help , sometimes letting go of some stuffs would be better than having it happening , ..Most times , parents may understand what you complain about , or try to explain , but due to their jobs , stress , life in general , other thoughts might just try avoiding the whole conversation..
incarnadinepetals
March 18th, 2016 9:44pm
Try and sit down with them and talk and explain yourself. If that doesn't work maybe write them a letter/essay sort of thing explaining how you feel!
RedRose82
March 19th, 2016 7:41pm
Try to put yourself in their shoes and see why they don't understand you or can't relate to you. If you find out why they can't understand maybe you could explain it in a way that they could.
Lifeforyou1
March 20th, 2016 6:27am
Build communication and develop understanding. Listen to them so they listen to you. Parents are blessing. They don't do any thing bad intentionally. They love you and love to support you. Just reach out and clear the air. Stay blessed. 😊
rflvncntrys
March 23rd, 2016 1:06am
Try and try. Your parents must be the one who can really understand what are you facing this time. But if doesn't work ask your friend and also your sister/brother.
SoialWorkerAllan
March 24th, 2016 2:30am
Talk to your parents and sit down with them and tell them how you feel. Keeping your parents close and getting them to trust you helps alot
thistooshallpass100
March 24th, 2016 3:39pm
A lot of times we don't feel like our parents understand us. There is a generation gap and that creates a little bit of misunderstanding. The one thing that I do know is that they probably love you very, very much. have you considered trying to set up a meeting to speak with them one-on-one? Keep it low-key and go in knowing that you won't let it turn into an argument.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 7:02am
help them to understand you. Explain your feelings and what it is that you feel distances them. Let them in as being close to them will be your goal as an adult.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2016 6:15pm
You should sit with them and discuss your feelings. Being open with them may help you feel better and it may also improve your realationship.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2016 6:52pm
You need to sit down and talk with your parents. You live together and cannot avoid each other. If they cannot understand you, at least try to come up with a compromise