Should I rely on my sisters to take care of me, when it is my mother who should, but refuses?
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Last Updated: 04/28/2020 at 3:02am
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You can rely on your sister at a decent amount to take care of you, but not in a way you would to your mother. Because it's just a different part. You probably should talk about how you feel with your mother and sister first, about the problem, if it's possible.
Even though it's your mother responsibility to love and care, not all mothers are able to for one reason or another. If your sister is willing and happy to care for you then I would feel privileged to have a family member that can. Not everyone has someone else that can be there for them. To have the support of your sister to be there is a give. Use it but don't take advantage of it.
In a case like that, it's best to do what you can to take care of yourself. If your sisters are willing to take care of you, definitely go for it! But if there is neglect, it is best to get CPS involved so it can be resolved :) best of luck to you!
Anonymous
April 10th, 2018 6:28pm
You first need to be true to yourself. It sounds like your mom isn't taking care of you either so someone has to step up there, too. It's an awful lot of responsibility but once you start nurturing yourself you may find other, new creative ways of dealing with your family. This also applies to being that good role-model for your siblings. Lead by example. Do your best not to raise conflicts towards your mom in understanding that she is on a different life path with different priorities. The only thing you can really change here is how you deal with it and that's a great place to start. Blessed be
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 6:48pm
It really depends on your age and your abilities to take care of yourself. If you depend on others to take care of you, it doesn't really matter who does it.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2020 3:02am
I am sorry that your mother chooses to not take care of you, but since your sister is there for you there is no harm of letting her take care of you. Maybe on this journey both of you will mature deeply, and create an unbreakable bond together, but its worth the try. You deserve it. As you grow up, you'll mostly take care of yourself, but since you have your sister, I think both of you will be helpful for each other, and help each other grow, with lots of love, care, communication and hugs of course. I hope your decision works out.
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