What can I do if I'm trapped in an emotionally abusive home?

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Last Updated: 02/23/2018 at 9:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
SoaringSky
February 8th, 2015 6:45pm
Emotional abuse is a very hard thing to deal with, particularly because it is taken less seriously, and much less noticeable, than physical abuse. The best thing to do, in any abusive situation, is to remove yourself from the harmful environment if at all possible. If not, then focusing on the positive, and reminding yourself that none of what your are hearing or experiencing is true or your fault is a positive action. Telling someone you trust, such as a teacher, other family member, parent of a friend, etc. is also a very affirmative course of action, and can greatly help you escape from the abusive situation you are forced into.
Ark9026
August 31st, 2015 3:05pm
You can talk with other family members about what's happening and they can seek the proper help. Being in an emotionally abusive home is tough to deal with, but people at your side to help throughout the journey can be your best weapon to combat those issues.
PrincessCeleste87
August 2nd, 2016 6:26am
Report to authorities that you are being emotionally abused. Then get therapy for having been subjected to emotional abuse. You don't deserve that kind of maltreatment.
CourageousPal26
January 23rd, 2015 8:19am
Take a stance. You can 1) talk to your family about what you believe is wrong, 2) surprise them in some way or 3) seek help outside of home. Talking to your family is an obvious answer, but it might not work depending on how understanding your family is. If your family relationship is not beyond repair, I suggest 2) surprise them in some way. This could be, i.e. instead of giving them a retort back, give a hug instead. It's hard to continue an argument or abuse if one side shows love. You can also be firm in what you want them to say/stop saying. i.e. if they call you stupid: 'I appreciate your concern over my intellectual growth, but I prefer/will do better with encouragements' If the family relationship is beyond repair or you believe that your family members may be struggling with some mental issues, then please 3) seek help from a professional.
RecoveryisReal
January 26th, 2015 10:48pm
Ask for help! Reach out to someone you trust and possibly a professional. It is important you remove yourself from a situation that is only detrimental to you! You deserve an emotionally safe environment.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2016 9:17am
Don't be trapped into thinking that you need to be around emotionally abusive individuals. When you get the opportunity / you are of age to leave. You should leave.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2015 2:51am
You have to act! you cannot let that happen to you... how long are you going to suffer? you may think that one day it will end on its own... well maybe that won't happen. Today you have so many help lines provided to you they are there for you feel free to use them. please don't hesitate from sharing your feelings with others and act bravely! be an inspiration to others as well.. :)
AlmightyGena
December 15th, 2015 5:42pm
Go to your school if you go and tell a counselor, or if you have access to cell phone tell a relative. If you can't call CPS yourself, ask them to do it for you and explain your situation.
LoveLoving
July 19th, 2016 6:45am
Learn to distance yourself from the negative comments and energies. If possible, avoid fights and arguments, and leave when confronted with negative or hurtful behaviour. Try and learn communicating in harmony if possible. If not, you need to know when to let go. Do your best, consider you most likely won't be trapped forever. Focus on positive things while trying to find solutions, as long as it doesn't wear you out. You do not have to keep people who hurt you in your life. Remember you are the most important person in your life and deserve happiness and peace of mind
Greatlistener87
September 13th, 2016 5:30am
If you are under age and the abusive is too much please report it to a school personal or a adult family member that can help. If you are 18 and above think of giving yourself some space from that particular person. Maybe by leaving away from them will be a start.
truthfulRiddle
November 8th, 2016 4:24am
If you're feeling trapped and as if you are being emotionally abused, whether it seems minor or incredibly impossible to deal with, you should reach out to sources of help. You can look at the list of provided resources on 7cups of tea and find resources close to you that you can reach out to ensure your safety
calmArrow53
January 2nd, 2017 4:49am
This is a tough situation. If there is any possibility you can move out, it would be beneficial to your mental health. Whether you move in with another relative, friend, apartment, etc. You do not deserve to be emotionally abused - nobody does, and it can be quite damaging to you. Talking to a therapist could be very beneficial to you as well.
samlovenothate
June 27th, 2017 3:09am
Seek help. Call a crisis line if things gt really bad. Look into alternate living arrangements if possible. Develop a safety plan if things at home escalate and you need to get out. Seek out a counsellor or psychologist.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2015 4:24am
If its too much abusive for you, report it to someone who care for you, like an elder friend or relatives whom you can believe at. But don't get yourself into trouble while doing this.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2015 5:30pm
First you must advocate for yourself and take the first step and say what you need. You also can seek outside help from your Doctor or speak to a counselor.
DancingMasha
June 3rd, 2015 8:54am
I think talking to someone is the best thing you can do. Talking to a teacher or calling a helpline can be really helpful. The helpline from your country will tell you where you can go and what you can do to get help. You're very brave. It's great that you're trying to find a way out!
contentedKitty23
July 27th, 2015 8:40pm
Talk about it with someone you can trust. You deserve the best help you can get, so don't be afraid to ask for it.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 7:00am
Try and seek help from someone close to you. If you are being abused, seek help immediately, whether it's someone close to you, the police or just a hotline.
mysterymarie20
November 16th, 2015 1:09am
I know that feeling all too well I learned to not let them do that to me because it really messes with your head. If they don't change it's best to be around someone who had a positive energy.
Lyricaldancer99
January 5th, 2016 1:08am
Get help. Talk to a friend,teacher and guidence cou seller at school? Anyone that you think will help you.
LoveEveryone
June 6th, 2016 12:50am
If you're in an abusive home try to isolate yourself from confrontation. or refer to a hotline that specialises in domestic violence.
LinnGlo
July 12th, 2016 11:43pm
Call someone you know you can trust for help. Find coping skills and find a way out. Find a way to seek professional help. Don't be afraid to ever call the police. They are not the enemy.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 9:50pm
Try to find people that you can stay with if things are getting rough at home, especially if can't leave. Knowing you can stay at a friend's house for the night makes it easier sometimes. Create a plan to leave that you can achieve on your own or with some friends help, this creates something to look forward to