What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?
Last Updated: 12/12/2021 at 10:05am
Melissa Strauss, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
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Try your best to show him instead. It sounds cliché but actions do speak louder than words sometimes.
This is where the saying 'Action speaks louder than words' come into play. Sometimes people need more than just the words to assure them. And even actions sometimes don't help, but be patient and keep showing the love.
It could be that he interprets your actions as being a consequence of his actions, or maybe he's feeling guilty about something that he did?
Sit down and talk to him truthfully and respectfully. Explain your worries and feelings and try to negotiate.
Maybe do something to show him just how much you care, and try to reinforce the fact that you don't hate him by doing little things as often as possible.
Help your dad understand how much you love him. Appreciate him more and thank him for all the things he does.
Try to spend more time with him, show him that you love him it can be with little things like a hug or just a simple I love you.
Find out why he thinks that way so this thought can be changed. Then, just continue to show him love and respect.
I'm my opinion, you should show him some love and get closed to him. Whenever you see him, just pass a smile, it'll work. 😊
All you can do in this situation is to keep reassuring him that you love him and eventually he will understand. Some people it takes constant repeating to get them to understand what you mean:)
I would have shown him love care and respect through my doings. Would have made him feel how special he is and how lucky i am to have him as my father.
Let him feel what you are saying is true. Actions speak louder than words. Express love and compassion
Instead of telling him, you should show him. By making something heartfelt for him or showing you remember his favorite things.
Sometimes actions speak louder than words. Perhaps showing him, rather than telling him might help change things.. Mostly importantly don't blame yourself.
Little things. Make him his favorite cup of tea. Ask him about his day. Make him feel loved. Actions speak louder than words but I find that they make a perfect combination.
Keep assuring him that you do love him and take a bit of extra effort to connect with him. Whether it's spending more time or just showing him you appreciate him via text / call. Take that extra step for him, it'll go for miles.
Ask you father why he thinks that and reassure him and give him facts as to why you don't! Talking things out helps
Show him that you really love him :) It's not only words that show how much we care about someone , it's actions
You could try to earn his trust. You could do this by going out somewhere with him, maybe even just doing a simple favour such as making him coffee or doing a chore for him. Or perhaps sit him down and ask why he thinks that. Communication is key.
Maybe you can look for ways to show him how much you love him? You can buy him a gift or do something that he will like to show your love and appreciation for him.
Do things to show him that you love him like cooking his favourite meal or do something he likes doing!
Show him with your actions. Words can only go so far sometimes. Help him when help is needed. Your efforts will be seen and felt.
I would do small things such as watching my tone or body language around him and assure him throughout the week that you care about his well being.
Actions speak much louder than words, prove to him that you do not hate him by being nice and showing him you love him
You should try to engage in an open discussion about this. Perhaps writing a letter or message would make it easier to discuss everything
Try to do something to show your father you love him, something that means a lot to him in a moment like this.
Ask him why he thinks you hate him or why he feels that way about his daughter or why he thinks his daughter would hate him.
Work through whatever issues you've had with him, whether you think they're small or big. Something that doesn't seem major to you could mean the world to him. It's going to take time and lots of effort, but the end result is beautiful.
Sometimes it is easier to believe in actions than in words. Try to demonstrate to your father that you loves him. You can choose a few things to do with/for him. Even when it seems small and insignficante, just do it with care.
Have a long discussion about him. You need to know fully about why he feels this way. Maybe he has things he's dealing with and insecurities himself.
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