What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?
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I would personally try doing something special for him although thats only a suggestion. Actions speak louder than words, plan something he likes to do or make him a dinner or something special that would mean a lot to him.
Show him how much you dont hate him & make sure he feels like it too because nobody wants to feel like theyre not welcome or wanted around.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2017 8:50pm
I find that perhaps doing things with him will be beneficial, but it depends on your relationship and the things that you two seem to enjoy.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2017 5:28pm
Try to really reach out to him and show him truly how you feel about him, he may be insecure or sensitive about how you think of him. I'd recommend talking to him about how he thinks you feel, and then correcting and improving this by explaining your real feelings to him.
Show him your care by your actions.
Be the first to do the work, whenever he needs it done, no matter how trivial it may be, for eg fetching him water.
Its little things that matter. For eg covering him with blanket if you see him sleeping and shivering. Or asking him to share in the fast food you just ordered.
Keep talking to him and spend time with him. See what's bothering him and show interest in whatever he is saying, ask questions about it and if he is feeling bothered, stop.
Show concern about him. Ask him about his day, his health? If he is having a headache, ask him to go to the doctor or take his medication.
Good Luck!
Anonymous
July 21st, 2017 6:49pm
Show him you love him in many ways, spend time with him, support him, care for what he loves, sometimes words aren't just a proof. Understand you need to show him love.
Many times, our behaviour or the way we treat someone can speak volumes, for example, giving dad a hug, watching tv together or simply spending time with dad doing something you both enjoy. This can help to form a happy bond between you both and also create some fond memories. Sometimes, actions do speak louder than words.
Try your hardest to show him how much you care. It may take some time for him to realize that you're telling the truth, but its it's okay. Be patient with him and continue to show him everyday that you love him.
I would keep showing him you love him. Call him out of the blue, spend time with him. Keep telling him you don't. Sit down with him and talk to him and ask him why he thinks you hate him.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2017 9:47pm
Show him that you don't. Help him with stuff. Spend some quality time with him. Care for him. Because not everyone is blessed with a father you know 😊
Ask him why he thinks you hate him. When he gives you a reason, respond by giving him a reason(s) as to why you don't.
I guess that there might be misunderstanding between your father and you. He may misinterpret your words or actions sometimes. Have you ever talked to him about how you feel about your relationship with him?
I would ask him why he feels this way and I would try to show him that I really love and care about him.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2017 9:11pm
We have to remember that we have no control over another person's thoughts or actions, we can only control our own. So identify ways you can show him how you feel and do them...but also keep in mind that you can't control his reactions!
Anonymous
December 10th, 2017 12:26am
Try to spend more time with him, talk to him more in small topics then more bigger and bigger ones.
If your father has that feeling even after you've told him you don't hate him, you have done your part. You can demonstrate through your actions that you don't hate him. Show him love. Call him just to say hello or ask how he's doing. Stop by to see him just because you had the time. If you are telling him and showing him that you don't hate him, you are doing everything you can to remedy the situation.
First understand why he believes you hate him, then reassure him that you don’t! Reassurance can make a big difference!
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 2:15am
That has nothing to do with you but more to do with the state of his mind. Maybe he is unable to see what's before him.
Do your best to show him, actively, that you care about him. Talk to him, offer to get the door, remember what he say and bring it up later. Show him with actions, because they will always speak louder than words.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 5:36pm
Actions speak louder than words. Sometimes you have to prove to him you don’t. Just think about what you are doing before you do it.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 11:29pm
I think that this is something that will take time. I would just keep loving him and reassuring him that you do love him.
Kindness is the key to building any relationship. Respect him and express your love for him in a gentle way.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 11:50pm
You should sit down with the whole family and talk about this, tell him you appreciate him and hate is a strong word.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2018 4:42am
Prove to him by your behaviour that you don’t. Little acts of kindness take you along way. And the truth shall always prevail!
Your father might just be insecure. Spend some time with him and show him you truly care about his health and well-being.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2018 4:12pm
Maybe show him you don't by doing things he loves doing, taking him to his favorite places to visit, things like them might help show you don't
Anonymous
February 18th, 2018 4:24pm
Sitting down with him and calmly telling him how you really feel should make him see how much you love/like him.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2018 6:36am
Love him more ..show more care and concern in action..actions speak louder than words ..once he will start feeling the positive changes he will know that you really don't hate him but love him ..and whatever parents do they are the reason we are here ..so they never deserve our hate ....being a parent bwe come to know how much they care and sacrifice for us
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 4:32am
I don't know what made him believe that you hate him, but if you told him you don't, it's up to him
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 1:50am
Do something special with him, have a day just to hang out with him and do things you both like to have bonding time.
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