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What is the best way to stop controlling behavior?

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Last Updated: 04/04/2017 at 5:32pm
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Top Rated Answers
miikandhoney
April 4th, 2017 5:32pm
Set clear boundaries, be firm, reinforce boundaries, stick to rules and guidelines, don't wavier once because then the line gets blurred. Throughout all of this, communication, honestly, and trust is key.
spirityou
March 5th, 2015 9:06pm
Wait 15 seconds before responding in a tense situation. This allows you to process what demand (or control) has been exerted upon you and formulate an appropriate response to keep yourself safe and begin to break a pattern.
divinewillpower86
March 16th, 2015 11:32am
Behavioural aspect relates to personal moments and the environment one has lived in. If one has gone through very tough times say since childhood, chances are that person become STRONG to deal with any issue. However a person who has been in total security becomes vulnerable to smallest things in life. It's better to look for a hobby, chat and talk with friends, going for a walk, meditation, Yoga etc. will definitely ease the Living way.
JaideS6
April 11th, 2015 2:36am
Take a step back and realize you cannot control everything. The only thing you have 100% control over is yourself. Life just happens so let it!
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 6:05pm
You need to be assertive. It's not going to get better by hoping it will, action needs to be taken..
Anonymous
June 10th, 2015 12:35am
Depends if you're talking about your own or someone else's. If it's your own, start thinking about listening to people more. Once you start honestly listening to people rather than imposing your views on them, it can influence your own behaviour. The best way to stop someone else from being overly controlling towards you, is find someone else to be around. Or if you can't right now, make a plan, and get away from them.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 12:05pm
by developing skills such as listening to other, communication, empathy and most importantly to understand the basic feelings (sadness, happiness..etc)
herecomescameryn
November 10th, 2015 1:00am
tell the person that is being controlling that there behaviour isn't very nice and maybe they should try to change it
Anonymous
October 17th, 2016 11:37pm
I have had more than one man try to control me. I told them I wasn't looking for a daddy, but a partner. That I can make my own decisions, and did make my own decisions.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2016 9:34pm
This is a complex question as controlling behavior like many things falls on a spectrum. Many times maintaining appropriate boundaries in a consistent manner helps. The boundaries must be clearly defined, communicated and enforced. If the controlling behavior is extreme, harmful or creates a dangerous environment, it would be advisable to seek assistance from a well qualified professional as everyone's safety is the priority.