What to do when my parents don't trust me?

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Last Updated: 03/26/2018 at 10:33pm
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Angell
February 23rd, 2016 10:14am
Our parents have the right to be suspicious sometimes. They have experienced things that could have taught them many things. They know what all could go through our minds at a certain age. when they don't trust us we should try talking to them,assuring them how our life is going,sharing things with them. They should know about their children's concerns and how their life is going. We shouldn't be harsh with them for meddling and asking somethings,They have a right,
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2015 1:09pm
Generally when parents don't trust you, I don't think there's a hard and fast way to get their trust back. What you can do is prove it to them you're right, but for that you need to make sure that you are right indeed. You need to be confident about it and know it for sure. If you can prove it to them, then chances are they will start seeing why they should believe you. Another thing is, you can talk to them of course. Talk about why they don't trust you and see why they feel that way and then work on making it right and clear the confusion up.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2015 12:22am
I remember asking the same the question when I was 15 years old. I had put my mother through so much stress that she no longer believed and/or trusted me and I was always ground. Eventually, I decided to make a change. I slowly got myself together, stopped acting out, and eventually regained her trust.
heavenLily98
June 2nd, 2015 11:18pm
You have to earn their trust, start with small steps and you'll go far. Don't screw up when they are starting to have your trust and understand that they might know more than you so accept their advice.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2016 1:04am
Try to figure out why your parents don't trust you. After getting an answer talk to your parents about it.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 2:18am
i ask them why they don't trust me, and if they give me a proper answer then i'l be like okay, but if its a stupid answer i'll push on the subject more
Anonymous
March 26th, 2018 10:33pm
It’s very tough situation to be in when someone you’re close to doesn’t trust you. Typically it just takes time and honesty. It’s tough to maintain a smooth relationship with parents. Keep in mind it will have its ups and downs so just try to hang in there and be honest.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2015 6:40am
I went through a stage where my parents stopped trusting to me. It hurt to know that they didn't trust to simply go to the store. But I respected their wishes and earned their trust back by proving I was responsible and trustworthy. I did things like cleaning the house when I was at home. Not doing anything else that my harm their trust like sneaking out etc.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2015 5:56pm
Give them a reason to trust you. If you have made mistakes in the past, come clean and don't look back.
auditrice
September 22nd, 2015 6:56pm
The best way with trust issues is to talk about them. Most of the times trust issues arise because of some misunderstanding. Not on our parents part but on our part too sometimes we kept on assuming that they dont trust us but the reality is opposite. Best is to talk about it
HappyFrogger998
February 22nd, 2016 7:36am
All you can do is continue to behave responsibly and eventually they will learn that you can be trusted. If you feel you don't have opportunities, then sit with them and explain you want to show you can be responsible, and take on something like chores or another small responsibility. That way you can gradually show them you can be trusted.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2018 4:46pm
Show responsibility! For example, do things around the house, even when you aren't told to, take initiative!
warmsunshine23
December 28th, 2015 9:09pm
Make them trust you if they don't trust you chances are you have done something to break their trust
Anonymous
May 24th, 2016 3:38am
Do something to gain their trust, or talk to them about the real problem of the trust issues occurring.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2018 4:32am
Spend some time explaining to your parents how you are feeling and ask them about their trust concerns
Anonymous
February 20th, 2018 6:44am
Nothing :) And definitely don't stress over it! Trust is something that develops over time if you continue to maintain communication with the person. Once in a while, it's good to talk about it. It might be that they do trust you but are just concerned about your surroundings.