What would you do if were stressed that your family would be disappointed in a decision you made?

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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
January 18th, 2015 6:04am
Be strong in the knowledge that you did what was right for yourself. You cannot be true to yourself and always have the approval of others.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2015 6:04pm
Talk to them about the decision and why you made it. If you hurt them, apologize and move forward.
versatileOasis48
May 3rd, 2015 1:54am
Have you talked to them about the choice you made? Did you give them a reason why? What if you had talked it out with them before you made your choice?
Zoso67
June 17th, 2015 4:02am
Rationalize your thoughts and review your decision to its very core. Communicate with your family as to why this particular decision is the right choice for you as an individual.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 4:13pm
I would find someone I was comfortable talking with about my situation and I know wouldn't tell anyone along with support my decision.
Tantry
August 10th, 2015 11:01pm
In life, we cant make everyone happy. So the main mantra is to be happy with your decisions and if your family loves you, they too will be happy.Its also a vice versa process
PoliteOcean
September 7th, 2015 3:20am
Think about the decision that it is that you are making. Ask yourself how important is it. Ask yourself why would they be disappointed. Ask yourself if it was a choice that they made, would you be disappointed in them for making it? Talk with them about your choice or decision. You don't know what they will feel unless you are honest and talk with them about it. If you feel you can't then perhaps incorporate a trusted person to help you speak with them.
fancifulFlower65
November 10th, 2015 8:53pm
Probably most people would feel worthless, I would too. But then I want everyone to think about it. Who made the decision? You. And you had many motives so I don't owe anything to anybody to make me feel worthless.
joyfulSnow21
November 16th, 2015 8:20pm
If it were something serious, like getting pregnant or getting in legal trouble I would tell them. It would be hard and scary but very necessary to keep me safe.
Greatlistener87
March 22nd, 2016 6:37am
Suggest that you tell your family the truth about how u feel and what you wanna do about it. Its important to be honest and open and you will be surprised on how they will react.
helpfulocean33
June 6th, 2016 4:45am
When I'm stressed about my family being disappointed in a decision I made I usually go to them ask them not to be mad at me and tell them what I did, that way I get the stress out of my system and get it over with.
healingHelp
June 21st, 2016 6:26pm
Be open and honest - of course it depends on the situation, but family should always support you even if you've not done what they see as being the "right" thing to do. At the end of the day, it's your life and you're allowed to make your own choices and mistakes.
Alexisheretohelpyou2
July 26th, 2016 8:21pm
Hey sweetie, I felt like this through all my teen years, so I know how you feel. I know you want other people to be happy with your decisions, but you need to make decisions that YOU are happy with. I know you're stressing out over this, and I did too. But, you can please everyone, and if you try, you'll make yourself mesrible. Let go of that stress, and just try to do what's right; not what your family thinks.
gForce
September 27th, 2016 7:03pm
I've been in that situation. And I was so stressed the muscles on my lower back and butt, froze up. I did what I thought was right, even though it made me incredibly stressed out. That's just me though, you might do something different. It depends on the consequences, think about them.
MissLisa
January 3rd, 2017 4:49pm
Talk to them. Communication is a powerful tool. Talk to your family and tell them how you feel. - that way both sides can tell how they see the situation and often this helps family accept your decision
sweetPeace17
June 11th, 2018 8:19pm
I would consider whether the decision has that much of an impact on my life and also discuss that decision with my most trusted friend or friends before potentially mentioning it to my family.
felixthecat
July 24th, 2018 11:03pm
I would try to have a serious, but calm, conversation with my family and tell them my thoughts behind the decision to help them understand why i chose what I did.
NatalieLovesPeople
August 21st, 2018 2:39am
If I was in your place I would tell them how I feel and ask them to forgive me for disappointing them. If you're stressed about talking to them I would wait to talk to them when they're not in a bad mood or distracted by something else. Let them know you want them to be kind about listening to you since you're being brave and open enough to tell them what's going on. Everyone disappoints their parents at some point. They can't expect you to be perfect but they can continue to love you unconditionally and be there for you to support you in what ever it is you're going through.