What's the best way to get over your parent's divorce and remarriage?
Last Updated: 06/18/2018 at 2:34am
Jennifer Fritz, LMSW, PhD
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Day to day life can be stressful and overwhelming and my strength is assisting my clients in a supportive, empowering and practical manner.
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Divorce can be a really destructive thing, it can take a long time, and feels even longer. It can turn your whole world upside down, and remarriage can do just the same. Try to be as open with your parents and new step parent as you can be. It's important to have people around you to support you. Any change can leave us feeling lost, confused, angry and upset. It's completely natural to feel this way, the thing you need to concentrate on is managing and coping with these feelings. Learning to cope with this on a daily basis in a healthy way is the most important thing right now.
Be grateful for your parents' happiness. Their happiness doesn't have to mean your unhappiness. Find something you like about your step-parent. New families are never easy. They require emotional investment from everyone in order to work. Do your part to contribute to the happiness of all, and you will find it returned to you.
A parent's remarriage is never easy to deal with try and look at things from your parent’s perspective and understand that it is your parent’s life and their choice. It is also important I think to not view them as a replacement. Dont expect yourself to come around right away give yourself time. Compromise, see the good, show respect, learn to forgive and don't compare and ultimately extend a hand of friendship and try to not not feel jealous or guilty during this hard time.
To remind that it's not your fault and that sometimes a couple are better parents if they aren't together. With the remarriage think of it as another support person. Hopefully this is another person that in your life that is caring and loving and there if you need them.
I personally think the best way to move forward with parents divorcing or remarrying is to put yourself in their shoes. The decision they are making is going to benefit them greatly and they want and need your love and support during that time.
Remember that your parents still love you no matter what, and that in many situations, people are much better apart than they are together. Find ways to spend time with them one-on-one with you, and make attempts to bond with your new stepfamily as well. You don't have to love and adore each other right off the bat, but everyone should try to respect each other. Good luck!
This is an incredibly difficult question with no easy answers and by the words you have used "Get over", I am hearing that it is still causing you a great deal of distress
Well I don't think you should be sad I think you should be happy for them if they are happy and you should support them . the best way is to accept it and be happy
The best way to get over parent's divorce and remarriage is to think everything in life happens for a reason and its the part and parcel of life
Remember that your parents still love you no matter what, and that in many situations, people are much better apart than they are together. Find ways to spend time with them one-on-one with you, and make attempts to bond with your new stepfamily as well. You don't have to love and adore each other right off the bat, but everyone should try to respect each other. Good luck
Everybody is different. Not everybody is going to cope in the same way or manner. Somethings take longer than others to deal with. Some people take longer than other to cope with situations. If you feel that you are having problems getting over this situation or any situation, perhaps talking with both of your parents together and individually could ease your worry or feelings. Sometimes just having a friend or an adult you can trust is a good way to get your feelings out. If the feelings become too overwhelming, seeking counseling or therapy might be a good way to deal with those feelings. But the important thing is talking to your parents also.
Embrace their own individuality, as well as your own. You are never the reason for their breakup, nor should you be only reason that keeps them together. Everyone has right for their life, to live it and try to find happiness. Should they remarry, this doesn't change fact that they are your parents. Yes, they should have worked on their marriage, or they actually did. Yes they should bring more sense and love into it. Or they actually did? Yes, such things as love faded, affection gone and miserable companionship happen. One parent cheats or does something else wrong. Or they just don't feel it any more and part as friends. Whatever the reason, you are not it. But you still have two parents. And they love you. This is the fact that didn't change, when the whole world changed.
just relax and try thinking from their point of view once you understand their situation you would easily be able to sort out everything and get over it :)
Focus on other things. Family may be important, but friends are important too. Spend more time with your friends.
The best way to get over a remarriage is to be understanding. You have to accept the fact that your parent will be loving someone who is not your other parent. You have to forgive your parent for moving on, and understand that they are a human being too, and that they are allowed to find love in a partner, and not just within you, their child.
The best way is to respect the decision that your parents have made, knowing that it was done for a reason. Accept where they are and where you are and learn to build your life based on where you are and move forward.
Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of people and it's shame how relatable this topic is. The most important thing to remember is that none of this is your fault and you should never blame yourself for it. Far too many people blame themselves and ask themselves if they didn't something different it may of not happened. It is no ones fault and it is between your parents. You can't really get over it because it's something that will be there for the rest of your life. Your parents made a choice that made them happier and you should respect that and be happy for them no matter how much it hurts. If they have chosen to remarry and it may hurt but they have found someone who truly made them happy, it's important that people find happiness and you should be happy they are happy.
Distracting yourself is one thing. But in the end, you just have to accept it and always remember that no matter what their decision will be, they always cared and thought of you first.
Know that it isn't your fault! Dealing with divorce is very very hard and something that takes a HUGE toll on us, and something that commonly happens is we blame ourselves. It is not your fault.
The best way is to try to put your self in their shoes, no one likes to be alone and if they found someone else try to be happy for they're happiness. Parents are always there for you and we should do the same for them.
Living through parent's divorce can be very traumatizing and devastating for the children. it is a personal choice that the parents are making for their life. Unfortunately this personal choice does have an impact on the children. The best that children can do is learn to cope with their personal choices in the best possible way. It certainly helps if the children are old and mature enough to understand that the parents are trying their best to sort out the mess in their lives. The children will need to work on accepting the decisions that the parents have taken whether Divorce or Remarriage.
One very important thing to remember during this process is to know that this is in no way your fault! My parents are divorced and what has helped me is to talk to everyone in the process, your new step parents and siblings!
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