What's the best way to overcome an argument with your family?
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The best way to overcome an argument with your family is to talk about it. Tell each other your feelings and what is making you each upset. Family loves each other, no matter what. :)
Don't ! Just don't buy into fighting with them. Be silent and listen. Then calmly discuss things. If you are a minor you need to listen more whether you agree or not. Usually, (Usually) Parents are right and looking out for your best interest and you should be aware of this and listen more. As an Adult you can calmly and properly discuss matters.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2015 6:46am
Communication is key, failure to communicate about your problems can lead to further misunderstandings and arguments. Try to talk through the argument with your family in a caring, nonconfrontational way.
Give everyone some space and time to think about the situation. Once you're all calmed down and thinking clearly you can talk about it reasonably with them.
Listen. It's not about who is right and who is wrong. Put emotions to the side - Try and be as factual as possible. When you listen - you are showing that you love them and that you care about how they feel. If everyone talked at the same time about themselves - you wouldn't get anywhere. Then when you feel comfortable enough - speak your feelings as factually as possible so they can better understand your heart and where you are coming from. Listening is a language of love.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2017 3:49pm
Take some time off the argument if at all possible to get some perspective. Often, this gives you some fresh perspective and also helps all the emotions calm down. Also, get outside perspectives from people who are not involved in the fight. Then try and reach a compromise. If this is not possible, something has to change.
Two things. You either take some time off and go to your room or you ask them what did you do wrong. This clears the air, and also any misunderstandings. Lastly, count 1-10 but backwards and try to stay calm.
It depends whether it's about something small or big. If it's something small I usually wait it out everyone gets time to think about it and realise each other's point of views and after a while everyone has a better attitude towards each other. If it's something big I do the same thing, but then talk it out with my family.
Talk it out. Call the other person by name, stay calm and nice. If you find yourself very angry, count to 10 to help calm down.
The best way to overcome an argument is to take some time off. Cooling off is key for the solution. That's the best way. Try not to say anything hurtful that would affect you later.
I have asked myself this a lot over the span of the past three years. Something i think that helps is when you tell them you need to take some time to calm down and think through what you want to say and mean. Go and do something relaxing and come back when your ready, when you do that try and find a way to say exactly how you feel instead of arguing about it.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2016 9:57pm
Time. The bad thing about good time is that it ends but so is the good thing sobti bad time. Give time to yourself and your family and things will be settled .
listening is the prime solution to any problem. first, listen to your parents as they are anyhow more experienced than you are and they owe that much respect.once they are done saying their part,try to explain them how and what you feel.
Take a breather. If you're angry, you're going to act without reason. They're your family, and they love you.
I think the best way to overcome an argument with family is try and walk away before it happens if you can. If not then take it with a pinch of salt.
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 1:46am
The easiest and best way is to forgive and let it go. It truly is as simple as that. Love them every day or from far away. Let them know you care and treasure them when you can. One day they won't be here and neither will you.
The most important thing is, if it's an argument based on something that's changeable, to mend the bond after the argument. If it's something that can't be changed or you strongly disagree with, make sure you look at both sides, after you cool down and can think without the fight or flight adrenaline running. Look at why your parents feel that way and try to remember they weren't raised like your and sometimes it could be changes in your parents lives such as stress or anything that could be making them snap. Be aware that you are all human and can be snappy and let pride get in the way of things.
Personally, I cry it out and go for a walk. I am always really badly affected by arguments with parents, even though we're not that close. But it still is enough to make me feel pretty bad. I find it best to just remove myself from the situation in whatever way I can.
In my culture, adults are way better then kids. So even if I'm wrong, I say sorry and don't let it get to me, or try my best to reason with them using logic over emotions.
I have found that taking a short break is helpful. I try to disengage when things become too negative and stressful. The, when things calm down, we can usually come back together and find resolution and understanding.
In my personal experience it is the best to calm down and go over the argument in your head before sitting down with your family and discuss what happened between you them. It's important to communicate in a healthy and fair way. Try to sent "I" messages rather than "you" messages in order to not give the others a feeling of being attacked. Share your emotions and how you feel and ask them to do the same.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2015 10:00pm
Just talk it out with them. Explain to them how you feel and how you felt about their reaction. Some families don't react the way you'd like them to but, people are people and they live how they live. We just have to accept that and not dwell on it. Just explain to them how you see the problem and a way you think would be a nice way to overcome that issue.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2015 10:54am
There will always be difference of opinions, Valuing and respecting what person think is the way we can overcome Argument. Argument are there when the views don't match, Listening and accepting the person, then Seeing if there is your fault, then analyzing it on your beliefs, if there is your mistake then accept it and then move forward with it. If there is not your mistake, and still other is argumentative, accept that it's okay if he can't understand. And move forward
I believe that the best way to overcome an argument with your family, is to talk to your family about how the argument has made you feel, walk away to calm down, and focus on the positive effects of this argument, rather than the negative.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2014 2:07am
The best way to overcome any argument would be to talk it out...unless it's passed that point. Tell your family how you really feel about the situation. If you don't talk about what's bothering you...you can never find a solution.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2014 10:30am
Discuss options as civilised as possible. Never resort to yelling as it may aggravate the situation.
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