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Who can you turn to when your parents frequently discourage you ?

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Last Updated: 08/03/2020 at 3:41pm
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Lisa Meighan, MSc Psychology


Hello, I am Lisa and I work in a person-centred approach mixed with cognitive behavioural therapy. I believe we all have the potential to be the best we can be.

Top Rated Answers
January 16th, 2015 4:37pm
When my parents used to discourage me I couldn't find anyone to rely on. The only thing that kept me sane was my dear diary. I find helpful to make a tracking of my life and problems written down with timing and a good record. I'd just tell my diary what was going on and released my frustration. Not so long ago I let them read the first one I've ever written and they felt like they had been bad at parenting. We talked to each other and come up with a solution on the matter. So finally the people I could turn to when I was discouraged by my parents where them themselves.
June 4th, 2015 6:48pm
You can always go to a teacher or mentor at your school that you feel comforteble with. For me this worked very well. They can help you with their knowledge
January 12th, 2016 6:13pm
Based on my life experience i would say turn to one of your relatives like uncle .I remember that brother of my father(uncle) was alwayst there for me ,he was always helping me by talking with me in bad situations.He always told me that nothing is impossible and he was right ,he even supported me financialy when my parents didnt have any money .So yeah he was the father that i never had :)
April 17th, 2018 2:10pm
Ibturn to myself, because im the one responsible for me, and if they discouraged me, they wont be the ones loosing, i will, so i turn to myself first, and envourage myself , even if i fail, i try to do my best next time , i say to myself that i can do it. Because i can! Repeat to yourself every time they discourage you, I AM GREAT, I CAN DO IT, IM A SMART AND BEAUTIFUL!! I CAN MAKE A CHANGE IN THIS WORLD! I AN SPECIAL BECAUSE I AM ME
August 3rd, 2020 3:41pm
Just breath and think "I'm strong, brave, smart and I deserve all I want in my life". Parents may discourage you for various reasons: lack of love, fear of losing you, fear that you will fail... But, just think about one thing: If you don't believe in yourself first, how can other people believe in you? You can be your best friend. When your parents discourage you, just tell yourself that they are wrong, you are smart, strong and you can succeed in your life. And, if you need support, then go into a support chatroom, talk with your friend about this... Parents are an important figure in our life, but they are not the only one.
June 7th, 2015 1:03pm
Relatives are there. They can often help you. Or maybe someone who is slightly older than you like an elder brother or sister . Or a counsellor.
May 30th, 2015 8:54pm
When feeling discouraged by your parents, a trust friend, friend's parent, teacher, counselor, or some other adult can be turned to.
September 29th, 2015 4:17am
your friends and family and pets
June 10th, 2015 3:33pm
Think about who you have in your life that is positive and encouraging towards you and who you feel you can really talk to. It might be a teacher, a coach, an aunt or uncle, someone in a community or faith organization ....lots of times there are many people in our lives that could be great support to us that we don't even realize! If you are having trouble identifying anyone like this in your life right now and feel frequently discouraged by your parents or others, you can always talk to you your 7 Cups of Tea Listener about it....that's what they are there for! =-)
June 18th, 2015 2:17am
A good thing to do when those around you discourage you is to find an older adult friend who is also wise and ask them to be your mentor. A mentor is someone who will talk to you and support you.
June 13th, 2016 7:26am
your friends will always be there for you. other family members like cousins, aunts, and uncles may also be an option as well
August 16th, 2016 3:49pm
You can always talk to your relatives, siblings, friends or even to a listener :) we can always help!
May 1st, 2015 12:47am
You can turn to anyone on 7 cups, friend or other family members. You can even talk to your parents about how they make you feel :)
June 30th, 2015 6:58am
Someone you feel understands, inspires, and believes in you: a friend, a teacher or another relative
January 14th, 2016 9:33am
I always found personally that someone who was in the same situation as me, whether older or younger was able to understand what I was going through. Also seeking a counsellor was very helpful to make things more clear and how to go about the situation. I would highly recommend anyone that makes you feel worthy and happy to talk with :)
March 21st, 2016 8:43pm
Friends, other family members, and my personal favorite: TEACHERS! Teachers want to see you grow and improve, so making personal relationships with them is a great way to find encouragement.
March 22nd, 2016 6:02am
Some1 else that you can trust and that you can absorb positive energy out of will be a good start. It is good to be around positive people and friends when you are in a position such as this will help you to not go through the wrong roads in life.
July 4th, 2016 5:41am
It is a good idea to build a support network around yourself. This is a good strategy when the people who are closest to you are not quite there for you. You can put as many people as you like and they can include: Other relatives, friends, and other professionals. All these relationships should be built on trust and safety. Assuring you get the support you need.
March 13th, 2018 12:49am
First of all, you have to believe in yourself, always. You should have your own back. But when you really need some encouragment, frinds are always a good choice. Maybe you could also turn to people who have the same interests you have.
April 10th, 2018 8:03pm
Friends, relatives, work mates, teachers, professionals all can help encourage you depending who you feel comfortable to trust to talk to.
May 19th, 2020 2:47am
When your parents frequently discourage or dismiss you, you can turn to any mature or adult figure around you. If there are any teachers who have been kind to you, or who have understood you, those are good people to turn to. If you are close to any few relatives, those could be good people to be in contact with. A family friend could always help, or even an older sibling, perhaps a friend's older sibling. As well, a school counselor would most likely be willing to talk to you if you go to them. Any role model you feel comfortable talking to should be able to help :)