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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2017 11:09am
I don't know if you are good enough or you are not, but you don't necessarily have to prove anything to anybody. I'm sure you're trying hard to be good enough for them. Respect them for they are the reason for your existence. Be good and kind when you can. And the good you do will come back to you.
I am sorry you feel that you aren't good enough as I'm sure that your parents don't truly feel that way. Sometimes parents put a lot of pressure on us to do better, be better because they want the best for us. So when something goes wrong they react in ways that make us feel "not good enough". Talk to your parents, tell them how you feel. You may be very surprised that they probably didn't even know hat they were making you feel that way. We can't fix what we don't realize is broken. Talk to them.
Maybe they want you to be the best. Just talk to them with love and respect and tell them you are doing your best
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 2:57am
You are always good enough for your parents! I used to feel that same way to be honest. My mother and I do not get alone well at all, but we try. If they don't "love" you apposed, they just don't show it but they will always love you!
MY PARENTS HAVE LOST FAITH IN ME, THEY DONT BELIEVE ON ME, I GOT 65%, A MERIT IN MY 9TH GRADE BUT THEY KEEP ON SAYING I AM A FAILURE. PLEASE HELP ME HOW TO OVERCOME THIS BROKEN ME. I CRY EVERY TIME I AM ALONE.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 4:38pm
You are good enough for your parents what ever your parents decide to d is not your fault you are amazing
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 9:59pm
In my personal experience, I felt this way for a long time because my mother had post natal depression after I was born, but just know that you don't need your parents praise to feel confident about yourself as long as you are doing your best you should know you are good enough despite anyone elses opinions
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 11:28am
Parents can be difficult! They want the very best for their children but sometimes don't realize the pressure and stress that life brings for people of our generation. Your parents will be pushing you because they think this is what will get the best results - they want you to succeed and will by any means necessary strive for you to achieve the best you can. Try communicating with them. Explain calmly the way that you feel, explain that (if you feel this way) you can do no more. They love you dearly and it will mean more to have you happy then to have you suffer and think badly of them.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2017 12:17pm
Think of it in a different perspective, maybe your parents couldn't complete their goals in life so they are trying to achieve them through you which is wrong. Try explaining them about your goals and plans and slowly making them believe that what you do doesn't depend on the end result but the effort.
Sometimes, parents put a lot of pressure on their kids, and it seems like it's because they think their kids aren't good enough. However, most of the time parents just love their children and want them to be the best version of themselves. Just let your parents know how you feel about them pushing you and, if everything's in order, they'll understand and pull back. People show love in different ways, and sometimes we have to work to understand their love.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2017 5:27pm
As long as you're good enough for yourself, other people don't matter. Not all parents are good parents, maybe yours are but they need to open their eyes to see that their child is perfect just the way he/she is. Unless he is a serial killer.
Your parents have an image of who they'd like you to be and they want to see you happy and their expectations met so that they know they have brought up a worthy person. More often than not that puts extreme pressure on kids and often crushes their dreams. Parents need to learn that the child they bring up is not an extension of themselves so they have to let them be free and make choices and kids need to start putting boundaries in their relationships with their parents if they are too overbearing. There are ways to deal with this but mostly it comes down to realising that you are your own person and you are worthy even if your parents aren't happy with some of your choices.
You may feel this way due to stress and anxiety over exams. As long as you always try your best, that should always be good enough for your parents.
Your parents wish you the best and so, they wish of you to be better than you are, because they think that you can do things better than you do it now, overlooking all your frustrations.
Your parents expect so much more from you because they want you to do better at life. You are enough for your parents no matter what, but they just want you to succeed at life.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 2:57am
Sometimes parents have unrealistic expectations for their children. Don't let it get to you. Even if they don't consider you good enough, you are, and you can do things and accomplish things in your own way. You do not need their approval in order to be worth something.
Nobody should ever make you feel not good enough. Everybody is special in their own ways and has much to offer the world around them. If someone including your parents is making you feel bad about yourself that’s a “them†issues. They’re are the ones unhappy and not secure within themselves. That’s why they bring others down and make others feel inadequate or not good enough.
I'm sure your parents love and appreciate you no matter what. Your parents may have high standards for you to meet, maybe in terms of education. It helps to remember that your parents want that for you so you have a better life in the future - it is all done in your best interest, even though it may not feel like it at the moment. You might feel like you're not good enough because your parents have made you feel like you're not meeting the standards they expect of you, but it doesn't mean they value you less. They probably feel like you could be working harder or taking things more seriously.
It's not that you aren't good enough for your parents. Your parents aren't good enough for you. You deserve better.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 3:26pm
You are! It may not seem like it especially if you are still young. Your parents love you. It may not seem like it but all they want you to do is have a good life and succeed that's why they are so hard on us.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 2:06pm
I think it’s either they were expecting a lot from you because at one point you’ve shown them you have so much potential or they have dreams and expectations they were’nt able to pursue themselves that’s why they’re putting the pressure on you.
You may not feel good enough for your parents, but surely you are! When a parent it tough on a child, they usually believe that they think they know what is best and want you to succeed. This doesn't mean they go about it in the right way! Perhaps you can help them understand you more by talking with them or showing them what you are doing in life. Communication is key, but if they still do not agree with you, they will have to come to terms with who you are and not with who they want you to be. Hang in there!
Everyone is good enough for their parents. Weather you realize it or not they love and care about you
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 8:06pm
I’m more then sure that you are good enough for your parents. Sometimes I might not feel like it and if so I really think you should tell your parents
Anonymous
April 29th, 2018 12:03pm
Parents only want the best for us and sometimes they don't always show that in the best of ways. It's not that you're not good enough for them, it could just be they think they know that you can be more. You can try telling them that you understand they only want the best for you but you're just going at your own pace and you're happy. All our parents really want from us is for us to be happy.
As a parent, it is not that our children are not good enough. It is that, as the parent, we are always striving for our children to have a better and brighter future than we did for ourselves.
Hey no, don't think like this. I used to think this all the time because my parents always wanted more than what I could do and it made me super depressed and it was the worst. You are enough, your parents may have brought you into this world, but that was their choice and you owe them absolutely nothing. You do not have to overexert yourself just to try and make them happy. What I did was tell my mother that I couldn't do it and her pushing me was also her pushing me away. Everything isn't magically perfect now, but my mother accepts the choices I make. I hope this helps you
Anonymous
June 8th, 2018 11:32am
Because they want a perfect child not knowing that not a single humanbeing on earth is perfect. The are expecting more but that doesn't mean you're not good enough.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2018 5:28pm
We all try to please our parents because we want them to be proud of us, but in the end trying so hard to please can leave us with much unhappiness.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 8:41am
The pressure to be accepted by our families is enormous. They are where we came from. How to be good enough for them well I believe you can only be good enough for yourself. Other people's opinions including parents are going to be different and change. If we find it within ourselves acceptance then you will find what others think including parents won't matter as much.
Imagine if you lived your life as like a puppet for someone else. That's what I imagine living a life through others opinions could feel like ðŸ˜
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