Why am I not good enough for my parents?

Hello there. In my experience, my parents are the hardest people that I try to please in my life, this includes teachers, coaches, bosses and more. Everything would be a fight with my parents, everything including grades in school, my social life, work life and everything in between. What I have learned though out my life is as long as I work hard and I do everything that I want to do in my life, that it does not matter what other people think. I know it might be hard to develop this mentality, as most people want to please their parents, if you work hard and accomplish everything you want to, your parents will be proud of you even if they don’t show it.

No one is not good enough for their parents. Some parents are just not good at raising children, or just don't understand children. They don't always mean it that way, but some just have a hard time accepting their children, because they are not the way they want them to be. Some parents abuse their children, even though they don't notice. Everyone deserves good parents, but some parents are just not good parents. And everyone makes mistakes, also parents. So I hope your parents will learn to accept you as you are. If not: you are valid, you deserve your dreams, and you are loved.

You are a HUMAN, just like everyone else. If your parents are saying taht you are not "NOT GOOD ENOUGH", it means they are comparing you to someone else. Someone who is not YOU. No one is perfect, neither your parents are, neither the person they are comparing you to. Some people are never satisfied, no matter how good you are, you won't be able to satisfy them. But, you can always keep improving yourselg, not by comparing with others, but yourself. Make yourself a better person everyday. Be a better person than what you were yesterday. And most importantly.... STAY HAPPY :)

Sometimes it can feel like you're never good enough for your parents, but the truth can be far, far from this. Your parents love you, they feel unconditional love for you, but they may be lousy in expressing that love and appreciation towards you. The most you can do is be yourself, do not work too hard to please your parents. If you are happy, and if you work hard for something which truly matters to you, then that is your personal success. Sometimes we never feel good enough for people, and sometimes those people hold high standards because they care for you and they KNOW that you can always have more room towards improvement :) I hope that helped

Why do you think you are not enough? Have you talked to them about your feeling? It might be just a feeling, not a reality. If they behave the way you feel this, you need to talk to them in an appropriate time, talk to them calmly and peaceful. They may not be aware of this and talking to them help them to understand what they cannot see now. I think this is helpful to discuss their expectations and yours with your parents. Once you have an agreement on your goals you all will thrive for achieving them and they will assist you instead of making you more nervous.

Without knowing your parents, or understanding their feelings and motives, this can be a difficult question to answer accurately. However, it is an incredibly important question nonetheless, because it implies a feeling of "not measuring up". Maybe your parents want the best for you, maybe they want you to have more options available to you than they had when they were starting out, maybe they have high standards. Without speaking to them, we simply can't know and can only guess at what they might be thinking. In any case, it is important for you to know that you are important and matter regardless of what any other person thinks of you, regardless of what they expect of you, regardless of the expectations you meet or don't meet, regardless of what you are capable of, and regardless of how much you accomplish. Your worth is intrinsic to your being. You have worth whether you succeed in the ambitions of your life or not. You have worth because you "are". You are worthy. Acknowledging this can help you feel less emotional upheaval about "not being good enough" for specific people's standards because you will see that you are enough just as you are.

your parents may have several expectations for you - based on their experience and their wants and needs. sometimes what you are doing may not seem like much in their eyes, just because they want something different. but that does not mean at all that you are not actually good enough. you are doing great for where you are in your position of life right now. and you should keep trying to get higher. but meeting parents' or teachers' expectations can be hard and should not be something you stress too much over, is what i personally think. you just do you!

Parents have high expectations usually because either their parents held them to the same standards that they expect out of us or the complete opposite: their parents were too easy going or did not care much. The way our parents are brought up help influence how they raise their children, whether they want to continue to be strict like/unlike their parents. They grew up in a different time period where things weren't as easy as they are right now. The way out parents were taught in school differ from the way we are taught now. Being from an asian background, my parents school lifestyle was intense with several hours spent each day to study for just one class. My experience is much different as I was brought up in a different country where our studies are not as intense as that of my parents. I feel like if most parents who don't show appreciation for their children's hard work aren't used to expressing emotions. They may feel proud of you on the inside but refuse show it.

When I feel this way I realize I am not doing the thing they want me to do. Sometimes just our "good" doesn't match. And when I realize what they want me to do, and i do it i feel good enough and their attitude changes, they show it too. And sometimes they expect me to do things i am unable to, or so hard for me. I havent tried it but i guess i can try talking about this problem and how it gives me anxiety. And also sometimes even though they show me i feel unloved. And feel myself not enough. Even tough they dont think this way.

Hello, I understand how it feels when you feel lack of connection with your loved ones. It can happen and it happens with many people specially with their parents. I am sorry you are going through a tough time with your parents. There could be several factors where your parents think less of you and you get hurt because of that. You would know your situation better. Can you find some reasons why your parents think that way of you ? Do not be harsh on your self. Have you asked your parents directly about it ever ? What did they say ? If this stresses you too much you can find some activities or interests to divert your mind and try to see if the relationship improves with time. If it still bothers you, it will be better to discuss this with someone who will understand. All the best.

Parents often project certain expectations on their children because they believe that their children should be great and achieve the things they themselves weren't able to. A lot of times these expectations are set out of love and hope for your better future. It doesn't mean you aren't good enough, you are the best you can be at this moment if you are putting the efforts in the right direction. Usually, being more vocal about your concerns with parents can be a good idea as without communication parents also cannot understand what they are putting their child through. Perfect parents don't exist and neither does the model child and I hope you realise that.

Have you talked to your parents? Do you know that this conclusion is truly how they feel or is it an assumption you’ve made? These are some important questions to ask yourself when dealing with feelings of unworthiness. In a lot of cases, starting the conversation, as scary as it may be, can often lead to answers you maybe thought were different. Try talking, be open and honest, and see where that conversation goes. If in the end, you’re still having doubts, it may be in you to find out why you feel like this, and is it just your parents? Is this a common feeling for you when it comes to others, or jobs, or situations? When do these feelings tend to present? Look at the entire situation in front of you and clearly try to break it down. Only then will you have a path of information to guide you to the answers:)

I'm so sorry you were made to believe that you were not good enough. You are good enough, more than good enough. And its really sad that your parents cant see that because even though i don't know you, you seem like you value their opinion and care about them and you deserve to have the make you feel worthy too. You are amazing, despite what they make you feel. You are good enough, repeat this to yourself in your head every time you feel like you aren't because i believe that you are. Take care of yourself. Sending hugs and support.

One of the reasons why you may feel that you are not good enough for your parents maybe because they do not show their emotions much. Many parents are very proud of their children but they do not know the proper way to tell their children or express their emotions well. This does not mean that they do not love you any less, just that you are not aware of how big their love is. Maybe they show disappointment or frustration towards you because they know how well you are capable of doing but you yourself do not realize it yourself. Love yourself and work hard for yourself and hopefully eventually, you will see your parents' love as well.

You can spend a lifetime wondering why you are not good enough for your parents. The truth is your parents came into this world with their own baggage and a lot of times that can get dumped onto a child, or children. It can be extremely destructive to a child, or children to always be trying to live up to unrealistic expectations set by their parents. Many times the parents of a child, or children are dealing with their own self-hatred and insecurities and that can often be the cause of the negative self-doubt that they instill in their offspring. It is hard to escape the trappings of our childhood and the damage that these negative messages can bring. Try to remind yourself that you are important and that you are valuable and make sure that you surround yourself with positive support systems and people who love you just as you are.

I believe that first you should rephrase this question, to something more like "why do my parents think I'm not good enough?" or "why does it feel like my parents think I'm not good enough?" Know that, there may be many different reasons for this. The first thing you must keep in mind is that, if they truly believe you are not good enough for them, that is not on your shoulders but on theirs. Next, I'd love to ask you to think through why you think this. Perhaps write out or reason with yourself why it feels like you are not good enough for your parents. After brainstorming reasons you feel this way, or they think this way, think of how your problem could be solved. Try to speculate if you should have outside intervention, or if you could talk to them alone.

You are very brave to open up. It's okay to feel frustrated and not good enough sometimes. Parents may pressure you at times or make you feel unworthy or even have preferences for your siblings. It doesn't make a nice experience. From my experience, I learnt to love myself and feel worthy and that way prove to them that I am good enough by doing stuff that I love. I believe you will be able to overcome that and prove to yourself that you are good enough. Don't pressure yourself though. Just do things that you love and consider yourself a very worthy and good enough person.

All parents have different expectations for their children. It depends on what your family structure is like, and how you grew up, and the parenting techniques that your parents use - are they very strict? Are they authoritarian parents? Do they have a permissive parenting style? How do you relate to your parents? Some psychologists look at the attachment theories of how parents relate to their children. I have found out in my situation that I always had to stand up for myself and I was always trying to meet my parents high expectations and goals that they set for me. I have found that through self-reflection, guided visualization, calming techniques, and an excellent therapist that it is who I am that makes me who I am. I might never meet my parents expectations but I can only be the best that I can be. If that is not good enough for parents for a child to be who they want to be, and show themselves for who they are, then this can cause conflict between parents and their children. A person needs to try to figure out who they are, and their role in life, and where they belong, and this can be a lifelong journey. It helps with gender expression, cultural expression, and sexual identity and how we approach relationships as well. I have found that certain parents have unreasonable expectations for their children, and others do not set high enough expectations if their child has a disability or mental health diagnosis. You need to find out your own interests/hobbies, and find out what you want in life. Where is the discrepancy of where you are at now and where you want to be? Where do your parents want you to be right now and in the future? This might give you an answer of why you feel that you are not good enough for your parents - it might come down to the expectations of where you are at now, and where they see you in the future. I have found this to be 100% the case in my own life experience.

Good enough is very relative. Sometimes people have a lot of expectations, and it's not your job to meet every one of them, you know? You didn't ask them to have those expectations. Just remember that you know about yourself, whether you're improving or not, whether you're a better version of you today, or not. That's not decided by anyone. Not your parents, not your friends. Just you. So it's not that you're not good enough for your parents. They simply have expectations that you cannot meet, and that's not your fault. I know all this is easier said than done. That not being good enough is a horrible feeling that haunts you all day. But do try to remember that you are good. You are trying, and that is good.

Everyone has their own ideas of what good enough means to them. Sometimes you can waste a lot of your time trying to please someone who does not seem to understand that you are trying your best. Maybe to them, they have high expectations for you that you will never be able to meet. Maybe, they are not good at showing appreciation for you as much as they are able to show things that they wish to critique you on? I know you are searching this wondering if you will find answers to get your parents to see the worth that you have but I am here to tell you that searching to be good enough for someone, even your parents, will only disappoint you. You should be good enough for yourself.

Feeling like you're not good enough for your parents is an awful feeling. If your parents have outright said you're not good enough, then that's even worse. If this is just a feeling you're having, it might be worth it to bring the topic up to your parents. I know when I brought the topic up to my mother, it turned out she was actually just expressing her own anxiety over situations outside of her control, and a way for her to feel like she was pushing me to be my best while protecting me. Being told you're not good enough by a parent is NOT a reflection of you. It's a reflection of their own insecurities and shouldn't be how you define your self-worth (as difficult as that may be).

Why aren't we good enough for parents? Good question. Every person at one point or another feels like they disappoint their families. For example, you get an A in a subject you have trouble with, yet you are told you should at least have an A+. Why isn't an A good enough? Parents want the best for their children and for them to be just like them. Maybe you want to major in cosmetology, when your parents want you to be a nurse like your mother. That's a decision that makes you different from them, and that they may not like. So if you are scolded like this again, try to say, "I'm doing my best, thanks"or "I feel confident doing this, but thanks for the concern". You need to be slightly firm with what you believe and think. Good luck, and take care!