Why can't I feel part of a family at home?

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Last Updated: 07/17/2018 at 5:53pm
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Katheryn
June 5th, 2015 3:17pm
Sometimes a family isn't always the people who are in the closest relation to you. Parents, children, siblings, etc... don't always love us or treat us in the way that we want or deserve. I think it's natural for there to be some type of disconnect sometimes between you and your family. Maybe they just can't relate to the things you like to do or are into, and maybe you feel the same about them. If they are treating you in a negative or harmful way, perhaps it is best that you don't feel this connection with them. Just because they are family doesn't mean that they are supportive, caring people to be around. Can you talk to your family (or someone in your family) to try and resolve this feeling? Do you have friends or another support system that you can relate to and feel supported by?
Anonymous
March 8th, 2015 7:52pm
maybe because of some problems from the past? try to talk about it to your family. maybe they will find solution?
courageousMagic24 - Expert in Family Stress
May 2nd, 2015 6:20pm
I can't feel part of my family because I'm 20 living with my parents. And often, I feel embarrassed because I get taunts and lectures that by this age, I should have been getting a job, graduated college and having my own place. I don't yet, and thats why I feel uncomfortable with them.
SeekInnerPeace
November 30th, 2015 2:19pm
Oftentimes we focus on the differences and what separates us from other people. We have to begin to look at how we are connected and work towards building stronger connections.
Emiliesks16
November 3rd, 2015 3:13pm
Some people may have experienced something that have made them feel a bit outside from their family x It can be anything really x I`ve experienced it aswell x It`s sad that some people don`t feel like a part of the family even at home, but it can be due to for example abuse, not feeling respected, amdreally anything in general x Some might feel a bit outside even though nothing`s happened x
DipityEnigma
April 16th, 2015 3:28pm
It greatly depends on the issues your family may or may not have. If the main people in your family for example are always busy, you may feel like you're not needed within the family as you have nothing to offer. Sometimes the best thing to do are the simplest. If you don't already do so, you could try doing chores on a daily basis. This way, you'll feel like you're an asset to your family. You could also try making dinner or breakfast every now and then, providing that you like cooking of course. I don't know anything about you but you could also buy in groceries to make things easier for you and your family. Maybe even suggest a game night or a family get together every now and then. Hope this helps.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2015 10:34pm
Maybe because you feel there's no communication or support at both sides (from they to you & from you to they) you feel displaced and alone. But you also want to connect with them, to feel and speak up.
Greatlistener87
January 26th, 2016 2:18am
Lack of communication and unity can cause distance between family members. Always try to communicate with your family and let them know how you feel about things.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2016 1:51pm
You're always part of a family at home. It's just that, sometimes it is us who question yourself if are we worthy? or if are we the same as everyone else in order to fit it? Home i where your family accepts who you are and you should be comfortable being with them.
lindaeu
July 17th, 2018 5:53pm
You should ask this question for yourself. What makes you feel different? Why you can't be a part? Who can help you feel better?