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Why can't I stop fighting with my brother?

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Last Updated: 10/09/2018 at 9:54pm
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SkyeBlue
February 11th, 2015 10:49pm
Sibling rivalry is a very common thing in most families, it's very normal for siblings not to get along. You fight because you're both different, you have different views, different beliefs, different likes, dislikes, all those things. It doesn't mean that you don't love each other, as siblings should, and it doesn't necessarily mean that you have done something wrong, it just means that you have a difference of opinion or clashing beliefs. Sometimes siblings like provoking each other, to gain a reaction, to feel better about themselves, or to have a laugh, there are a lot of reasons ^-^ Trying to see the situation from your brothers perspective could possibly help the situation and vice versa. Instead of letting out your anger at him, maybe try stepping out of the room to cool down before it turns ugly ^-^
WolfImmortal
September 29th, 2015 5:28am
Set boundaries! Good fences make good neighbors, and good boundaries make good family. Keep a record of the fights in your journal, and look if there's a common pattern that leads to the fight always. Break that pattern!
kayu
November 17th, 2015 12:08pm
When you get close to someone you expect a lot of things and when those expectations are not fulfilled you are sad, it hurts you, this is one of the reasons you fight with your brother.
heavenPurple92
May 26th, 2015 9:28pm
I used to have epic battles with my little brother haha You'll both grow out of it. It's mostly due to personality clashes really. Just give each other space and be there for each other no matter what. Your both siblings! Not enemies (even though sometimes it feels like it). You both need each other and need to be there for each other but you also need to respect each others spaces. If you're both pretty young, you'll grow out of it eventually. If you're both over the ages of 20 then maybe having a conversation with each other to sort your issues out might work better. Good luck!!! :D
Koolkcid1
June 1st, 2018 4:52pm
I think its because maybe you want better for your brothrt, so your trying to keep him in line,but your brother doesn't realize that your trying to help and not trying to go against him. You can olny help a person so much and if he doesn't want your help you can't force it on him. And I feel another reason why is because maybe you play with him too much. If you don't establish a time and a place to things then it going to be a all the time situation...which you don't want.
serenePresence28
May 3rd, 2015 5:38pm
Because siblings are just going to fight. There is just no way around it. However, it is always in everyones best interest to just try and take some deep breathes and talk things out if you can.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2015 5:12pm
fighting sometimes is a fact of life, its a stage we all experience through which we try to understand each other and try to get along. Fighting can be a result of many things such as having different opinions, feeling left out, being board, being competitive or basically misunderstood each other. You have recognised the first step in trying to stop fighting which is acknowledging that you actually fight. It is sometimes helpful to take a step back and think about the situation and think about your relationship with your brother. Compromise might come into action when talking about it and trying to come with a common ground to help you maintain a health emotions and manage your fighting together.
HereToHelp865
June 7th, 2016 4:41pm
Siblings tend to fight, it is part of human nature. However, if it is occurring consistently, you may need to apologize for anything negative you have said or done as that tends to leave them with a sense of forgiveness and help you both to move on in the best way possible! I am sure your brother would appreciate your apology, even if you feel you have not done anything wrong, he should appreciate your concern!
AshleighYG
July 28th, 2015 10:11pm
It's completely normal to fight with your siblings. If it's really bothering you, then I would suggest that as soon as you feel an argument coming on, just walk away and take some time.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 3:48am
Ahh.. Siblings. The reason siblings fight, is simply why all other species of animals fight. For that is what humans are, an animal species. The reason behind the brawn is simply to establish domanince, and constantly try to gain domanince in order to know where one stands in the pack or tribe. All species do it.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 12:51pm
Every sibling is like your brother, this is because you have diffrenet opinions, diffrenet beliefs etc so it is absolutely natural if your brother fights with you. The best solution is to record everything that you fight about, in this way you can stop talking about these things, because if you talk about them this will lead to arguments so whenever you fight about something record it to avoid arguing again.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 4:13am
What is it that usually leads to your fighting? Try to pinpoint and identify this issue so you can try your best to avoid fights.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2016 8:11am
By making the conscious decision to not fight with your brother. You must always be conscious of the trigger before you react to a situation.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2018 9:54pm
I’m sorry to hear that you unfortunately cannot stop fighting with your Brother You may be fighting with your brother becasue you have different opinions other reasons may be is that you may not be spending enough time togheter or there jug t be other reasons on why you are arguing you can speak to your brother on this topic which will help drastically I’m sorry your feelings this there are many ways to resemble the issue speaking is a key help which will help drastically there are many reason of this and there are many resolutions you may no be as close with one sibling but may another.