Why can't my family be happy?
Last Updated: 06/13/2016 at 3:31pm
Andrea McDonald, MSW, LICSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
It is important to know that you are not alone, life can be difficult I am here to help you navigate and resolve issues that can feel overwhelming.
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It seems you are concerned about your families well-being and that's awesome. Tell me, in what sorts of situations do you feel your family isn't happy?
Every Family has their own issues, some more then others. Always remember that a family is a body with many heads. & if there are many heads means there are many brains that have their own thoughts and believes. This difference is what causes arguments, but sometimes arguments means the person cares so much about it that they want you to know.
That is a difficult question, there are many reasons, circumstances, people's histories and their perspectives that shape their emotional state. There's not one thing that can pinpoint the reason.
I'm so sorry that you feel your family is unhappy. Maybe you don't know this, but you can ask around, but almost 100% family members don't think their family is completely perfectly happy, without any hurt or sadness. This means that every family is happy of some points, and unhappy at other points What you want, is a perfect happy family . It's logical and rightful to want like that. But reality is hard, if everyone can be happy, then the US divorce rate can't be 50% like that. But there is still good news, that if you can accept the imperfect of your family, and still live happily yourself, then your being happy can make great change to other family member. Try it , you wont be regret!.
Happiness is really a choice and when until people choose happiness and strive to get that, they won't be happy. We have t choose happiness and takes the steps necessary to get there.
Sometimes families could through a lot of stuff. We have to give them space... It is hard at the start but as time progresses we learn to understand that our families have their ups and downs. No one is happy 24/7 , and don't think that your family is the only family that isn't happy , there are other family's too , you're not alone. Some parents don't feel attracted and understanding towards each other anymore and some have financial issues or some just simply don't know how to deal with a certain situation. Your family will be happy at the end .. communication and co-operation is the key.
Family can be a hard thing sometimes. Because families are so close that also means that they are very comfortable. A lot of times they put the pressure of things they cannot do on others. Truth is, they can be happy. They just need to have no expectations. If they can't do that they just love them anyways. Family is forever. You don't pick them. Much grace to you!
Some people are not aware of what they have until it is gone. Happiness can mean different things to everyone. Some people like material things, but do not recognise wealth of fa mily around them. Some people find it hard to show their happiness. Sometimes life gets in the way and changes people so they can't be happy. Happiness is life, life is what you make it?
This is a very open ended question. You can very well ask, "Why can't people be people." In general, people are not perfect. They try to attain happiness, as an ultimate goal and those who are a peace with themselves and others are happy people, but not one is 100 percent happy all the time. It depends on the situation with your "Family." Maybe they are happy, they just don't show it. Maybe they have some mental health issues also that were never addressed, which should be addressed. You also have to remember all families, even the closest ones, get in fights and go through rough patches. So that's normal. IF there were more specific details of your family of why they don't seem happy, then a professional therapist, would be able to help. Family problems can be VERY complicated and family therapy an be a big help!
Ask them. This therefore helps you understand why they are not happy and make them sure that they have someone to talk to. If they dont feel comfortable telling you or say you are too 'young' at least you have not given it a go
happiness is a choice. may be one of your family member chose not to be that's why the whole family cant be truly happy.
Based on my experiences, it's usually difference on interests and lack of communication. If a member of a family has to keep on making sacrifice to please others, he/she is bound to explode sometime.
Sometimes families aren't exactly happy together. It's never anybody's fault, and there's no way you really can repair it. But as long as you stay close to every member of your family you'll be happy with them.
Maybe there are unsolved problems or you all need to just sit down and discuss about matters and clear the waters.
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