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Why can't they accept me for who I am?

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Last Updated: 08/30/2021 at 3:35am
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Top Rated Answers
April 11th, 2016 8:22am
Sometimes people can't accept what they can't relate to. It does not mean they are right it just means they are not the type of people that you want to be hanging around in your life.
November 25th, 2015 6:38pm
How are you feeling about who you are? If you are feeling uncomfortable or insecure about yourself, this is something we should try to talk about. Building up your confidence in who you are could help. It won't bother you as much when people aren't accepting of you if we can work on your own self esteem. Does that sound like something that you would like to talk about?
April 14th, 2015 1:44pm
Because they have different mind set and everyone is individual. There is no universally good or bad. It is all about one's understanding, sensibility, attitude, and culture. If they have no ability to understand you, you better keep moving on. Life is beautiful and you were born alone and will die alone... just think that.
April 16th, 2015 3:40pm
People don't like change and when they see someone that is different, they don't know how to react. It's like the new kid in school; are they a nerd who's going to harm their reputation? No one knows what your personality is like if they can't see past what you wear or look like. The main issue is society is reputation and if someone who's obviously different could have any chance of harming that, they get all defensive. In its crazy way, not being accepted into society is a compliment because you'll never be as low as they are; you'll always be the person who people will be intrigued by; simply because you're not an open book like most people.
April 30th, 2015 10:36pm
humans are interesting creatures. We pick out those who we see a lot of ourselves in and cast out those who aren't like us.We tend to avoid and be scared of what we don't know. Dont take anything personal that you know for a fact wont affect you in the next year. If "they" can't accept you for who you are, then find someone who will. It's scary at first, but it will benefit greatly. i wish you the very best of luck.
March 24th, 2015 9:44pm
You have no control over what other people think, say or do, but you have control over your reaction. Perhaps they are jealous of you, or perhaps the are insecure. Whatever the reason, be proud of who you are. Stand tall and strong and take pride in yourself. If they don't want to accept you, that's their loss.
February 2nd, 2016 6:39pm
Things to think about: 1. What really matters is: do you think you need to change? 2. Be kind to yourself if you decide to change. 3. Don’t be afraid to lose false friends. 4. Could your supposed weakness actually be your strength?
December 28th, 2015 8:36am
Because they're wrong, ignorant, confused, caught off guard, disoriented. Eventually, they'll adjust, or they're not worth your time anyways.
September 6th, 2015 8:15pm
Its hard to say what others might be feeling or why people do the things they do. Its not easy. But just keep your head up and keep being you and doing the best you can to be the best person that you can be.
February 29th, 2016 12:04pm
because they aint the right people for you, the good people always accept you for who you are. So if you don't feel the support of people around you, you may be surrounded by the wrong people
August 6th, 2018 5:46pm
Because they don’t understand. They might be jealous or want you to better. They expect too much yet too little. Be the best version of yourself. Don’t let them put you down
September 8th, 2020 3:11pm
Sometimes, we should be 'selfish', as in not caring about what others feel but instead, caring about our own emotions. Love yourself more than others. I know you might feel that you need to fit in, but believe me, pretending to be someone you are not is not going to be worth it. Are you happy with being the one who you are not in the first place? Based on my personal experience, I tried hard to fit in, and I failed. I ended up being the real me, and people like me for it. People hating on you? Believe me, its like only 10% of people like that, while the other 90% love you for who you are! So be confident, be you!
August 30th, 2021 3:35am
If some people can't accept you for who you are, then it is them that needs to grow. Don't look down on yourself for the judgments that some people make of you. You just need to stay being yourself. "That's what makes you unique." It may not exactly make much sense now, but in the future it will. Your good abilities exist, and simply because some people can't notice them, doesn't mean they aren't there. Learn to love yourself more, and be happy with the person that you are. Reflect on yourself. Live today like it's a new beginning!