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Why do I always feel so pressured by my parents?

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Last Updated: 08/11/2020 at 5:54pm
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bestTruth96
January 16th, 2015 2:42am
Parents want what is best for us. Sometime they don't always show it is the best ways. Maybe your parents tell you to study all the time is their way of telling you they want you to be successful in life. Good grade will lead to better things like a good job.
starryRiver83
March 14th, 2015 6:16pm
Sometimes parents want the best for their children, particularly for the future and without realising it can cause pressure by indicating certain ways in which things should be done. You are probably worrying in case something goes another way that they do not like. Either way, parents will support you no matter what and you can only ever do your best. You have to do what makes you happy and not overexert yourself to suit what you think are their expectations.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2015 9:12pm
You might feel this way because your parents have expectations of you. They wouldn't have them if they knew you couldn't fulfill them :)
JadeHarley
June 4th, 2015 8:43pm
Parents tend to want their children to live the life they lived, or in many cases, live a better life than they lived. They can be very well-intended, but still have a hard time seeing beyond their own ideas of what the right path is, or the ways the world is different for youth today than it was when they were your age. They end up pressuring you to stay in the small channel of life as they understand it, rather than encouraging you to explore and find your own path.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 12:42am
So many times, parents want so much for their children to be successful that they lose sight of exactly how they are conveying that message. Their delight in your success gets shadowed by their eagerness for you to actually perform and it comes across as pressure. Unfortunately, sometimes too, parents do apply too much pressure and it is not just perception.
someonepositive
June 30th, 2015 3:06am
parents wants children to do good all the time, they might not even realise how much it effects you. if you share a good relationship with them and share your thoughts and be open with them then you and your parents can realise and things can change. somewhere when parents are parenting they get in to this role and it become like a strict boss and worker type of things where boss just demands and orders. so being friendly and sharing minds would change things.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 3:57am
Often we feel pressure from our parents because, they have supported and raised us throughout our lives and we feel that we owe it to them to make them proud, give back to them and do what we can to help out someone who has done so much for us
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:27pm
They want you to be successful in your life so that way, they would feel proud and happy all parents do that, they care about you and want what is best for you
avi45
July 25th, 2016 9:27am
not to disappoint them, not to make them angry and finally not to let them down by me, this may come from respect towards them
Anonymous
February 13th, 2018 1:38am
It could be their expectations of you, which may be difficult for you to reach. That's all right, there isn't any need to follow their expectations, just try your best. :)
Anonymous
March 26th, 2018 4:14pm
Cause thet want to preassure you and think its away to make you strive for excellence. Try explaining to them before your physical limit is reached that you are Low On Energy
Anonymous
August 11th, 2020 5:54pm
In most cases parents just want what is best for you, however they do not always understand that the strong pressure to succeed is most definitely not good for you. It is completely normal to feel pressure from your family and parents even if it Is not explicitly them telling you ''you have to do this, you have to do that'' There is also the pressure you place on your self to make your parents happy that can be disguised as them putting pressure on you! The best way to avoid feeling overwhelmed by pressure is by being open and honest with how the pressure makes you feel to your parents