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Why do I always think my husband is cheating on me?

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Last Updated: 12/23/2020 at 8:46pm
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sillyseraph002
April 27th, 2018 10:14pm
fear of infidelity can be very difficult to cope with. sometimes the fear can be as bad as the experience itself. but there exist more than one possible answer to this question. since i dont know you personally, and i do not know your husband either, i can only speculate. it could be anxiety on your part, especially if you have been betrayed by several people in the past, whether romantically or not. history is said to be a good teacher, and when we are repeatedly betrayed, we tend to "learn" that the people we love will eventually either leave or prove not to be deserving of our trust. the other possibility of course, is that he is; maybe youve smelled a perfume or hes stayed out late a few more times this month than usual. maybe youve picked up a few cues, and youve become unable to stay in denial. either way, a good first step is to reach out to people who know you and whose opinions and perspectives you trust.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2018 2:37pm
Sometimes people are insecure about themselves and it's often insecurity and low self-esteem that causes these types of thoughts in the first place. When you don't feel good about yourself, it can cause you to feel like you're not good enough for him and that he might be wanting to find better, elsewhere. Most of the time these thoughts aren't true. Unless your husband has given you a reason to think he has/would cheat on you, then it might be a good idea to try and find ways to help you cope with your insecurities. Also, good communication is key, make sure to talk to him and ask him his thoughts/feelings about you thinking these things.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 3:44am
You are jealous, and it is a natural instinct when you are heads over heels in love with someone. You could also be afraid of him leaving you (maybe you have been cheated on in the past) and this makes you insecure and afraid.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 8:10pm
Your paranoia and lack of trust results in that,and not knowing where your husband is,if he goes misteriously for no reason outside,you might think he is cheating,but you should show trust for your partner,and have a healthy and understanding relationship,dont let your fear affect that.
Laks1
August 5th, 2016 9:33pm
If you always think your husband is cheating on you then you don't trust him enough to believe he can be faithful. Sometimes its also about how you see yourself. When you think you are not good enough or beautiful enough, it makes you think he is out there cheating on you with other people who are better
Livelovedream18
June 1st, 2018 11:58pm
You can always talk to me about it and maybe I'll be able to help you. But please don't do anything before you know the truth.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2016 12:39pm
Because you don't trust him, why would you marry someone you don't trust to begin with ? Maybe it's time to have a serious discussion with him or part away if you can't ? Separation isn't a failur.
Victoriaalexandraa
June 10th, 2016 10:51pm
I imagine your concerns are based on his actions, and if so you need to be open and discuss things with him. This is someone you loved to the point of committing yourself to them in marriage so you owe it to each other to have a chat if one person feels things are less than perfect.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 4:53am
He may deem traits that seem untrustworthy to you. Always confront the feelings that arise because it can cause problems later.
ladycat946
July 8th, 2016 1:22pm
Maybe it is because he has betrayed your trust in the past or someone cheated on you before and you are projecting yourself in that situation. Talk with him about your worries, so he will be able to understand you more and behave consequently about it.
mxnrcd
July 8th, 2016 8:11pm
Maybe it's because you don't love yourself enough and you know that there are better girls around, so you may be scared that he finds out and leaves you, but don't be, if he's with you, there is nothing to be scared about ;)
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2016 1:05am
You might have been through a time in your life where your confidence and your trust was taken for granted. You should seek help from a doctor or psychologist to help you work through those feelings. Maybe, if you believe that you can talk to your partner, share those feelings with him but explain that you are trying to work through it. It comes from your trust being shaken in the past and it can be overcome.
mintybunny
July 28th, 2016 10:03am
Think of any rational prof or reasoning behind why your husband may be cheating on you. If all of your reasoning is irrational, like you think he's cheating because you think you're ugly, it may be an issue of self esteem or a communication error.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 6:31am
is there anything that makes you sure of it? because sometines its onlt the thoughts that troubles us
allnaturalUnicorns70
September 1st, 2016 3:04pm
Let's assume he isn't for now (though that feeling might be a sign that something is off in your marriage), you might feel neglected, like he isn't giving you enough time and attention. You might be jealous of his otherwise innocent interactions with other women. Either way, it might be worth thinking about yourself, and then having a polite and non-accusatory conversation about your feelings with him. Good luck!
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 4:08am
When thinking about one particular thought all the time interferes with our daily well-being, it's time to have an honest, open-minded, calm conversation - at least with ourselves, if not with other involved parties. Why do you think you feel your husband is always cheating on you? Consider having an open-minded conversation with your husband. When you're in private, say something like, "Hey, can I talk to you? I'm confused about something and just want to talk about it with you. I feel like you're cheating on me when you [what he does or doesn't do]." Be open-minded to his response. Perhaps have a conversation about why those actions make you feel that way, consider talking to him about how he can help you feel more secure. The best way to find an answer is to ask someone. If you are suspect that he is cheating after this conversation, ask calmly, "Are you cheating on me?" and observe the response and how you feel about the response initialy.
ImaginaryPainting
October 26th, 2016 1:45pm
Do you think there is any communication problem or even lack of it between you two? Maybe you're not confident enough about yourself?
Brittany8013
May 6th, 2018 9:37pm
If you fear your spouse is being unfaithful, there could be many reasons. Has there been any reason for you to doubt them? Has he broken your trust before? You could be feeling insecure in the realtionship for many reasons- you could be afraid of losing him to someone, you may not trust him completely, etc.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 10:21pm
Sometimes, people are faced with situations that make them feel uncomfortable or worried. This may be one of those situations. You must truly love and care about your husband. Try having an open discussion with him. Don't forget to practice relaxation and breathing techniques!
Asame
July 26th, 2018 1:41pm
You have a clear lack of trust towards him, you should talk to him about it. Maybe life has showed you lot of situations in which your trust was tested and you were let down. Communication is the key for a succesful relationship.
wickedDahlia33
August 23rd, 2018 2:51am
Either deep down you know something doesn't feel quite right or you've been hurt before which makes it hard to trust again. Either way, both are valid responses, but the question is which one is it? When my husband cheated he acted guilty over small things. But when we were working through it I was still convinced he was cheating. It turns out he wasn't but the damage was done. Asking is the only way to truly find out. Then depending on his answer, you can either choose to believe him and work on the root cause of your distrust or investigate further.
Tanushree11
October 26th, 2018 9:44am
You might be having a past relationship in which your partner cheated you, that leads to person subconsciously worry that your present one is cheating you too. You can improve this by working on self love and confidence. When you doubt yourself, you might feel that you are not good enough, so that makes you think that your husband might be 'seeing someone better' another thing that can be done is to talk to him about it, and he'll clear any misunderstanding or doubt you have. Talking about the things that worry you or affects your relationship is the key.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2020 1:18pm
Maybe you have been through something similar with a past boyfriend, family member, friend, or colleague, so you are holding on to that and feeling like your husband might be unfaithful and out to hurt you. Another reason could be you are just feeling insecure in your relationship either of how strong the relationship is or of yourself and that's getting in the way of having mutual trust between the both of you. In any case, I think the best thing you can do is communicate. Communication is key in any relationship, so sit with your husband, no fighting, no shouting, and don't accuse him of anything just sit and say this is how I'm feeling can we talk about it and just go from there.
Greatlistener87
March 24th, 2016 1:45am
Trust is the key word in relationships. Have trust in yours and build up the trust as much as u can.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2016 9:51am
Sounds like trust issues. What's making you feel this way? Have you experienced any problems in your marriage? What's been happening to make you feel like he is untrustworthy?
serene63
April 14th, 2016 8:36pm
First you need to think have u been hurt before? Has you partner or any other partner hurt you before?or have you had the love and affection you want? For me its note about worrying about them leaving you so you worry that there doing everything behind you back just learn to trust unless you have evidence
strawberryMelon86
April 23rd, 2016 12:24am
You may think he is cheating on you if you are insecure about your self. You should have a talk with him to make sure your relationship is healthy
Anonymous
May 5th, 2016 9:41am
because he has history of cheating on you and that was a few week ago when he was out with his mates
LeahMargarita
May 11th, 2016 1:44am
Is there a reason why you think this? has he cheated on you in the past? Try your best to open up to him and ask if youre worried about anything!
Anonymous
May 15th, 2016 9:27am
Lack of trust or betrayed by others or even by your husband. It is a fear of ending up in certain situation.