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Why do I get so angry around my parents?

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Last Updated: 07/17/2018 at 2:40am
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shaylie64
June 29th, 2015 8:13pm
In my experience, I used to get angry around my mom because she was the one person I knew I could get angry at and would still love me. In other words, if I yelled at her and lost my temper, I knew she would still love me. I remember getting angry around or at her for things she didn't even do, like my friends being mean to me or feeling stressed about school. I never really realized that I took my anger out on her until I was about 20. I still sometimes catch myself taking my anger out on her, and do my best to stop it. What helped me was talking to her about how I felt comfortable taking my anger out on her because I knew she would always love me, and that if she ever felt like I was doing it, to tell me. She understood completely and said that she used to do the same thing with her dad. So next time you find yourself getting angry around your parents, try to acknowledge what you're feeling. Don't try to stop that feeling, just notice it. Then take a look at your surroundings and try to figure out what may have triggered that feeling. Try to do this every time you feel angry around your parents and see if you notice a pattern. This may help you to figure out what sets off this anger and maybe how to fix it.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 8:25am
Frustration, perhaps a feeling that they do not get you. Unresolved issues, unspoken,different beliefs,values and mores.
turkoizdog
April 17th, 2015 5:58am
Living with others isn't easy, and when it comes to parents, not only are they people you never picked, but they also have a level of control over you. As you grow up, you may find that you are a different person from them, and this is also when you learn that parents are people too -- with their own flaws and strengths, they are not perfect, nor are they monsters. These lessons are difficult to learn, especially simultaneously.
NumberEleven
July 18th, 2016 2:45pm
Perhaps you feel that they don't or won't understand you, or maybe you feel like you're not taken seriously.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2015 8:16pm
I get angry when I am around my parents becasuse I am a 30 year old who is going through puberty, duh!
Anonymous
January 28th, 2018 9:01pm
I feel the same way a lot. For me personally it is caused mainly by my mom because she is very controlling, always says I'm wrong and does not listen to my feelings. I have learned that when I feel like this it is best to take time to myself and avoid her. Going on a run is a nice way to do this because it gets me outside and away from her. Maybe next time you feel like this, step away and do something that allows you to escape, like exercising or art.
sunshineVision16
October 11th, 2016 12:56pm
It's usually easier to get mad at the ones who you know won't leave you. The love your parents feel to you goes beyond and fight or argument you may have and the closest people so you end up taking it out on them.
TheySay
September 7th, 2015 8:06pm
It's only Natural. Maybe they are different from you. You just gotta know they are you parents, who love you. Don't forget to show respect.
sociableCherry3551
April 23rd, 2018 5:15pm
One reason might be they ignore your feelings, at least that's what it is with me. I have asked repeatedly for the last several months, to go to counseling, but they always think they are too busy and that it is not a priority. We make time for what matters in life. Period. End of story.
Chevy81
July 14th, 2015 4:01am
Maybe, there's some issues that need tp be resolved between me and my parents. Try to find what is it. It could be a disappointment -our expectation to our parents haven't met yet. Communicate with our parents if it's possible.
RiseUp2020
May 15th, 2018 4:42pm
You have unresolved relationship issues with them. It may be from conflict from your childhood or even something that just happened recently. Talk with someone about it, and I'm sure you will find out sooner than you think whether you would like to know it or not
Anonymous
November 10th, 2015 6:47pm
Parents are those whom you trust like nobody else in this world and it is like they understand your anger too
Anonymous
July 17th, 2018 2:40am
Maybe you have some sort of unsolved problems with them try to find out why are you really angry by your actions at diferent moments when they are around