Why do I keep feel angry with my parents even though I know they scold me because they love me?

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BrentJoshua
July 18th, 2017 4:09pm
I can understand your anger. I used to get angry with my parents because I thought I knew what was right and could protect myself. I thought I was ready to take on whatever the world could throw at me, and in truth I really wasn't. My parents scolded my decisions not only because they loved me, but they wanted me to make better more informed decisions throughout my life.
yourvision
May 6th, 2015 9:57am
No one likes to enjoys being scolded, and no one likes to be told that they are wrong, or that they need to "fix something". However, we often tell others what they can do to better themselves - it is our opinion and we often forget that an opinion is just someone's personal preference on something. Parents are no exception, if your parents are tough on you, if your parents are rough, and your parents seem to always be trying to make you better its because they themselfs care enough to see you becoming a good person. The anger you feel is normal, understand that sometimes your parents may not understand exactly how you feel about their actions. People - and parents - often try to make others better and push others too far a times. The anger is from the lack of respect for who you are, and what you think. Often, parents forget that children need just as much respect as others, and respect for what *you* want is also important.
heycrysteezy
August 11th, 2015 7:17pm
Because when someone raises their voice, it triggers something in our brains to take it negatively. Even if it's out of love, it hurts when someone screams at us or scolds us, or tells us something negative about us.
tammy0hopeisreal
November 25th, 2015 12:48am
After a while, you get tired of your parents scolding you. No one likes to be told what to do all the time, that he/she is always wrong, etc. Another reason is because of different perspectives. Your parents may not understand the way you're doing things, and that can get frustrating.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2016 5:08pm
If it is tough love, sometimes in the heat of things, for example when you're being scolded, you might not be able to see it. It can be quite inevitable sometimes to become angry at someone for scolding you without seeing the bigger picture of why they are.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2015 10:57pm
Sometimes we get aggressive when the emotions kick in and lose all rationality. We may have some sort of belief that they are against that and your emotional reasoning kicks in instead of seeing and comprehending the truth.
SweetPorcelain
May 8th, 2015 2:27am
you're not alone. remind yourself that it's because of their love for you that they may scold you.
KingOfTheFranks
July 13th, 2015 10:51pm
It's difficult not to feel torn when you know that your parents give you 'tough love' to try and mould you into a better person. The reason you're still angry is because instinctively react to certain tones and body language. Try speaking to your parents about the way that they treat you. It might remind them to give you praise instead of criticism constantly :D
StayForWhatsLeftToBeGold
September 29th, 2015 10:39pm
Maybe it is because you feel they push you too hard? Try talking to them about how you feel. It is a great way to communicate.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 10:57pm
You may feel angry because you know they love you but it's something they did and you don't want accept it.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 12:11am
This is a normal reaction, no one likes getting in trouble, it's an unpleasant experience. As long as you understand why they're scolding you and that they love you, that's all that matters.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2015 5:41pm
Perhaps you have a streak of rebellion in you, that is a sign that you are an authoritative being and likely are independent, nothing to worry about just focus on the love part and accepting their scolding might be easier.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2015 12:28am
You probably feel angry with them because no one wants to be shouted at. Especially from their own parents. Even if they are doing it because the love you, they are being horrible to you. It is a natural way to feel :)
Ubby
February 2nd, 2016 8:16pm
It's normal to feel angry towards people if they're scolding you. You're probably right, they are looking out for your best interests, but it can be frustrating no matter what! Don't stress about it too much, because it's okay to be at odds with parents sometimes.
Lovernature24
July 12th, 2016 7:15am
That's because of teenage. In this age transformation occurs in body. We are no more child and not even considered as adults. So we keep feeling irritated and want to do what we think is right. Do respect your parents.
soothingBeauty
September 26th, 2016 8:05pm
Because regardless if you know why they scold you, your still they're child and you still have the frame of mind of, I wanna do what I want.