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Why do kids call their parents by their first name?

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Last Updated: 02/10/2020 at 7:57am
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March 11th, 2016 12:14pm
It's something new which is happening, we should ask the real reason of that form Sociologist, but i think its happening because parents don't teach their children how they should call them! so when child is growing up, will call her mother/father with the same names that hear form other(or themselves!), so i think if we don't want that our child call us with firstNames, we should teach them how they should call us!
March 19th, 2016 11:42am
cause kids cant understand the difference between a big guy or a kid so they jut call their first name
March 20th, 2016 4:47am
It could be because it's easier for them. Sometimes it's to insult them. Maybe it's for clarification in a situation with multiple parents of same gender.
March 23rd, 2016 5:21am
I think kids that call their parents by their first name probably think of them more as friends or equals than parents.
March 24th, 2016 5:43pm
Cause some kids don't have enough respect for their parents and they parents don't care what they kids call them so that's why the kids call their parents by their first name.
March 25th, 2016 10:45am
i actually dont know, i think it is because they want the parent to feel like a friend and not like a figure
March 31st, 2016 12:48am
When they are feeling fed up or confused or struggling with peer pressure calling patent by name is made to distance themselves from you
April 7th, 2016 7:13pm
is can be a parenting choice or some kids do it out of disrespect to there parents as if to tell there parents that they don't see them as parental figures it really depends on the person
April 8th, 2016 8:04pm
I believe that it's out of disrespect sometimes or they just don't realize it's disrespectful to call their parents by their first name.
April 13th, 2016 10:18pm
Sometimes it's mainly because, they did not grow up with their parents, they tend to feel uncomfortable
April 21st, 2016 2:21pm
Some do it because it feels better, like they don't feel comfortable with mom or dad. While some say it just to get on their nerves. It all depends on the child
April 30th, 2016 6:39pm
I only know of one person that calls his parents by their first names, and that is because he gets along with them very well and he respects them. However, I can see how for many parents it may be seen as a sign of disrespect and rebellion, a way to undermine their authority.
May 1st, 2016 7:10am
It must be cultural. Not all kids do that. Children learn by imitating what they see and hear from their role models. If they see, that calling their parents by their first names doesn't result to punishment, the more likely they will continue to do that.
May 1st, 2016 4:32pm
It's different in many cases. Sometimes it's the parenting style, the parent may want their child to learn their name first, so, it may work like that. Other times, it may be out of disrespect.
May 6th, 2016 9:56am
It's depends on their parents what they want to be called but calling dad or mom is the only the real emotions lies in it .so parents seems to friendly with their childrens so that they feel easy with their parents to share and learn
May 6th, 2016 4:41pm
Some parents raise their kids to call them by their first names. To them, it's normal and proper. They just do it because they were taught to
May 6th, 2016 5:51pm
Thats to do with their upbringing. They might have been allowed to do so by their parents. It isnt always disrespectful, it might be used as a jokey thing. But it all comes down to the upbringing of the kid.
May 13th, 2016 6:49am
Not all children call their parents by their first name, but some reasons could be: 1. they see them as their best friend, but there's still that mutual respect 2. their parents don't really want themselves to be called "mum" or "dad"
May 15th, 2016 4:55pm
It's the fact that the know the crave knowing things you don't want them to and they're letting you know that you're not hiding it from them anymore
May 15th, 2016 7:08pm
They might not feel as honored to call them by their first name. Or they just simply not comfortable to say the word mom or dad
May 18th, 2016 12:13am
Maybe because they don't feel like they can call them mom or dad. Or they don't feel like that is their mom or dad because of the way they are treated.
May 18th, 2016 12:45pm
Some kids call their parents by their first name because they might not be lucky enough to have a close relationship to their parents enough to refer to them as 'mom' or 'dad'.
May 19th, 2016 2:22am
I am not 100% sure as I am sure it is different for each person but I DO know that one of my close friends calls her parents by their first name at times because she was adopted and does not feel comfortable calling her "mom" sometimes. Especially when stress is heightened within the family at the time.
May 19th, 2016 5:26am
It's doesn't seem 'cool' anymore to call parents 'mum' or 'dad' people at school might tease you about it
May 21st, 2016 1:27pm
Sometimes children are taught at a young age that they can call their parents by any name (i.e. Mom, Dad, or first name.) if that isn't the case sometimes it's a way to show disrespect which generally occurs among teenagers. The last case I can think of is if the parent is a step parent. My friend's mom married a new man and she refers to him by his first name. There are many reasons, but I believe these are the main ones.
May 21st, 2016 10:26pm
This could be because they just learnt the name (when kids are young) and think it's funny. But often in plder kids this coiuld be because the kid doesn't feel close enough to his or her parents to call them by mom or dad.
February 10th, 2020 7:57am
Kids feel comfortable enough to be on a first name basis with their parents or view their parents as an individual instead of attached person. Older kids tend to call their parents by first names before younger kids due to the understanding of this concept. This can also be translated into a negative feeling of disrespect because of the lack of acknowledgement that a mother or father has given life to that individual. The interpretation of this is solely based on the discretion and attitude of said parents and their willingness or unwillingness to allow their kids to make this transition.