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Why do my parents expect so much from me in school, and life in general?

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Last Updated: 04/26/2022 at 10:39am
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SmilesToSmile
August 14th, 2018 12:24am
I think sometimes parents forget what it felt like to be younger, and their hopes for their children- to be successful, get good grades, have a successful happy life- come across as demands rather than hopes. In turn this stresses us as the children out, worrying about pleasing parents or guardians or fearing that we will disappoint them. I know several people who felt this pressure intensely,and it wasn't until I got older and spoke to parents as an adult that it was very clear. Parents often want their children to have a 'better' life than they had growing up, but this is often poorly communicated and misunderstood by both parties. It may be they simply want the best for you they can imagine, and it come across as expectations rather than aspirations.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2017 7:32am
if they expect a lot from you it means that they believe in you and that they want the best for you ,but if you feel like you cant do something that they expect just tell them and i am sure that they will understand.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2017 7:59am
Because they would like the best for you And they want you to be happy with a good job and have a nice family
reillyg
May 8th, 2018 1:23pm
parents always want the best for their children, they do not want to see their children slip up. you do not have to be perfect, but parents do want their children to be the best to their ability. it shows a family character and that you are going to do alot in life. even for yourself, you should want to be the best you can for you. in the end, hard work WILL pay off.
FluffyWhitePanda
March 16th, 2021 11:23pm
It is mostly for many children/teenagers. Most Parents care about you a lot. They want the best for you. It can be hard to see- like being strict. The biggest reason is that they want you to be better in school than themselves or don't want you to end like them or just want to make sure that you will have a good life. It is normal and you don't need to worry much. You could talk to them and say how you feel about it. At least many have parents like that because if you think about it they care a lot about you
wonderfulPillow7802
April 26th, 2022 10:39am
The main reason why parents have high expectations for you is that they want you to be successful and have a better life than theirs. You may not understand this when you're young, but once you become a parent, you will do the same for your children. However, if you feel your parents are pushing you way too hard, you need to talk to them about it. You should explain to them your goals and plans for your future and make sure they understand that you know what you're doing. I do hope my answer helps you in some way