Why do my parents fight so much?
Last Updated: 01/29/2019 at 8:14am
Jamie Rautenberg, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
I'm passionate about helping clients understand emotional experiences & mental chatter do not define who they are. I'm here to guide them through the fog back to themselves.
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Being parents are the hardest job in the world and parents fight too much because of stress and problems they encounter everyday. They dont show it to the outside world thats why they fight a lot when they are at home, it's the only time they can fight without people knowing.
There are deep issues that need to be addressed and resolved. Sometimes people would rather go at each others throats that talk about it.
They have lots of responsibilities as parents, they maybe exhausted from different issues maybe they need to go out for dinner alone or go to cinema something to break routine. But if they stopped fighting or just kept it, it's absolutely not your fault and you will be always their lovely kid
They probably have a lot of unresolved issues and don't know how to resolve it. They are adults they will have to be responsible for their actions and find a solution to their problems.
sometimes this happens to parents who lost the spark. maybe they just need a night out or if it is that bad, try to talk to them
Growing up, my parents had their fair share of fights. As a kid, their fights always scared me, but then when I started learning the psychology of relationships I understood that some couples fight, not because they hate each other, but because they love each other. Fighting is the only way they know how to connect with each other. Although fighting isn't a positive thing, its underlying passion can be used to build a strong relationship.
To be honest, I don't know. Most of the time, they don't either, but try to remember that whatever's going on, it's not your fault. A lot of the times, it's just too exhausted people colliding after two exhausting days, and I'm sorry that it may have resulted in a day going up in flames, but honestly, hopefully, it will blow over.
Parents, at the end of the day, are human. This means that they also experience the same anger and negative emotions as we do. Although this isn't the best way to express negative emotions, it is very common for most people to argue. This includes couples and people who love each other; those arguing may still love each other, but just struggle to express their anger or disagreement in positive ways.
Sometimes parents fight over small things. Some couples just have different views and it can cause conflict between the two.
Adults have a lot of issues, same as anyone. Relationships aren’t perfect, there’s tons of ups and downs. Sometimes people just don’t get along, your parents may see things differently but I’m sure they love each other.
In my experience, people will argue or fight when there is an expectation that has not been voiced or talked about between the two people. It is usually when one person has an expectation of the other person and when that expectation isn't met or understood by the other person, the disappointment starts in the first person and is usually not spoken about or addressed until it becomes a real argument. People argue over any number of reasons, but in my experience, it stems from an unknown expectation and disappointment that is left unchecked. In my experience there is usually a lot more that gets involved when two people have been fighting for awhile. It is also in my experience that the best way for the fighting to stop is for both people to be completely honest about their expectations of each other.
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