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Why do people have to leave even if they're family?

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Last Updated: 01/09/2017 at 1:23am
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
January 21st, 2015 10:49pm
Sometimes people leave for an escape something they can't accept. It gets scary, and it hurts, but they're most likely not leaving to hurt you. They're leaving to help themselves. And if they have to leave (its necessary to leave) they might feel its necessary, or someone else could be making the decisions for them. This question is really circumstantial.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2015 5:44pm
Life always gives you curve balls, some can be the best things and the worst decisions of our life but we have to take what life offers and bounce back.
peacefulSummer36
May 19th, 2015 2:33am
Sometimes it's best that they leave. It could be a toxic relationship even with a family member and it isn't healthy for those types of relationships to keep going. If it was a healthy relationship, it may just be that they have some issues to sort out, or it was just time for them to go. Not all of those cases can be explained.
lucidalice
May 26th, 2015 6:08pm
Because they're human beings as well. Sometimes they may not understand, but we can help them to. And if we're tried everything, sometimes it's best that they leave - to cut people out of your lives who are not supporting the way they should be.
Rabbit3ars
July 6th, 2015 4:59am
We all live our own lives, our own stories, with our own chapters. Someones next chapter may have you in it, some may not.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 3:00am
People need to leave when the relationship becomes too toxic for them. This is when the environment becomes more detrimental than it is loving and beneficial.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2015 12:26am
Sometimes family puts pressure on one with their expectations and feelings, it is hard to cope with all that.
Kitka
November 3rd, 2015 5:15pm
Family situations can be even more of a struggle than friendship situations because family is something a person is born into, there is an expectation of an invisible bond in place despite how you feel about a person. Friendship is different in that you make a conscious choice who you become friends with. I feel that if individuals in a family situation have conflict, there is sometimes an expectation that it can be brushed away without properly working through it, because no matter what "you're still family". But this isn't a healthy way to deal with conflict, even though you may be related, the relationship still requires effort from all people involved to work. Sometimes people do not realize this and don't put in the requisite effort and the situations can degrade, and families can fall apart in the same way a friendship can.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 11:38am
It's hard to deal with the loss or moving away of family. You'll miss them for a while especially since you share such a strong bond but if they're just moving away temporarily, there are still ways to keep in touch and keep the bond strong.. video chats , flying over to visit once in a while, sending them inspiring emails or postcards. It's often said that distance only strengthens the bond, despite the physical space separating you. Even though it's hard to bear somebody leaving at first, e,g due to college in an overseas country, or just trying to settle down elsewhere, a job offer etc, eventually you realize that you need to let people go and let them explore the world, instead of letting your love and fear weight them down. No love is lost when somebody leaves, if anything it is strengthened so don't worry that a move makes it seem as though you are losing somebody.
leahlistens2
February 15th, 2016 10:36pm
When some one leaves it isn't always due to a hardship. It may be to better themselves or the lives of those around them. If someone you care for leaves, try and think of their reasoning for going and consider what they may achieve from it. If you love them, be happy for their passion to keep moving.
Greatlistener87
July 18th, 2016 1:24am
People have the right to make their own choices in life. Right or wrong they will have to live with it for the rest of their lives. We will just to respect the choices that they have made ans hope for the best.
healingVoice43
January 9th, 2017 1:23am
Unfortunately sometimes family can be the one part in your life keeping you from your happiness. While this can be the hardest decision ever made, in some circumstances, leaving family behind is the only option, however should not be done without throughout consideration of all aspects and only if no other option is available.