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Why does my ex dislike me that much we have a child together, i want to be back with her, why won't she take me back?

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Last Updated: 06/15/2020 at 4:15pm
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LostintheAtlantic
March 3rd, 2015 6:37pm
Everyone has personal preferences, and it's so hard to guess how someone else feels about you. It's possible that she just doesn't feel like she used to. You can't force somebody to have feelings for you, but you can go to her and ask her how she's feeling.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2015 7:13pm
Nobody will ever be able to force love. Unfortunately, maybe it just wouldn't work. Forcing things will only end up hurting you, her, and your child.
PashT007
April 13th, 2015 5:16pm
Not to be harsh, but a child has nothing to do with the relationship between the two of you. Maybe she isn't interested anymore. or there is something that she isn't happy with. Furthermore, she may just not be ready for a relationship with anyone. Maybe it isn't you!
heavenPurple92
May 26th, 2015 9:37pm
Sadly I don't know the full situation. All I can say is some people do rash and hurtful things because maybe they have been hurt themselves. This however shouldn't be affecting your child. If she doesn't want you back don't push her. At the same time you need to stop thinking of the relationship and think more about your child. Ask her to see you're child. Tell her (at least for now) that you understand that she doesn't want a relationship and that you can handle that but you'd like to see you're child. Create a savings account for you're child and put whatever you can into it. Always remember you're child birthday's and any other events. In the end what matters the most right now is you're child. Don't let you're feelings for you're ex destroy you're bond with you're child. Good luck :)
OrangeSlices
July 7th, 2015 7:09pm
Maybe it was just not meant to be, life is funny that way, but you have a child to take care of together! So you will always be a part of his/her life!
PRUNE4BEE
August 24th, 2015 12:53pm
Sometimes people's interests change. Sometimes their initial reason to be with us was not genuine. Either way when our purpose with someone is fulfilled we must learn to love ourselves enough to move on. And i speak like this knowing very well what rejection feels like. It is sour. Yes. BUt the main concern should be the little one
TheIncredibleMrEgg
November 23rd, 2015 7:57am
She's not thinking about you or the child; she's thinking about how it all got to this point and is reminded of that each time she sees you. Perhaps focusing your attention on your child and showing your ex that her dislike for you won't change how you feel about being a parent. Maybe she'll appreciate that and will become less harsh towards you. Don't do it to rekindle an old flame, do it to be a good parent, for your child's sake. Seeing your parents have a healthy relationship is important, regardless of what type of relationship that is, so are good role models.
Greatlistener87
May 23rd, 2016 2:53am
This could be based on unresolved issues that you guys have that your ex is holding on too. Always good to address the matters then leaving it unspoken or buried.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2017 1:36pm
I don't believe that your ex really dislikes you . Your paths seperated for a reason and you should accept it and move on , and one day you will find the right person for you. You have to embrace your ex for giving you a child , love your child as much as possible and you will be fullfiled .
Anonymous
June 15th, 2020 4:15pm
She must have her personal reasons not to take you back, if so then her wishes should be respected. Disliking often comes from things that we are not compatible with. We can't be liked by every single person just as we can't be disliked by every person. With a child involved, both need to do what is best and healthy for the child. Is it right to bring up a child in an unhealthy relationship, or better the child be with one parent and have a more healthier upbringing. From my personal experience I chose my child over my partner.