Why does my family get so aggravated when I fail at one thing?
Last Updated: 09/09/2019 at 4:44pm
Lauren Abasheva, LMHC
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Families have a way of pressuring us even if we do not realize it. We mostly try to avoid doing stuff that makes our family look bad or let them down. Some families can be really supportive whereas some families can be very hard to live with. When we fail something, our family thinks that we are useless and that we can do nothing right and the only way to show them that they're wrong is to try again till you succeed and show them that you are not a failure and that you can have your way if you really try hard and put your heart into it.
Some families expect perfection from their family members and when they hear something bad, such as failing at something, they tend to get mad because it's not to their expectations. But don't worry, it's more their fault than yours.
Some people have high expectations of others, and when things don't go their way they get frustrated. However, if you have done your best than that is all that matters. Failure is just redirection to something bigger and greater.
they probably worry you a lot and they want you to see yourself as failure but maybe i think they want best things out of you and they don't want others to see that you are a failure but at least you are trying and you can still do something in life you can at least try again and not to fail and that will make them happy i guess.
They feel aggravated because they want you to succeed. They might feel though because you fail you're limiting your yourself and the options won't be as open to you. All parents want to see their children do better than them.
expectations...it kills it .. we all want perfect family perfect ,perfect hubby with a six pack abs ,a beautiful lady with perfect skin tone,perfect kids who excel in everything.there we end up being depressed ,sad .a family needs to understands the what are ones growth factor what are my flaws..well thats what family is for
It can be very difficult dealing with family disappointments. Every family wants everyone to do well and succeed but occaisionally it takes longer to succeed and this is when families or individuals get fustrated. I understand that you feel frustrated too and that its difficult when family members get annoyed. They do care for you and want the best for you and it sounds like your feeling very fustrated too. It. Might be best to take some time out and workout what you want to do or happen next.
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