Why doesn't my mom ever understand what I'm trying to tell her? I talk to her, and she misinterprets everything I say and doesn't want to hear me out about it.
Last Updated: 01/08/2019 at 1:04am
Stacey Kiger, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My belief is that therapy is not about giving advice, but joining you on your journey
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The rough thing about others is that they'll only see what they want to see. You could be the most fluent, magnificent speaker and your mom still might filter things the way she sees. It's not a reflection on you, it just means there are some things she might not be able to interpret. With patience and respectfulness, there may be a time when she does.
Next time you talk to her, after you've stated your concern. Try ending your statement with this question "Mom, what did YOU hear me say in that sentence?" I hope this can open a dialogue where you can both actively listen. Namaste! - Brandi :)
Try to convince her to listen to you before she interupts. You can also try writing her a letter or an e-mail. In this way, she will read everything you sometimes cannot say to her on her face and process it.
Our parents have their own view on our life and problems. They imagined our bright future from our childhood and they planned a great life for us on their mind.And when we do smth that doesn't fit their plan it seems to them we are losing the chance if being happy .I argue with ith my mom on different topics but in the end I feel guilty as I remember that she is one of the few people in this world who really cares for me.So be careful when arguing and blaming your mom.she has only good intentions.
Before you start a conversation tell her that you would like to ask her to completely hear you out 1st before making a judgement or statement.
Are you listening to what you are saying? Say something you want to say to her to yourself first. Analyze her response and then decide on whether or what to say.
Sometimes parents are good at listening and sometimes they' aren't. It's likely that she wants to be able to help you and thinks she knows best. Somtimes, parents can make the mistake of thinking they know exactly what you're going through because you're their kid. It's weird for parents when their kids have problems that are complex and different from their own. I know the whole thing is that communication is hard with her, but try expressing how her not listening and jumping in impacts you. As weird as it sounds, you could even send her an email or a letter (I've done it before, and it tends to work). Good luck
Sometimes people aren't that great at listening, they try their best to understand and even if they don't they want to make it seem like they do.
I think that is a mom thing. They have selective hearing like most teenagers. What I would do is bring this up sit her down one day and tell her how you feel. If you think she isn't listening tell her that if you want something etc just sit down with her so 100% of her attention is on you
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