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I payed a harmless telephone prank almost a month ago, friend still won't talk to me. Should I give up on them?

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Last Updated: 02/22/2021 at 8:29pm
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Anonymous
November 9th, 2019 9:00am
i have this best friend and once we had a horrible fight, and now when I look back at the reason I can't help but smile over it. I just put a pen in her braid . you tell me was it that bad, that she must not talk to me for whole 2 months, despite the fact that we had adjacent seats in the classroom? Obviously NO!! But it was later that I figured out that she forgave me long back and was just hesitant to admit that she made a huge mess out of -practically- nothing! I think that there can be two cases for you too, first:either your friend is hesitant or embarrassed, and as a friend you shouldn't give up on bothering her/him or second: the friend is taking this incident as a shield (probably for blame-shifting : a natural human tendency) , and is frustrated about something else (I have this feeling that it is probably not related to you :P) In a nutshell, don't give up until you have hope, or until you get a reason/ a closure.
positiveCandy18
March 5th, 2018 9:42am
I don't think you should . The person may still be hurting but if you friendship was strong enough he/she will forgive you eventually but if you give, up the probability of him/her reaching out is very little
prillup
December 3rd, 2018 11:05pm
Try apologizing, but sometimes people do need their space. I wouldn't give up, but if my friend is asking for time apart, I would respect that in order to aid. Pushing too much can be a lot for someone to take in. Although something may be harmless to you, it could be more of an issue for your friend. Being extra kind and careful around them may aid as well. If this is someone important, giving up isn't always the good thing to do. I hope this helps and feel free to reach out if it does not! :)
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2019 10:17pm
It seems like it may not have been harmless to them. It could be that you see it that way but it actually had a bigger effect on them than you expected. I think, before giving up on a friend, it might be helpful to give some other things a try, like opening the lines of communication to talk about what happened or even considering apologizing to them. Maybe if you find out why they reacted that way it might help you to mend the relationship. If you tried your best to talk about it or apologize, it might be time to move on and try to accept it. But only you can decide what's right.
bestHug7663
February 22nd, 2021 8:29pm
I don’t think giving up on them would be the right decision. I would try to talk to them at school or with another friend and just explain that you were just joking and did not mean to upset them. I can understand when friends get upset for a little joke or prank but the best thing to do is to just try and talk to him or her and explain yourself the best you can. I would even try to apologize and say sorry for the prank that you played and maybe even tell them that you know that it upset them and you won’t do it again.