My boyfriend told me that he cheated on his ex. I want to trust him that he will not do that to me. Any advice?
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Anonymous
December 28th, 2020 1:35pm
Trust is a two way thing! If he is not giving you a reason not to trust him then maybe the reason he cheated was because his relationship with his ex was not working! He is with you now give him the opportunity to earn your trust. On a positive note he has told you that he cheated this would indicate trust from his side in the relationship as he has been honest with you about this. Focus on the positives in your relationship, remember to communicate and trust will come along with honestly and a strong connection between you both
Anonymous
January 18th, 2021 8:26am
youll never truly be happy unless you trust him. so if you keep having reoccurring feelings that he will cheat on you, youll always be unhappy. either break up with him if you dont trust him, or trust him. it's not healthy to keep having these feelings towards him. but just know, if hes able to do it to someone else, he can do it to you as well. Take the time out of your day to write out the pros and cons on why you like him and if you see your future with him. If you constantly keep having feelings that you don't trust him when you go out, then dont bother staying with him.
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