What do you believe are the most important elements of the forgiveness process?
Last Updated: 08/31/2020 at 3:57am
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The process of forgiveness begins with forgiving yourself first secondly forgiving those that happened hurt along the way and for them to the future please forgive you as well learning to talk to each other and having a good communication is a great start for a better relationship
1. Reaching the understanding that forgiveness does not equal a free pass. It is not cosigning the behavior. It means setting the other person free so you can also be free. 2. Communicate of your true emotions surrounding the issue either with the person or with an objective third party/trusted confidant. A person must be wiling to voice their opinions and thoughts openly. That leads to healing. 3. Reorganization or redefinition of boundaries regarding the individual.
I believe it's a deep knowledge that everyone makes mistakes. If I'm aware and really understand it, I can forgive, because I know we all need forgiveness. Not only to give, but to receive too.
Personally, the first step to forgiveness is recognizing and accepting that whatever happened was in the past and that it can not be changed. Forgiveness is about moving forward and building off the past for a better future. I also can confidently say that most people have asked or wished for forgiveness at some point in their lives. Though the circumstances can be different, the feelings that go alongside it are much of the same. Forgiveness gives all members involved a somewhat new start that is often best for all of the parties involved. Everyone makes mistakes, so forgiving ourselves and others is part of the process of getting better.
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