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Why can't I tell myself it's not my fault?

4 Answers
Last Updated: 06/27/2017 at 12:13am
1 Tip to Feel Better
United Kingdom
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Catherine Demirdogucu, Level 4 Diploma with Merit. CBT and Mindfulness Practitioner.


It takes courage and strength to seek help. My desire is to help my clients express themselves and grow in confidence, my support is offered in a nonjudgmental manner.

Top Rated Answers
February 2nd, 2015 3:55am
Because you've been condition to believe it is your fault. Blaming yourself gives you the illusion of control. You can punish yourself rather than accept that events were out of your control. Unfortunately, punishing yourself will not help you move forward. Blaming yourself will imprison you. Loving yourself will set you free.
February 17th, 2015 7:03pm
Most importantly, think of things in your defense, or things that help you to think that it was not your fault, such as "I was at work, so it couldn't have been me" or "I wasn't in town, so that couldn't have been my fault" and others like it. But if that doesn't help, talk to a listener on 7Cups, they help :)
September 22nd, 2015 6:58pm
Because I cannot control people, places, and situations, but I can control my reaction. Things happen for me, not to me. I am not a victim of situations that I created that I wish were not my fault.
June 27th, 2017 12:13am
Sometimes in life, we take things personally and we feel the need to fix everything. That being said when a problem or some sort of issue arises, our natural instinct is to feel as it is our fault. It is important to be able to know how to solve and move on from the situation rather than worrying that it was your fault.