Why the man I love hurts me so bad?
Last Updated: 09/12/2018 at 12:25pm
Kristin Noyes, MSW, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Depression and anxiety can feel overwhelming even on the best of days. I believe in helping clients understand these disorders and help them to reduce and manage symptoms.
Top Rated Answers
Perhaps because he does not love you to the same extent that you love him. Logically we understand that you can not force someone to love you, however emotionally we believe that if we love someone enough, they will and should love us back. In this case, you may need some time to process and grieve that this man does not love you back at this moment of time. The next step would be to consider what you should do in such a situation.
Another thought is that this man is not perfect, just like anyone else. This is where i think your intuition comes to play to make a judgement. Whatever the reason behind is, it is your judgment call. If you think this does not help you in anyways at this stage, you should choose to end the relationship. Most importantly, i think you should talk about this to the man. If neither of ending nor talking are possible, this may be a good opportunity to forgive the person so that you can leave the hard feelings behind and move on with greater things in your life.
Related Questions: Why the man I love hurts me so bad?
I want to forgive people. I am not sure where do I start to doing this?I have had an abusive past. I believe I'm too forgiving because of it. How do I healthily maintain boundaries with my past abusers(still in my life) and in general?I have so many regrets. How can I try to forget them?I can't bring myself to forgive a friend. What can I do?I just wanna learn to forgive myself and them and move on. Is this possible-if so how do I begin?Should complete "forgiveness" be extended to people who refuse to admit they did something wrong? Or show no remorse even though you've made it clear they mistreated you? How do I approach a friend who is mad at me without knowing why they are mad?I cheated on my boyfriend while we were on holiday, I was drunk I don’t even remember it. We live together, should I tell him? I won’t do it ever again. How do I forgive an affair when he won't admit it or talk about it?How do I forgive myself for all the mistakes I have made?