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I hurt so much mentally, it's starting to disrupt my life. How can I fix this?

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Last Updated: 12/29/2020 at 5:13pm
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September 11th, 2020 1:58pm
@olliegrace I'm sorry to hear that you are having a rough time. I think the answer you're looking for is more complex than just a straightforward answer. What has helped me is a combination of different things: Step 1) Talk to a professional - A professional can help guide you towards the right path. I would suggest talking to a psychiatrist but if you don't have one you can talk to your family doctor. Your doctor can help you find a psychiatrist.  Step 2) Start counselling/ start therapy- Talk therapy can go a long way. Sometimes, all people need is to talk to someone and/or do some therapy exercises. If you can't afford counselling services, you can ask a listener to be a long term listener for you here on 7 Cups. Obviously, a professional counselor has more to offer but 7 Cups is somewhere to start.  Step 3) Track your mood and journal - It is important to track your mood so you can look back and see how your feeling throughout the week. Does your mood change or stay the same? Journalling can help you understand yourself better. You can start by asking these questions: What emotions do you have today? If there are any negative emotions, what has triggered them today?  Step 4) Keep yourself busy - Distractions can be used when you are feeling very low or having bad thoughts. You can do a hobby, or something as simple as eating your favourite food and watching TV.  Step 5) Seek help if the thoughts get worse - There are many crisis lines you can call. This can be used if you are struggling with suicidal thoughts or any bad thoughts.  Step 6) Set short term goals - This is very important because I know for a fact that depression makes you stay in bed all day everyday. By making short term goals, you can work towards something. It can be something as simple as making the bed or taking a shower, or you can do bigger goals like finishing a painting or starting school. I would suggest to start small because it is easy to get overwhelmed.  HOW TO MAKE SMART GOALS Specific - Is this goal general or specific? Try to make your goal as detailed and specific as possible. Measurable - Is this goal better measured by a yes or no (can I climb this mountain, yes) or is there a measurement involved (such as a goal of 80% on a test). Both of these options are good. Attainable and reasonable - Can this goal be achieved or are the standards too high? Timely - Is there a time that you want this to be completed by? I hope this helps. If you want to contact me go to my profile , pm me and let me know it's you xoxo, sel
September 12th, 2020 7:52pm
Hey love, I can imagine how you must be feeling. Mental health problems can be exhausting especially in the current pandemic it is quite difficult to extract yourself from the solemnness we are surrounded with. Our brains are complex and there never is a quick fix to them. That however, doesn't mean that it is the end of the world. You're allowed to speak to a therapist about your problems or one of the listeners here, we can devise strategies and plans to confront the problems you're facing and find alternatives. People have different healthy outlets to preoccupy their mind. Sometimes we have repressed feelings and emotions that need to be processed and felt - cried about until we can finally let it go and feel a bit better. I know its rough right now, love, but I hope that each new day is kinder and you have blessed days coming
December 29th, 2020 5:13pm
First step would be to talk about it. Don't suffer in silence. Whoever you feel comfortable with, open up little by little. You'll notice it gets easier. The longer you keep it sealed in you, the harder it gets. Try it. If you feel you need more help, do consider therapy. Initially you may feel scared, but it's not as scary as it is your head. If you're not comfortable with face to face session, try online sessions, they are cheaper and can be equally helpful. Your mental health is as important as your physical health. Don't ignore it, it will get better. Take care.