Making peace with your past is the first step.
Nobody walks forward looking back. Nobody walks lighter, carrying the weight of the past on their backs.
Nobody walks happy, with the pain of what is gone, aching in the chest.
Wake up to reality. What passed, passed! It is no longer there.
The only place where the past can still be present is within you. In your mind, I live in your thoughts.
The reality calls you to the truth that what happened is behind you. It is when we insist on the opposite, wanting to maintain a situation that has already been, not accepting things the way they happened, wanting to change what is already accomplished, that we end up suffering. This pain is the voice of life, trying to wake us up.
Everything happened in the best way that could happen: in other words, the way it was. If the past could have been better, it would have been.
Of course, in the face of many situations we have the desire that they would be different from what they were. But, if we analyze everything as it happened, without letting our emotional speak louder, we will see that we acted as we could, that each one of us involved did everything within the conditions we had, that if things did not go as we wanted, they went as we could to be.
To insist otherwise is like hitting a wall. We can help shape the future with our attitudes in the present, but as for the past, the only thing we can change is the way we see it.
Enough looking back with suffering. Good situations should be remembered fondly. The bad ones with wisdom.
You don't have to forget your past. You must come to terms with your past.
First accepting that you can no longer change it.
Second, accepting the limits that each one had at that time: forgiving yourself and others.
Third, realizing that everything happened because of your need for experience: you are neither a victim nor an executioner.
Fourth, being grateful for all that this experience can teach you.
Fifth, leaving the past where it should be: behind!
Open your eyes: there is an infinite world of possibilities ahead. Your past is not your definition, it is your reference for better attitudes and experiences.
Making peace with your past is the first step towards better hikes. So, you never hate the experiences that helped shape what you are.
A look of wisdom in the face of everything you've been through can be the miracle you need so badly in your life and the key to better experiences!
So accept the reality that everything was as it could be. Believe that starting today everything can be better, as long as you are better with yourself. Probably what you wanted would not bring the happiness you thought, but it did bring the learning you needed.
When we understand that we need to live certain experiences out of necessity, we understand that there were no culprits, but characters from an important situation for everyone. Those who could not do better one day will learn. Compassion for each one is an attitude of wisdom, of those who can see an event through the eyes of the heart.
Leave your past in its place. Allow it to pass. He's gone outside, now he needs to leave inside you. Let go of that weight, let go of that hurt, shake off the dust.
LOOK FORWARD: a new and beautiful path presents itself before you.